my ds has SEN but sometimes im genuinely ashamed

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of his behaviour! i do and i feel terrible ds is 6 and has suspected asd adhd and dyspraxia, but can easily pass for NT with friends/aquaintances iyswim. some behaviour he can control some he can't , but being his mum I get the brunt of his meltdowns I already have an 8 year old is aspergers type asd, so live is far from easy but elder ds is fairly placid. But today like many other days he went running around the playground like a whirlwind was annoyed that it took 10 mins to get out the playground and then slapping hitting shouting at me as he wasn't pleased at me telling him off, its so embarrassing ive said to him before does he see any other kids doing that cuz I don't, I can feel the judgement and sometimes I feel ashamed. am I the only SEN mum who feels like this? i feel like it's an important topic as society shames mothers for voicing these ideas and SEN mothers are even more marginalized, I feel terrible but need to offload its so isolating.

god the parents and kids can be a nightmare. tbf there seems to be some decent parents/kids in my son's school but some exceptions. But do the parents not scold there children when they are so rude?

In life I always try (not 100% sucessfully) not to judge as you really don't know what twists and turns might bring you to a different place.

I think that there's just a lot of people who have never really had a wide experience. Rich and poor.

Saying that, the woman who made my life misery had a grown up Autistic brother. So you would have thought she'd know better! That I'll never work out.

Only answer I can think is that she just had her own very deep insecurities. Why else would you go out of your way to make up shit about someone else's child. It was all about her not my ds. Not a bad person just in a bad place. Try to hold that close when people are judging you.

No you are not alone there have been times I’ve been embarasssd by my child’s meltdowns in front of strangers and sometimes family! My 18-year old son at least uses a wheelchair and cannot speak more than three words so at least that’s a big clue. His pediatrician back in the day responded to my complaints of him pushing my buttons “Just because he has special needs doesn’t mean he can’t be like other children and drive his primary caregiver crazy!” Lol. Most people out there understand the extra challenges his father and I have and have been treated with compassion and generosity 95% of the time but we do encounter sheer ignorance but considering this has been my circus for 18-years I’ve developed a thick skin. Good luck!!