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Original poster

Not to quit in my first trimester

233 replies

Bexterfish · 13/11/2018 07:57

Please don't slam me. I'm 7 weeks pregnant. I've known for a couple of weeks. Once a week I do trampolining, not on a kids one in the garden I mean proper gymnastic style with a coach. Aibu to keep it up until I get a bump which will alter my balance, so probably about Christmas when I'm 12ish weeks. It's the only exercise I do, I'm not doing any stomach landings and I'm competition level so I know what I'm doing and therefore unlikely to have serious fall (there's always a risk). My coach doent know because He's got a big mouth and would tell everyone but I'm taking it easy but I'm just not ready to give up yet plus quiting will 'out' me. I did my last competition a couple of weeks ago and won't be entering anymore. Guidelines say you shouldn't do things that risk a fall but I think I'm more likely to fall over my shoe laces. Is there anything dangerous about jumping? I feel totally fine when I do it, in fact I feel more well then than the rest of the day. Aibu?

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Tinty · 14/11/2018 13:50

For all those people who say is 'obviously' risky I don't see that. I've never seen anyone get seriously injured, whilst I obviously know of people who have is actually pretty rare

Less people get seriously injured, plenty of people get badly injured including 2 girls my DD is friends with in two different trampolining schools. One went over the side of the trampoline and broke her leg in 2 places and broke her pelvis. The other snapped her arm so badly the bone broke through the skin and she has had to have 2 operations to fix it so far.

But hey you keep convincing yourself trampolining is a completely safe activity.

Do you have people who stand around the side to catch you if you fall?

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Bexterfish · 14/11/2018 13:54

I'm not saying its totally safe, of course you could break a limb but breaking your arm because your fall off is different to killing your child by just bouncing up and down.

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wrenika · 14/11/2018 14:16

I think it boils down to your own assessment of the risk. If I was to trampoline...I'd be highly likely to hurt myself, but it it's something you're skilled at then you're probably a lot safer and the exercise is good. Horse riding was my hobby and I know plenty people who keep riding when pregnant because they make an assessment of the risk and their capability. Some ride until their belly physically gets in the way.

Santasstuffedsack · 14/11/2018 15:00

My mind boggles with the more you say, OP.

You’re not answering ANY questions which speaks volumes.

Just bloody go trampolining and keep your fingers crossed that all stays well for everyone involved.

Apparently your answer is the right answer. Hmm I’m out of here.

AnotherOriginalUsername · 14/11/2018 15:14

Bexterfish I hope you don't mind me asking, but is this the same pregnancy from August and your dates are out, or did you sadly lose the previous pregnancy?

TheOrigBrave · 14/11/2018 15:21

I asked the OP that up thread, but she didn't reply.

Something isn't quite adding up, but of course I wish the best for the OP.

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Bexterfish · 14/11/2018 15:25

What questions do your want answered? I think I've adhered all of them?

Oh apart from the one about people catching me. We have crash mats and a spotter on each side.

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Bexterfish · 14/11/2018 15:27

No i was trying to get pregnant in August, I wasn't sure if I was pregnant at the time (I thought/ hoped I was but wasn't) and I thought that was irrelevant detail to a conversation about postpartum contraception at the time.

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Tinty · 14/11/2018 15:33

We have crash mats and a spotter on each side.

This is the problem that you are ignoring OP. If you have a spotter and you misjudged and fall off the trampoline, the spotters job is to try to 'catch' you, so you don't injure yourself. In doing this the spotter can get injured and your British Gymnastics Insurance will not cover them because you are pregnant.

Your spotter could be injured and need time off of work. Who is going to pay for that? This is what the insurance that you won't have is for.

sadsadsady · 14/11/2018 15:35

So what do you have to say about the NHS advise being NOT to @Bexterfish ?

Huggybear16 · 14/11/2018 15:53

You're risking the health of you and your child to continue your hobby?

You can't be that self centred?

It's your responsibility as a parent to look after your baby. There's plenty of other ways to exercise, don't be so bloody selfish.

Huggybear16 · 14/11/2018 16:09

Also, choosing to follow the advice of a trampoline coach over the advice of the NHS regarding the health and safety of your baby is so irresponsible.

Agree with PP, the stakes are too high.

And even though you don't have a noticeable bump, and you don't "feel" pregnant, you ARE pregnant. Put your child's needs above your own on this one, the only thing you have to lose is jumping up and down. It's a no brainer.

ChristmasAccountant · 14/11/2018 16:16

Absolutely would not and have been advised by midwife this pregnancy not to.
I am not a professional or training or anything but my son had a trampolining party and I asked the question whether I could or not. A definite no.

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Bexterfish · 14/11/2018 16:22

"All you have to loose is jumping up and down"

Clearly you don't have anything passions in life. I will loose: my exercise, skills I've worked for years to gain, friends i only see during club, the only time i spend away from my toddler, pretty much the only thing I do for myself, something I envoy and am passionate about, so no to me is not just jumping up and down it's chunk of my life which i know i will have to give up in a few weeks time but a few more weeks of 'selfishness' is hardly smoking 40 a day and drinking a bottle of wine when the trial is low and my coach is happy for my to continue. (And fyi it would be the club insurance that would need to cover an incident with someone else and if my coach is and content then that's her liability not mine)

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TrippingTheVelvet · 14/11/2018 16:49

I, I, I, I, I. It's clear you don't really give a shit and are purposefully taking the advice of a non medic because it suits rather than asking a midwife or GP because you know yourself what they'll say. Total selfishness.

Motoko · 14/11/2018 16:52

You could lose your unborn baby.

Can't believe you're putting yourself before the baby.

Mia1415 · 14/11/2018 17:00

OP - you do what you feel is best for you and your body and your baby.

I didn't even know I was pregnant until 5 months and was doing all sorts. I moved house at 8 months (on my own) and was lifting boxes, climbing ladders and all sorts.

Life is all about balancing risk and its up to each individual to make that decision. If I was to start trampolining pregnant it would be a massive risk and therefore of course I wouldn't do it. However if you are continuing with a sport you know well and you are aware of your own body and sensible the risk is significantly smaller.

TheSubtleKnifeAndFork · 14/11/2018 17:00

I definitely wouldn't take the risk myself. I'd just never forgive myself if something happened. I've had a miscarriage and I think that has made me much more wary and aware of how fragile early pregnancy is and how quickly a baby can be lost. If it was me I'd follow the NHS guidance, personally.

Bigonesmallone3 · 14/11/2018 17:08

I'm not sure why u asked for advice, from ur replies it looks as tho it's something ur unwilling to give up..
Hopefully it works out for u..

Huggybear16 · 14/11/2018 17:13

So you've just proved our point:

  1. my exercise
  2. skills I've worked for years to gain
  3. friends I only see during club
  4. the only time I spend away from my toddler
  5. the only thing I do for myself
  6. something I enjoy

You are selfish. But, to give you a solution to your "problems"

  1. There are other forms of exercise
  2. Your skills won't disappear in a few months
  3. Real friends will see you somewhere else
4/5/6 Spend the jumping time doing something else

And I am passionate about plenty in my life, I just don't take risks with my son's life. Good luck to your kids, because their mum certainly won't be prioritising their needs.

ButchyRestingFace · 14/11/2018 17:33

I'm not really asking for medical advice more interested in what others would do really.

No probs. Smile

NOT IN A MILLION YEARS.

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Bexterfish · 14/11/2018 17:36

Oh fuck u huggybear. My dd is my life, I do everything for her. I take hour a week for myself. An hour I most likely won't have when I've got 2 kids.

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TrippingTheVelvet · 14/11/2018 17:45

Whilst blunt, Huggy makes a fair point -she's just braver than everyone else who's thinking it but wouldn't say it-. At this point you do have 2 kids, one's just unborn. You don't want to prioritise what's best for their well-being over yours. Throwing out that other people are also selfish pricks when they're pregnant doesn't make it any better.

Huggybear16 · 14/11/2018 17:45

Take an hour a week doing something that's not risky in pregnancy then. It's not difficult

crispysausagerolls · 14/11/2018 17:47

Take an hour a week doing something that's not risky in pregnancy then. It's not difficult

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