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Not to quit in my first trimester

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Bexterfish · 13/11/2018 07:57

Please don't slam me. I'm 7 weeks pregnant. I've known for a couple of weeks. Once a week I do trampolining, not on a kids one in the garden I mean proper gymnastic style with a coach. Aibu to keep it up until I get a bump which will alter my balance, so probably about Christmas when I'm 12ish weeks. It's the only exercise I do, I'm not doing any stomach landings and I'm competition level so I know what I'm doing and therefore unlikely to have serious fall (there's always a risk). My coach doent know because He's got a big mouth and would tell everyone but I'm taking it easy but I'm just not ready to give up yet plus quiting will 'out' me. I did my last competition a couple of weeks ago and won't be entering anymore. Guidelines say you shouldn't do things that risk a fall but I think I'm more likely to fall over my shoe laces. Is there anything dangerous about jumping? I feel totally fine when I do it, in fact I feel more well then than the rest of the day. Aibu?

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TheOrigBrave · 13/11/2018 13:01

OP, I'm a bit confused. According to a previous thread, you were pregnant at the end of Aug.
You say you are 7 weeks now.

Things don't quite add up. It may be that you lost that pregnancy, and if so I am extremely sorry. Surely you'd be taking every single precaution with this new one then.

Or you weren't pregnant then and you are now, or you were then and aren't now. I don't know....but I'm not really following.

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Bexterfish · 13/11/2018 13:02

Lochness... so you all tell me to take professional advice and when I get it you tell me not too as nd that ill kill my baby .. Thanks

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Aquilla · 13/11/2018 13:20

I had a bit of a fetus wobble at 8 weeks, bleeding etc. Thankfully, scan showed baby was fine but I remember my GP telling me to avoid sex and trampolining (in general jumpy activities) until after the 12 week point.

dogwoofbark · 13/11/2018 13:25

This is the NHS advice:

Those that are too vigorous (for example, high impact aerobics, trampolining) or risky (for example, contact sports and activities that may result in you losing your balance or falling) should definitely be avoided.

This is the British gymnastics advice: (pregnancy is listed first.)

The following are examples of medical conditions where expert advice is to be sought prior to participation in gymnastics:Pregnancy

All of the other things that are at the top of the google list tell you to either stop or seek medical advice. I can't believe you can't be arsed to take the time to speak to a doctor with something so important.

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Bexterfish · 13/11/2018 14:27

Yeah I just can't be arsed I mean it's only an unborn child Hmm

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Cherries101 · 13/11/2018 14:32

If you are healthy (low-normal BMI, no blood pressure or immune problems) and this is an exercise you’ve always done then there’s no harm to keep going. The first trimester miscarriage risk rises when an unfit person starts up a new activity during pregnancy — it’s why a lot of proper mums to be yoga groups won’t accept beginners until the 2nd or 3rd trimesters (if at all).

youknowyourself · 13/11/2018 14:39

Yeah I just can't be arsed I mean it's only an unborn child

You asked. You can't get sarky when you don't like the answer. You've gone full circle now, OP. Glad you are finally taking your baby into consideration.

strawberrisc · 13/11/2018 14:55

Can't you put off bouncing around for 9 months?

SinkGirl · 13/11/2018 16:02

You really cannot compare trampolining to some of the other sports mentioned here which are risky if you have a bad fall or contact for the abdomen, but in trampolining every bounce puts huge strain on your pelvis and the joints in your lower body. Relaxin levels rise when you ovulate and then continue to rise through the first trimester - it’s not just a late pregnancy problem. It could contribute to a severe ankle, leg or pelvic injury that may prevent you from ever trampolining again.

The placenta is already forming - it may not take over until the second trimester but you can still experience a subchorionic haemorrhage in the first trimester www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/pregnancy-health/complications/subchorionic-bleeding.aspx

NHS don’t list many things that are absolutely not to be done during pregnancy - there are very good reasons for this.

Most miscarriages are no known cause - if you lost the baby you could never know if you might have caused it.

I’m really shocked that your coach has said it’s okay to continue. Personally I’d get a second opinion on that, and be sure that your coach has checked their insurance.

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 13/11/2018 16:03

All right, people, lay off the OP. It is utterly despicable to browbeat her and say that she doesn't have her baby's best interests at heart. Christ on a bike, this is supposed to be a website supporting women and mothers. Most of you know nothing about the sport or the safety precautions taken, and if the club's head coach says it's ok for OP to continue until 12 weeks, then that should be the end of the matter.

Hohocabbage · 13/11/2018 17:50

Head coach advice or NHS advice? It’s a tough one.

SinkGirl · 13/11/2018 18:05

But I do know about the sport, and I work for the maternity service, and I know that they don’t often name activities that you strictly should not do while pregnant but this is one of them. I’m not saying she doesn’t have her baby’s best interests at heart - I’m saying that the NHS knows better about what to do during pregnancy than a sports coach, and the coach is perhaps not especially professional if she hasn’t considered the impact on her insurance. She’s essentially now advised you that it’s safe for you to continue provided you feel up to it - I suspect her insurers wouldn’t be thrilled about her giving that advice.

LadyHooHa · 13/11/2018 19:48

I don't have private health insurance. That's what the NHS is for?!

I gave a measured and, I thought, quite sensible reply to the OP upthread. But I am now wondering quite why I bothered.

MakeAHouseAHome · 13/11/2018 20:03

Some serious overreactions here... I have horses and compete round the country. Whilst I have never been pregnant I know alot of people who have in the horse world and are still riding at 7 months pregnant! Obviously it is your risk to take but as you say you could fall and trip over your own laces.

AnotherOriginalUsername · 13/11/2018 20:10

Some serious overreactions here... I have horses and compete round the country. Whilst I have never been pregnant I know alot of people who have in the horse world and are still riding at 7 months pregnant! Obviously it is your risk to take but as you say you could fall and trip over your own laces.

The thing is it's not just about risk, it's whether you could live with the repercussions if something did happen.

I cycle. I do so daily and was training for a 100 mile cycle when I fell pregnant. I haven't cycled since getting that positive test because, what if? What if I fall off and land awkwardly? What if I'm hit by a car? What if the above don't hurt my developing baby, but I have to make decisions on treatment for myself based on the fact that I'm pregnant?

The OPs situation is different in that early on, the risk is more to do with internal forces rather than external trauma.

For me (and a lot of other people) it's just not worth that risk, particularly when you're not solely responsible for your fate (eg horse riding safely depends on the horse not throwing you, cycling safely depends on other road users etc.) Once you're pregnant, it's not just yourself that you have to consider any more.

MakeAHouseAHome · 13/11/2018 20:19

But AnotherOriginalUsername but that same logic pregnant women should wrap themselves in cotton wool and not leave the house. You could get hit by a bus crossing the road, you could trip over your laces, or a million other things in day to day life.

MyLearnedFriend · 13/11/2018 20:51

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AnotherOriginalUsername · 13/11/2018 21:00

But AnotherOriginalUsername but that same logic pregnant women should wrap themselves in cotton wool and not leave the house. You could get hit by a bus crossing the road, you could trip over your laces, or a million other things in day to day life.

You could, but some things carry a greater risk. Falling off a horse is significantly higher risk (increased height, speed, unpredictability of horse etc.) than tripping over your own shoelaces Hmm

HildegardVonBlingen · 13/11/2018 21:19

Agree, @AnotherOrignalUsername. Plus falling over your shoe laces is an accident. Carrying on with a risky activity is a choice. There is a very big difference. I took part in a heavy-duty sport when I became pg with DC1. I loved said sport. beyond words But I was also desperate to have a baby, and there was no way I was going to do anything that might have put the pregnancy at risk. It probably wouldn't, but I wouldn't have risked it all the same. By the time DC2 and 3 came along, I'd given up altogether Grin.

crispysausagerolls · 13/11/2018 21:24

I can’t believe some people are so fucking reckless with the life and safety of their unborn child.

Obviously continuing with trampolining is a fucking stupid idea, Christ.

I stopped riding (which I have been doing for 25 years) when ttc because my Gyny told me a terrifying story about someone who fell off their horse in early pregnancy, lost the baby and shattered her pelvis, never to conceive again. The woman in question was a professional level dressage rider. It just didn’t seem worth it!!! Even during the 2 weeks when I wouldn’t have known I was pregnant.

Some things are just obviously ridiculously risky. Can’t believe you have to ask.

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Bexterfish · 13/11/2018 21:37

For all those people who say is 'obviously' risky I don't see that. I've never seen anyone get seriously injured, whilst I obviously know of people who have is actually pretty rare. I'm not talking about at 7 months pregnant but at 7 weeks the baby is tiny and so deep inside that even a fall is unlikely to damage the baby. I appreciate the comments about ligaments and i hadn't considered that but I think my coach knows what she's talking about so saying I should report her is plain unfair.

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Bexterfish · 13/11/2018 21:39

And I'm not sure why all the horse references. I'm scared of horses and you'll never get me on one!

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ElideLochan · 13/11/2018 21:41

Thanks. I'm not sure why I'm 'fucking wierd' for not spending an hour in the phone trying to get through to my gp surgery. I was just asking for thoughts. Sooner people make good points, others as expect just want to lynch me
Because they can't understand why you'd ask a bunch of randoms on mumsnet something quite so important

Yes you'll be fine
No its the worst idea in the world

There you go, thoughts
Ask a professional

LadyHooHa · 13/11/2018 21:44

@Bexterfish ... OK...only you put this in AIBU. Lots of posters said you were - you said they should bugger off and let the NHS pick up the pieces (I am no supporter of the NHS per se, btw). I now wonder if you are canvassing for the Daily Fail.

LadyHooHa · 13/11/2018 21:45

BTW, @Bexterfish, if you know you are right, why bother at all with AIBU?