To have gotten a tattoo

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I'm not sure what I can do about this now. I got a tattoo on my upper arm a few months ago of a smallish sun and moon. I've always wanted one but DH was very vocal about not liking them. A work colleague convinced me that I should get it and I decided to bring it up with DH. As expected he wasn't particularly supportive but he said if I was sure then he'd pay for it for my birthday.

I had it done and he said it was fine obviously wasn't overly complimentary. He hasn't mentioned it since until this week. I'd started to regret the whole thing as I'd realized that I was always trying to hide it around DH. I mentioned this to him this morning, hoping he'd give me some reassurance. Instead he told me he hated it and was glad I was hiding it from him. He said he couldn't bare to look at me when he can see it. Apparently he wanted to stop me but thought if it was that important to me it would grow on him. He then said he thinks the biggest regret of his life is not being clearly against it.
I don't know what to do now. I'm devastated, and if I could roll back the clock I'd do it instantly.

He's being overly dramatic. You knew he didn't like them. You chose to go ahead- as is your right. He doesn't have to like it though. It's your choice to now cover up though. He's never going to suddenly come round and think it looks great- but covering up for the rest of your life is daft too. Either embrace it, and stop being so concerned about what he thinks, or cover up because his opinion matters more than yours, or start saving to remove it.

It sounds like your DH knows his own mind, and you don't. You dithered about having a tattoo, you knew your DH didn't like them so you allowed yourself to be talked into it by a work colleague?
Why?

Now, you are beginning to wish you hadn't been talked into it, so you are trying to get your DH to approve it to make you feel better. You've pushed him to make comment on it and he did!

Face it. He's never going to like it. You should have spent a year or two thinking yourself whether to get a tattoo given that, yet you were talked into it by someone else.

Thank you everyone. It's funny but all the comments have been a great help, whatever the approach. I had a long talk with DH today, and I think it's been fairly positive. I think I was being unreasonable, as I thought he'd be so against it that he would say no outright. He said he would never want to be that controlling and felt it was for me to decide. He did apologize for how he spoke to me yesterday and that he said most of it in anger when he realized I was having doubts about the whole thing.

He sounds like a good 'un to me.

I can kind of understand him being frustrated. He didn't like tattoos, you went ahead and now you are regretting it and wanting him to reassure you it's fine.

He does sound like a good man. We all get angry or frustrated sometimes.

He doesn’t like tattoos, you knew he didn’t but went and got one done anyway, he didn’t stop you as you are an adult. He doesn’t like your tattoo now you’ve had it done. You are surprised because?

Biggest regret of his life is a bit much though, not like you’ve had your forehead tattooed is it?