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To wear this dress to a wedding?

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Soscaredaboutitall · 11/11/2018 11:07

Is black a no-no for weddings? I’m really not sure whether to wear this dress or not? It’s not and long sleeved but is it too black??

To wear this dress to a wedding?
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Dita73 · 12/11/2018 23:29

My mother in law wore black to our wedding. It spoke volumes

namechangedforanon · 12/11/2018 23:31

Would look fab with a bright hat!

smilingontheinside · 13/11/2018 00:12

I wore black to a wedding in the 80's along with large black hat and black shoes. The only colour was cream on the cuffs and collar!! I was young and slim and looked fab (so I was told) and bride didn't care because she was the centre of attention and look gorgeous. I think it's a lovely dress and as long as people make an effort to dress up I wouldn't care what they wore Smile

Ladyrimmofpinn · 13/11/2018 00:16

If you have a winter white jacket or throw it will be fine.

Tippexy · 13/11/2018 00:34

You can’t be serious @Ladyrimmofpinn

Lovingbenidorm · 13/11/2018 00:41

It’s a great dress and black is totally acceptable for a winter wedding. Wear it and feel fab!

mathanxiety · 13/11/2018 01:00

I would definitely wear black to a wedding, winter or summer. I am Irish and live in a big American city where it's considered chic.

I wouldn't wear a wrap or a jacket with the dress, Soscaredaboutitall. The dress is really stylish, a very partyish number, and it needs to be seen in its entirety. The neckline is all wrong for a wrap too. Maybe gold tone/metallic shoes and some gold/metallic plus black in a fascinator for accessories?

@MrsR2018 that is a fantastic dress. I would go with a dark burgundy or wine rather than red for accessories.

mathanxiety · 13/11/2018 01:02

*I never heard of black being bad form in Ireland for weddings.

GingerbreadBlob · 13/11/2018 01:13

It's lovely. Wear it.

MadisonAvenue · 13/11/2018 01:30

It’s lovely, wear it!
I always wear black for weddings whatever the time of year and if it’s acceptable for men to wear black suits (although so many now wear the dreadful mid-blue suit and brown shoes combination/uniform Hmm) then why shouldn’t it be okay for women?

MirriVan · 13/11/2018 02:08

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1forAll74 · 13/11/2018 02:33

Yes I would wear that dress for a wedding, its lovely.. Its not a solid black anyway. Also wouldn't be bothered if anyone was wearing bright colours either.So go forth and look classy and glamorous in the lovely dress.

rainbowquack · 13/11/2018 06:20

I think it's lovely and would wear it

prettybird · 13/11/2018 09:08

For whoever asked recently, the OP had said a few posts in that the dress was from ASOS.

manicmij · 13/11/2018 09:52

Who nowadays bothers what guests wear to a wedding? It's the same with funerals, people don't go dressed fully in black, just subdued colours. It's a bit of a mockery to bother about traditional colours for weddings when we all overlook the tradition of why a bride wears white! The dress is gorgeous, wear it with just as glamourous accessories.

MarjorieFrangipani · 13/11/2018 17:04

That dress is really lovely OP, it's perfect for an event that I'm struggling to find an outfit for. I've had a look on ASOS but couldn't find it. Would you mind posting a link? (if it's a current dress that's still available) I would be reeeally grateful Smile

slyoldfox · 13/11/2018 21:54

I can't find it either! Please link

yikesanotherbooboo · 14/11/2018 07:57

Lovely dress.
Don't ask the bride as she has to say it's alright for politeness sake.
I too have seen some black outfits at weddings. Personally , I would think it's ok for 'black tie' wedding or for an evening do but probably unsuitable for church or daytime particularly if the event is a traditional , bride in white, first marriage type affair.i'm old too so feel free to disregard.

Sameoldstorytime · 14/11/2018 16:44

That dress is beautiful to be honest. Even maybe I'd break my own rules for that.

I generally live by 4 rules for weddings

  1. No white
  2. No black
  3. No floor length
  4. Cleavage out OR Legs out. not both.

Of course the last one is a rule to live by with any outfit anyway. It's the difference between slutty or classy. Unless it's a Midi dress, in which case you can kind of get away with it. Just.

MirriVan · 14/11/2018 17:38

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Soscaredaboutitall · 14/11/2018 20:03

Thanks for all the responses! I think Asos have you guys to thank for selling that dress out! I am going with a lovely wine coloured dress again from Asos as I think the wedding/venue is pretty traditional

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TeddybearBaby · 14/11/2018 21:16

They have the same dress in white. Size 14 and 16 left x

Aridane · 15/11/2018 01:32

In white Hmm ?

2fingers22018 · 15/11/2018 11:32

@TeddyBearBaby yh i think in white its a def no haha

Lweji · 15/11/2018 11:44

It would look great with a little tiara and a veil. Wink