Birthday party around 10 am on a Sunday morning.

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One of my friends invited me to their child's birthday party at 10am on Sunday. AIBU if I refuse to go? What you would have done assuming reaching the venue takes 1 hour. And you have school going kids who need a break on Sunday?

I would just politely decline, Sunday is the only day we all have off and we need a bit of a lie in. I have some chronic conditions including fibro and I'm shattered by the weekend so I need the recharge, luckily dd2 sleeps in too and Dd1 is old enough to get up quietly and entertain herself. There have been a few Sunday parties and I have declined all (no religion just our only day to do things and go places) but I think they have all been 12-2 type times around here. YANBU not to go but I wouldn't stress over it

Can't see the AIBU here at all. Go or don't go, it's hardly an issue. Doesn't feel at all early to me either.

It's only one weekend of no lie ins? I'm up super early with baby at the moment so may be jealousy but I can't fully understand the upset over leaving the house at 9am but if you don't think you can manage it don't go? I think usually little children nap midday so 10am is to avoid that?

Thank you all had 154 replies so yes I was taking uncessary stress. Its best to not go if one is not prepared

No I wouldn't go either. That's far too early. They must be counting on kids not shoeing up in order to do a cheapie.

Its a perfectly acceptable time. But then I wouldn't be driving an hour for a child's party anyway.

I’ve just got home from a 10am party. Don’t understand the problem with the time?
And I have a horrific hangover.

I agree that 10am is the perfect time for smaller kids parties, you're going to be up and ready by 9 anyway and the rest of the day is free. As they get older it shifts to mid afternoon which kills the whole day.

I take it you don’t have sporty kids OP? 😆

My thoughts precisely @Johnnycomelately1 I would have to politely decline as we are always on a playing field somewhere from 9am on a Sunday

If the kids weren’t that bothered I wouldn’t be dragging myself up at that time for a party.
But we are generally out of the house by 8:30 on Sundays anyway for football.

Sad that some parents don’t want to put themselves out so that their DC’s can enjoy celebrating their friends birthdays.

We had a joint party a couple of years back with some friends at an indoor play thing. 4 birthday kids. It was at 10am for 2hrs. It wasn’t my preference but my kid was 1 of the 4 and the other 3 were the friends so I didn’t get much choice, BUT it was ok in the end.

No Parker, some parents don't want to stress their DC out.

"Sad that some parents don’t want to put themselves out so that their DC’s can enjoy celebrating their friends birthdays."

Well said.

DD's boyfriend's family always put family events before anything to do with their sons' friends. They never even allowed the boys to invite friends round. It's no surprise that the BF went to a university too far to travel to for a spontaneous visit from his parents as he found them too claustrophobic and clingy. He much prefers to spend time with friends than with family, and is enjoying the novelty of being able to have his friends visit him in his flat.

He is local this weekend to see a band, but he hasn't told his parents.

A primary school age child who is finding school draining and cant get up early and do anything on a Sunday should probably be sleeping before 9pm of an evening.

Great sweeney, very helpful, did you read the bit where I said she can't get to sleep before then? She's been like it since she was 2. We think it's anxiety.

I think 10am on a weekend is fine. 9am is not that early to leave the house, that would still give most people an extra hour in bed or time to have a slow start to the morning. It also means that you still have the afternoon free to do something else.

Sorry @Philomena didnt mean for it to come across snippy, I understand why a party that time wouldnt be suitable for you and I hope you can sort your dc out so they are able to have better sleep patterns.
From the OP though it sounds more like its her that can't be bothered which is a shame but ultimately its her choice.

Maybe her DC need calm time after a week of school too? I also have a DS with ADHD, he can't sleep at night and falls asleep during the day. We usually have parties from 11-2. My DC's friends don't live an hour away though.

Even when I used to put my kids to bed at 6/7 they would be a nightmare to get up for school and would sleep in at the weekends. Some kids just don’t do mornings 😂

That must be hard @Philomena. I have been pretty lucky with all mine as regard to sleeping. Eldest was a nightmare pre school but settled down once he was at school although he still didnt need to sleep before 9 but was always up early as well. Youngest is now 16 and is almost always asleep by 9 or 10 at the latest. She once had a sleepover and went to bed leaving her friends to carry on without her.

Your youngest sounds very sweet sweeney, that would have been me at that age! 😂

PhilomenaButterfly my DD was the same. She never went to sleep early enough for me. I had hoped that she would be more tired once she started school, but even then, at 5, it would be nearer 9pm before she sould actually go to sleep. To be fair though, I never had trouble getting her out of bed for 7 am to get ready for school. She just didn't need 12 hours sleep.

At 18 she is making up for it now though

10.00 is lovely, as we have been home by 12.30, but it was 5 mins walk away.

If it had been 2 hours travel, no way.