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AIBU?

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Is she a CF or AIBU?

59 replies

DailyMailFail101 · 10/11/2018 15:01

My brother is a manager of a DIY superstore. My SIL (brothers sister) just rang asking me if my DB still worked as the manager, as she has seen some things she wants and wanted to use his discount, think more along the lines of full bathroom suite rather than a tin of paint. I was so taken aback on the phone I just didn’t know what to say, she reeled her list Off then put the phone down.

There’s no way I can ask my DB to buy these things I’d be far to embarrassed., it’s put me in an awkward position.

I’m not close to SIL at all, she does things like this all the time, if we go out for a meal my husband always pays she has never paid for us. She has been to meals at our house and we have never eaten at her home. I have looked after My nephew for her but she has never looked after my children. Her husband is a plumber we asked him to do a job for us once he charged us full price (and didn’t even fix the problem, had to get sombody else in) no family discount even though my husband has given them free legal advice.

I really can not ask my DB to get these things for her, what can I say to her she is a CF isn’t she? , or AIBU?

OP posts:
lanbro · 10/11/2018 15:03

Just tell her he is only allowed to use his discount for immediate family and would be disciplined for abusing it

drum123 · 10/11/2018 15:03

She is a CF, YANBU.

Blanchedupetitpois · 10/11/2018 15:03

Just say ‘spoke to DB and unfortunately it’s against store policy so we can’t help out this time.’

AnneLovesGilbert · 10/11/2018 15:05

^ this

GlassSuppers · 10/11/2018 15:05

I wouldn't say that your DB said no without asking him. I'd have to tell her that it's too much to ask.

She is a CF.

Unicornandbows · 10/11/2018 15:06

Say he can't sorry

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 10/11/2018 15:06

I’d just ignore her, change the subject if she rings etc. That’s my polite answer that doesn’t include swearing Grin

ThatssomebadhatHarry · 10/11/2018 15:15

Yanbu. I wouldn’t say brother said no though as you are making him the bad guy. Say you are not willing to ask him and it’s quite cheeky of her to ask.

Confusedbeetle · 10/11/2018 15:17

He could get sacked

mumgointhroughtorture · 10/11/2018 15:21

I work in retail and in our contract we are only allowed to get discount for ourselves or someone we live with in the same household. Imagine if she wanted delivery or took items back with the receipt your Brother could get into trouble if they notice she had staff discount . I would say no .

Original poster
DailyMailFail101 · 10/11/2018 15:21

Oh good! Didn’t think I was being unreasonable, thank you for the clarification!

OP posts:
Andylion · 10/11/2018 15:22

Yanbu. I wouldn’t say brother said no though as you are making him the bad guy. Say you are not willing to ask him and it’s quite cheeky of her to ask.

This.

flumpybear · 10/11/2018 15:23

No chance, say it's personal use only

planechocolate · 10/11/2018 15:29

Send her a text saying it's best if she talks to him herself, and give her his phone number.

dontalltalkatonce · 10/11/2018 15:32

'That won't be possible. He could get sacked for that. No.' And just stop enabling her. Stop being embarrassed, that's how she gets away with being a CF.

Notjustanyone · 10/11/2018 15:33

I would say yeah no can do because you are a cheeky fucker to even ask!

LockedOutOfMN · 10/11/2018 15:37

Tell her it's too much to ask. She is definitely a CF.

m00rfarm · 10/11/2018 15:44

Your brother is the manager,. And she is the brother's sister? So she is his sister? Sorry. I am useless at working out family relationships :(

Wellonlyifihaveto · 10/11/2018 15:49

She means her husbands sister

Roussette · 10/11/2018 15:50

How can she reel off what she needs in the way of a bathroom (it will be a long list) without you interrupting and saying 'hang on, this won't be possible, he can't do that'.

I've just done a bathroom and my list was huge!

Why didn't you say something?

YouTheCat · 10/11/2018 15:53

You could just say 'no' and offer no further explanation.

GiantKitten · 10/11/2018 15:54

Her husband is a plumber we asked him to do a job for us once he charged us full price (and didn’t even fix the problem, had to get sombody else in) no family discount even though my husband has given them free legal advice

I'd be very tempted to remind her in great detail of this (never mind all her other CFery), laugh hysterically, & hang up.

YearOfYouRemember · 10/11/2018 15:56

Make this the last time she tries to treat you like shit.

Rafflesway · 10/11/2018 16:02

The gall of some people is astounding at times. 😱

I agree with previous pp's. It will more than likely be in your DB's contract that staff discounts are very strictly controlled.

Personally, I wouldn't even ask your DB! Just tell her he can't due to the above and then tell your DB what you have done stating what an almight CF she is.

Catra · 10/11/2018 16:03

Your brother is the manager,. And she is the brother's sister? So she is his sister? Sorry. I am useless at working out family relationships

Yes, this has confused me as well!!