to really struggle with the school run, how does your morning look?

[MumOnTheFun]

I snooze from 7.20 until 7.40 whilst DH gives breakfast. I will help with getting DC aged 4 dressed and sorted then DH does school run at 8.30 whilst I attempt to wake up.

If DH is working I will get up at 7.30 and struggle to get moving. Similar routine except I walk to school and feel embarrassed to walk to school with no makeup and hair shot in a bobble.

Even if I go to bed earlier amd get up earlier I really struggle to be alert before 9am

Well, op, it’s nice to read about a man who pulls his weight. But this does sound unfair the other way!

I get up at 6.30. Dd on bus at 7.15. I don’t love it but have to do it.

Alarm goes off at 7am. I immediately wake DC. I make a brew and take it back to bed whilst DS has breakfast and DD brushes her teeth and gets dressed. Then DD going downstairs to pack her lunch, brush her hair and do her chores whilst I get showered, dressed and quick brush through my hair and slick on some concealer whilst DS brushes his teeth and gets dressed then goes to do his chores. I arrive downstairs at 7:50, fix DD hair and leave the house just before 8am

I have to have everything ready for the next day. Everything laid out for me and 2 kids the night before. All bags ready by the door, lunch bags done and in the fridge. I'm definitely not a morning person too

What time are you going to bed?

Mornings are harder if you lie there pissing about with the snooze button. The main time I had trouble getting up was when I was actually struggling with my mental health. Now that I’m taking a break from work, it’s easier to get up.

I’d be pissed off if my dh dozes in bed while I got up and then went to work!! Just get up and try and do something invigorating. Exercise? Are you taking care of your mental health.

do you have depression or anxiety which stops you ?

I have severe anxiety and only work part time and get really stressed in the morning so my dh gets the rough end of the deal by getting the little one ready by steering and supervising toilet, hand washing, teeth and getting them dressed in uniform, battling about pinafore or skirt, socks or tights etc while i shower but the older one needs no assistance at all at 8 years old.

Up at 7.15, i have breakfast and sort out bottles and pack school bags.

7.30 i give kids have breakfast and dh had his shower.

7.45 dh helps the little one get ready and supervises older while i get showered and dressed.

8.15 dh irons his shirt whilst i get the kids to put shoes, get their hair brushed/put in pony tails and coats on.

8.20 i leave to drop kids to breakfast club and go to work.

8.30 dh locks up and leaves for work.

get up at 6:30
stare into space with cup of tea until 6:45
get ready
kids up at 7:20 the latest (often they are up earlier), they eat what's on the kitchen table. weetabix bowls prepared previous evening, they only need to pour milk.
kids do teeth a d get dressed after breakfast
out the door 8:15

This is a obviously either made up, or some kind of weird reverse.

On the off chance it’s not, the advice is very simple - Shape Up!!

Pre school age here, plus younger child. We all get up together at around 7. I will have made packed lunches, packed spare clothes etc and got everything (coats, bag, hats etc) into the car the night before. So we get up, I get tea and milk and take it upstairs. Read a couple of stories. I get ready for work (office so clean tidy and make up), get children washed and dressed. Downstairs, into car and off to pre school for 8-8.15.

6:20 I get up
6:30 kids up
They get dressed while I have a shower
7:00 We all leave the house. Childminder feeds them.

(on lazy days we get up at 7:30, get ready for breakfast at 8:00 and leave at 8:30 to walk to school)

It gets a bit wearing at this time of year, esp as I'm on my own.

You just do what you need to do though, don't you.

(p.s. Get up earlier)

Get everything ready the night before e.g. making packed lunches, packing bags & checking for school letters. Hang up coats by the front door and have shoes cleaned. Go to bed earlier, leave ipad and mobile outside of bedroom so in the landing. You'll stil be able to hear your alarm from there. This will help you go to sleep quicker as you won't get distracted by them. Get up earlier, 7am would be better, so youre not rushing. Think you just have to get on with it I'm afraid. Drink lots of water and coffee during the day. Give yourself a better routine.

If you have 1 child,just go back to bed after school run.
We all hate getting up in the morning.What motivates me is getting rid of the kids for a few hours😂😂

6.50 alarm; shower; fully dressed; makeup.
7.15 make lunch x 5, set table for breakfast
7.30 call dc for the first time; make coffee
7.40 call dc for the second time
7.45 tell dc ‘the kitchen is closing in 15 minutes’
8.15 full dishwasher; teeth brushing and coat/hat/bag getting
8.30 leave house
8.40 school drop
8.50 get on train to work

I parent four children (aged 5-11) alone four out of five schooldays, so op trust me, you can do this!

OP it’s awful getting up early. Most people are groggy first thing and hate getting out of bed. But that’s life! You just need to suck it up and get on with it. Sorry to say it but you do sound a little lazy lying in bed whilst your DH gets on with it. I imagine you could probably grab a nap during the day and he can’t do you are being rather self indulgent.

to repeat, if you need to factor in the best part of an hour of faffing about, snoozing the alarm, staring into space trying to wake up etc, then set your alarm an hour earlier.

You will be then at your current 9am mental 'ready to start the day' point at 8am.

Trying it for next week, set the alarm for 6:20am, snooze until 6:40am at the latest. See how much better you feel by the end of the week.

Mine are 4, 7 and 9 BTW.

The only way we manage this is that the kids have been trained to sort themselves out. They get ready while I do, and have done for ages. The oldest one sorts breakfast as well.

I do have fairly spectacular kids, tbf

My alarms set for 5:50 but I naturally wake at 5:30, I have 10 mins or so faffing in bed. Then get up and make it.
Next I put the harnesses on the dogs and have a nesspresso or two. Every couple of days out a wash on.
Drag on some clothes and walk the dogs from around 6 to 7:20 at the latest.
7:30 start getting the dd's up. Dd2 eats breakfast, gets dressed and watches tv all at the same time. Dd2 gets dressed has bathroom time (she gets breakfast at school). Hang the wash up or alternatively out it away if I did it the day before, check school bags put in lunches I made previous evening.
8 to 8:05 out the door for dd1 to get bus and dd2 to breakfast club, once at breakfast club we do our morning routine of me saying "be good, learn lots, be clever, have fun enjoy yourself and if anyone bully's you tell a teacher"
Then off to bus and at my desk between 10 to and quarter past 9.
Thankfully the bus stop for dd1 is directly outside the flat and dd2s school is a five minute walk. If it's the school holidays the dd's get an extra 45mins in bed as holiday club is a 10 mins walk and I'm at my desk at 9:30

Some mornings there is stropping, that's tough, cos it makes it a shitload more difficult

I've got a craptonne to be greatful for cos I do this all by my self

Dh wakes at half six, showers, takes dog out (with a coffee in a mug) i get up about 7, shower, get the kids up at half seven by which time the house is 'awake' (radio on, breakfast table set) I make the packed lunches (for 3 of us) while making breakfast. DH gets back with the dog about 7.45 and he takes over sorting the kids (teeth/hair/nagging) While he's doing this, I tend to be rumbling round in the background, doing letters back to school/making sure the 'stuff' we need for activities is ready to roll /that that nights dinner etc is defrosting/ there's a wash on/ that whatever we need for dinner is 'in the house' (or write a list to make sure one of us picks it up).
One of us will set off walking the kids to school about twenty past eight, and the other leaves at half 8 and brings the car up- we then meet about a five minute walk 'on' from school. Whoever has the car that day drops the other to the station and carries onto work. It took us ages to get this organised and is not a natural state for me.
I think you are taking the piss a bit to be honest.

I work term time only.

I get up at 7.45am. Dd1 is up earlier so dh gives her breakfast. I wake dd2 to get dressed, and she gets breakfast after. Then dd2 comes up to get dressed. I iron as I go, so their clothes are freshly ironed (great in this cold weather). I get myself ready with shower, dressed, make up, hair.
I then bark out orders for cardigans, shoes, coat and to get out the door.
I then leave at 8:43, school starts at 8:45 (the school is the next road from us) I drop dds off and skip back home to have 5 minutes leave and leave for work at 9am to start work at 9.30am.

How you can lie in bed when you don’t really work and get you dh to do it, is beyond me.
I suffer with insomnia, and if dds are ill up though the night I sort it. So dh does his bit in the morning.

This is a weird thread OP? You just have to do these things when you have children!!

Up at 6.15 or what ever ass crack of dawn time my DD gets up
Wash, dress, drag a brush through hair. Check work emails
Get DD washed, dressed, fed
Sort out washing up, hide toys if theres time.
Out the door 7.55 for 8am breakfast club
On 8.06 bus to work. Start on conference calls and doing emails on phone
Finish work at 5
On the 5.15 bus, usually on a conference call with US colleague starting their day
Pick DD up from after school club by 5.50
Home and get food cooked and on table ASAP.
Get DD fed, washed, in PJs for 6.45 ready for stories in bed 7pm
7.30/8ish DD will be asleep

Collapse and try to figure out how I'll do.it all again the next day

We all 'struggle', we all feel shit and the rest of of us just get on with it, because we're not princesses that's life! Were you under the impression that everyone else likes getting up in the cold and dark when they are tired and would rather be asleep. that we all have dark circles under our eyes and go for 'haggard and sleep deprived' because we think it is a good look!?

So you 'Snooze' whilst your (presumably working?) partner gets on with breakfast, you deign to 'help' with getting your only child dressed, 'attempt to wake up' whilst your partner does the school run. Seriously?

Unless there is some massive drip feed about disability or long term health/mental health conditions then you just sound entitled and lazy and like you aren't pulling your weight, I'm surprised you get away with it (unless this is a reverse as pp suggested about a lazy partner?)..

is this a reverse??? from a disgruntled husband???

The quickest way to wake yourself up is to get out of bed and be active.

4am kids start to stir. Broken sleep from now on.
5am dh gets up
5.30am dh leaves
6am I get up with kids! If not already up
Do everything for youngest 2.
7.30 take youngest to childcare
Drop eldest off.
8.30 take middle child to school.
9am set off to my job that starts at 9am.
If it’s my day off I don’t do make up. I only wear it at work -to hide the bags-

May I suggest an early night or see a gp.

You seem very lucky my ex had similar I got up a 6 got myself ready for work thrm gave my dc breakfast and got them ready for school. I left home at 7.30 with everything done including lunches and bags packed. My ex would get up about 8 and struggle to get my dc to school on time despite it being a 5 minute walk. When on holiday I got up at 7.30 did the same stuff and walked my dc to school with time to spare.

Poor OP - hearing that the rest of the world has to suck it up and prioritise their children and family needs rather than their own wishes. It's tough but as you can hear. so many people have no choice. Being an adult and parent means stepping outside your own feelings and prioritising the needs of your family.