To feel ashamed going to hairdressers with so much grey hair?

[sansany]

Basically I haven't dyed my hair in 3 years and I have so many grey hairs.
I really really want my hair done but I'm ashamed/embarrassed incase they think "early 30s so much grey etc etc "

No, I feel exactly the same as you.

It probably stems from going to two separate hairdressers in my early twenties and them looking through my hair and exclaiming loudly 'oh my god, you have got so many grey hairs'.

Like I didn't fucking know.

op you have so very much more value as a human being than the state of your hair. Honestly.

If anyone were ever to judge you on the state of your hair then that would be an astonishing poor reflection on them, and make no difference to your worth as a human being whatsoever.

Finally, please consider that telling everyone how ashamed you are of your grey hair is just piling further pressure on other women to feel unjustifiable shame for their hair too.

Why not celebrate grey instead, like all the wonderful women at www.facebook.com/gogrombre/

I have loads of grey. I get my hair cut about every 6 weeks or so.My hairdressers think it's great that I love it. If they're just being polite,I don't care. I can't wait to go totally grey,'m not ashamed of it at all,I certainly don't think I've let myself go at all.

Sansany I understand your overthinking, I'm the same.. Over think & analyse absolutely everything. It's exhausting. I feel similar things all the time, also when going to hairdressers. But honestly, listen to me when I say that all that matters is doing something for you. It will make you feel better about yourself., chat to hairdresser about what you'd like done, thats their job to listen & help. You are no different from anyone else & you deserve some pampering. Please book x

You can colour your hair by making a rinse with strong black coffee. It will stain the white hair brown.

My hair is much more grey (you would describe it as grey from a distance) than your's and I make a rinse with turmeric, camomile, instant coffee and redbush tea. It turns it a dark golden blonde. I brew my rinse up in a teapot, allow it to cool and pour it through dry, clean hair.

You are grossly over-estimating how important your hair is to other people. Like by a very large margin.

See that's not my experience at all. I had years of people talking to the top of my head as they were studying how someone so 'young' could gave grey hairs sprouting up. Or I would be talking to someone and they would suddenly stop, look at the top of my head and I would know that 'oh my god you're going grey!' was coming.

I give less of a shit now that I'm older but when I was younger it was horrible. Most people who say 'oh you should just embrace the grey, it's beautiful, don't fall for the dye and those beauty standards' did not start going grey in their teens

I’m early 30s and going grey too, round my first grey/white hair at 25. Hereditary apparently as my grandmother was completely white by 30. I’m now letting my natural hair colour grow out after years of colouring and for a while I’ll embrace the grey strands if they’re not too obvious ...but I do thinks it’s quite ageing on some women so I’ll keep an eye. Some women look fab but I’m not sure I’ll be one of them.

By the way DO NOT tweeze them - my hairdresser is a friend and told me of someone who did that and basically ended up with what looked like grey pubes on their head on top as they grow back wiry and curly. I’ve pulled out a few myself and can confirm this!!!

I stopped dyeing my hair in 2016, and the majority of my hair is now a grey/silver/white. It's a bit Rogue from Xmen, but more so. I'm 35.

I got my first grey in my early 20's, but I've now embraced it, and consider myself lucky that what others pay lots of money to have done, as per the recent trend for grey hair, I get it for free!

Christ

They won't think that, you're at a hairdresser... they fix hair.

Personally, I don't think natural aging is something shameful!

I give less of a shit now that I'm older but when I was younger it was horrible. Most people who say 'oh you should just embrace the grey, it's beautiful, don't fall for the dye and those beauty standards' did not start going grey in their teens

I started going bald in my teens. I'd have much preferred to have gone grey. Way easier - and cheaper - to camouflage than baldness.

Either way, the hairdressers won't care. They want custom, and have probably seen teenagers coming in with grey hair. A woman in her thirties with greying hair will hardly be a rarity.