To feel ashamed going to hairdressers with so much grey hair?

[sansany]

Basically I haven't dyed my hair in 3 years and I have so many grey hairs.
I really really want my hair done but I'm ashamed/embarrassed incase they think "early 30s so much grey etc etc "

I actually think grey looks quite pretty! I fully intend to do some kind of Caitlin Moran statement grey once I start going grey!

If you want to cover your greys, that style might require quite a bit of maintenance but there’s nothing wrong with that if you can be bothered!

I used to have mi9ne dyed blondish, and then, earlier this year, I thought what a waste of money, when I could just live with my natural highlights! I had it dyed dark (more my natural colour) underneath with grey highlights on top, and now my roots are growing in, it looks good. the aim is for the dark to grow out and be replaced by the white roots. I won't need to dye it again.

There's nothing shameful about having grey hairs! You're not "letting yourself go". I've got a fair sprinkling of them now, but I can't see myself ever getting on the treadmill of having my hair dyed. I spend a lot of money getting a good cut regularly, but have never thought twice about what my hairdresser thought of my grey hairs!

I started going grey at 14 and loved my sun catchers. Also, I can’t think of anything more boring then playing with my hair.

Anyway, the nicest compliment I’ve ever received was a woman who had long dyed her hair saying she was going to stop. Mine apparently looked so good now I am 50 and almost completely grey that she was no longer scared of the idea.

I will also point out that I did see my whole head recently and I have gone a bit blonde. A great surprise.

I don't know whether this will make you feel any better but my 20 year old daughter,against my better judgement I must admit, has recently had her hair dyed grey(though she calls it silver lol) and it actually looks really lovely.Your hairdresser will not bat an eye at your lovely natural greyness/silverness I assure you.

I went to the hairdressers 2 weeks ago at age 40 with about 50% grey , bad split ends (hadn't had it cut in 2 years) and I hadn't even brushed it that morning! Hairdresser was fine, she said she loves a good messy head as it means she can really see the transformation!

Get a grip. They are hairdressers. They've seen worse. Is this literally all you have to worry about?!

Honestly, the hairdresser is not going to give it a single thought

I was delighted to start going grey, as it meant my patients all trusted me more as an apparently senior doctor! I’m now totally silver, and think it catches the light nicely and looks much better than my original dull brown.
OP, I’d think twice about going down the hair dye route. It will mean years of repeated expensive chemical treatments plastered on your head. I know modern dye isn’t as toxic and carcinogenic as old ammonia based ones, but why use it at all?

It's genetic when you go grey - nothing you can do about it. I've known a couple of people who were completely grey by 30. All the fancy youngsters round here dye their hair grey- they call it silver or ash blonde. If you haven't been in 3 years you'll be getting your moneys worth.

Honestly, you're paying them for a service. It's their job to fix your hair. Just be upfront about what you think is wrong with it and what you'd like some.

Ashamed? Why would you feel ashamed? It's not as if you have any control over it. Or you did it to piss them off. You are massively overthinking.

If you’ve only got a tiny bit of grey you can just dye it yourself anyway!

Why not go to a salon in a nearby town so then you don’t need to go back, after your hair has been transformed find a nearer salon?

They will really enjoy transforming you and getting paid for it!

I started going grey at 22, am now 50 and about 70% grey over dark hair - I rock the silver.

My hairdresser loved it the first time I went with undyed hair, she said she preferred to work on virgin hair. She also took before and after pics because it was such a difference.

You do know that MOST women are going grey in their 30's

Some of us embrace it and save a fortune
others hide it

@sansany

I know exactly what you mean. After the birth of my DS2 I let my hair get REALLY grey and I’m early thirties too. Even my mum was like do something with your hair.

The hairdresser laughed when I told her how embarrassed I was about the grey and told me not to be so silly, the whole reason dye was invented was to hide grey 😂

Anyway, after a couple of hours I had my lovely swishy hair (and I do have lovely swishy hair) back and it was back to looking its best. Not only that but my confidence went through the roof.

Book your appt and treat yourself

Why do you give a shit about grey hair? Just rock it. Your greys look shiny like mine and I love it. Are we not past judging woman by looking a little older?

Er that's their job!

I think it's my anxiety making me overthink.
I'm gonna get it done and try not to care.

Blimey. Its nothing. Dye it yourself before you go for a cut if it's so worrying

I’m your age and I have more grey than that! Loads more! Would YOU look at me, or anyone else with a sprinkling of grey, and think ‘she’s really let herself go?’ just because you saw some greys? I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t, right? So why do you think anyone would think it about you?

You are grossly over-estimating how important your hair is to other people. Like by a very large margin.

Oh, OP, it makes me really sad that you think you've let yourself go just because you don't dye your hair.

It's honestly and truly not compulsory. I've got loads of grey/silver and don't dye my hair. Partly a political/feminist/deliberate choice and partly I'd rather spend my money on books.

Please don't judge yourself for something as unimportant as having natural coloured hair!