Hotel rooms with no toilet doors are terrible! AIBU?

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I'm on a short holiday with my husband and we arrive at our hotel room. It looked like a reasonably nice room, so I was excited to see it. But when I do, I find it's one of those "honeymoon villa" type rooms with no door on the bathroom! The bathroom leads to the bedroom. The toilet is around a corner so not directly in eye sight but still. AIBU to think it's so much better to have a privacy, even staying with a partner. It's supposed to be romantic. How are bathroom sounds and smells romantic? Not having a lock is bad enough, but no door... argh. Or am I just a prude?

I'm obviously weird as it just wouldn't bother me at all. If your dp has seen you giving birth why does it matter.

Again, if you are happy to share bodily fluids, does it really matter if they see you having a pee or a shit?

We have had this several times, by accident. The glass screen is bad enough but twice we have had rooms where the bog is just in the room. WHY??? Why would a designer think this was a good idea??? It’s not sexy. Sorry but I don’t want to watch, hear or smell DH having a dump. And what if you were sharing with a friend?! Does it save money on walls/doors? Last time we took it in turns to sit on the balcony in the morning! I agree we should always do trip advisor review to warn others and hopefully this trend will die out.

Oh god there's another one? Attached hopefully is the Fletcher - it's interesting to say the least!

Beam me up Scotty!

I've stayed in a hotel where the bathroom was separated from the bedroom by just a curtain. I have a shy colon and couldn't poo there (luckily we only stayed for one night). I'm horrified by these accounts of bedrooms with toilets in. Aren't the designers aware of the plume of toilet water droplets and faecal matter that is ejected from the toilet with every flush? At least in a bathroom, the tiles and porcelain surfaces are easily and frequently cleaned. I'd hate to stay in a room with a smorgasbord of poo particles and urine residue on the chair, the carpet, the bedside table....

I found a gorgeous boutique hotel in Spain that I really wanted to book for me and DH, but couldn’t go ahead after I discovered it had this arrangement and chose somewhere else. Just awful!

I'm obviously weird as it just wouldn't bother me at all. If your dp has seen you giving birth why does it matter

But we are not all with long term DPs/DHs. Some of us want to travel with teenage children, friends, new lovers etc. Would you be happy with the open bathroom situation then?

I'm intrigued by those of you say it wouldn't bother you..... do you not mind the smell of shit? Or does your/ your partners shit smell of roses?

Married 30+ years. Still hate the aroma of dh poo. Do my best to not share mine.

However, they have poo-away spray that you can put in toilet before pooping and it prevents smell from getting out. (My cat is stinky. I spray in laundry room if no time to gather up poo.) dd says it works in toilets.

Oh this is giving me flashbacks. Worst was a half wall between bed and bathroom area, not in a huge room. We were in the Philippines and I got travellers tummy. Basically every time we had to go (which for me was often) we had to ask the other to sit outside on our little veranda, or risk waking the other with the stink. Absolutely awful!

It’s like there is some weird correlation between people who design hotel rooms and people that enjoy listening and/or being listened to whilst they do a shit.

we had one in gozo a villa, it was straight off the bedroom, when we wanted a poo, the other person would go out of the bedroom until it was safe to go back in.

Had this in a hotel in New York. No door and a room divider of frosted glass so if sat on the bed you could see the fuzzy peachy outline of your other half sitting on the loo.

Wouldn’t bother me. Rarely shut bathroom doors anyway! Am I a total peasant?

Wouldn’t bother me. Rarely shut bathroom doors anyway! Am I a total peasant?

I find it pretty grim, to be honest! I wouldn’t appreciate DH dropping his guts with the door open 🤮

No no no no no absolutely not! I’m in a LTR and we have had to both use the bathroom at the same time (one on the bog whilst the other needs a poo). That’s emergency measures when you’ve only 1 toilet in the house... but whilst away on hols? No thank you very much 🤦🏼‍♀️

Sorry, meant one on the bog whilst the other in the shower....

Thirty years ago I spent a month travelling round Egypt on an old army truck in an 'off the beaten track' type trip which was generally fantastic but included lots of camping or staying in very basic hostels for one or two nights. The one which sticks in my memory was four adult women squeezed into a tiny room on two bunkbeds with three foot separating them. In between was a doorway to the combined loo/shower, 'closed' off by only a flimsy shower curtain. Oh my god, that was beyond grim and the horror of listening and, unfortunately, smelling each others' toilet trips was only alleviated by the fact we were all similarly affected by the runs . Thing was .... because of the nature of the trip, we knew we'd be 'roughing' it, and knew that in the middle of nowhere in arguably a third world country beggars couldn't be choosers ... and our discomfort was therefore somewhat mollified.
The idea that a similar open set up could be imposed on you in a swish, expensive and otherwise stylish hotel is baffling. I knew this sort of thing existed, have thankfully never encountered it beyond a bath in the room, but had no idea how prevalent it's become before reading this thread. As an IBS sufferer it's bad enough getting an attack of that when you have a fully enclosed en suite but I'd die if I had to go through that effectively on display. Surely only a tiny minority of couples would be totally okay with an open plan loo so what the heck are these hotels thinking?

Just shown this to DH, he says he would be fine with it! I won't be going with him! Also I've been in hotels that have a sign saying please shut bathroom door because the bath or shower sets off the smoke alarm. He has food intolerances too and quite often away eats something he shouldn't and gets the shits!

Ewwww! As my teens say! Funny how it's in fancy places, you'd think they could afford a door!

I rarely shut the bathroom door when I shower , bath or even wee BUT I do when No2s arrive and absolutely when DH does!

Utterly disgusting. The business they will lose from this barking idea....

Omg! I hate that! I feel for you! That happened on our honeymoon, I’d send my DH to the bar each time I wanted to use the loo! It was so distasteful. Then I’d spend 10 minutes trying to extinguish the smell. NOT GOOD! JUST WHY? good job I’m a regular girl! BTW HEEHEEHEE to steelthninjamom. That was so funny! Anyway, concentrate on the world outside, must be lovely. X

Apparently there are two types of bathroom behaviour - 'cats' who need privacy and find it hard to go when they don't have it, and 'dogs' who don't mind at all - I'm definitely a cat! Sounds like all hotel designers are 'dogs'. Don't mind talking about my bowel and bladder movements, but I don't like to do a number two at work, let alone whilst eyeballing or within hearing/smelling distance of a friend, family member or partner. Makes me shudder thinking about it!

I hate that no door crap, its odd. I do not need to see, hear or smell dp on the toilet
I wouldnt book a hotel like that, hell even looking to rent or buy, that would be a dealbreaker for me

I’ve never actually stayed in one of these places but I’ve noticed that baths and toilets just behind a screen in the bedroom seem to be becoming more popular in boutiques. It’s the smell that would bother me the most.