Wibu to make ds wear this for children in need?

[Tatgalore]

11 year old ds (year 6), has got to wear spotty clothes for children in need.

He doesn't have any spotty clothes and I refuse to go and buy clothes needlessly.

I suggested a pair of charity £1 children in need spotty socks from the supermarket but he refused. The only thing he was willing to consider wearing was a spotty children in need t-shirt which was £6, tbh I'd rather just give the whole £6 to children in need than buy more tat that we don't need.

I suggested that we take on old white PE top and design a spotty t-shirt ourselves, ds is quite artistic and we did something similar years ago and it looked fantastic and we had fun doing it. He's said no way is he doing that.

Wibu to say you're doing it, and that's that.

Does he get pocket money? If he does then it can be his decision.

Well yes, as a op suggested he could use it as pyjamas. He won't though.

I know it sounds a fuss over a £6 t-shirt, we are really trying hard as a family to cut back on unnecessary spending and general wastefulness.

I just wish the school would fuck off with these dress up days. It's highly obvious that half of the kids won't have any spotty clothes.

I wouldn’t buy it either. I have three kids, £6 is more like £18.

Can you do maybe some spots on his face in make up (three or something - not all over) and as a compromise he sticks a fiver in the bucket?

My 12 year old would just wear his own clothes, with or without spots, and bring the suggested donation. I wouldn't buy or make anything.

It might only be £6 for the top but if every child in the school gave £6 - or however much they're spending on something spotty - to children in need instead of spending it on tatty rubbish that they'll never wear again then the school would raise quite a nice sum for the charity.

Plus, it says on the Asda site that 20% (or more) of the price will go to the charity.

Just get him to tell school that you don't support Children in need and pick your own charities.

I've just had to do that in work!

I have this problem with CIN too. Really reluctant to spend money on a one use item. I hate all the wastefulness and constant demands by the school for costumes/dress up days. We ve already had and soon to have- dress as colours of African flag, CIN, townspeople in Xmas play, Xmas jumper and dress as an elf! I hate constantly buying single use things. I was forced to buy a shepherds costume for the Xmas play as apparently the tracksuit bottoms and top I was planning wouldn't be right. It's not the money either, it's the waste and constantly buying things, it's so disposable.

But then I guess the money is going to CIN if I do.

Could you buy a larger size so it fits for two years? I did this with ds elf costume last year. He will wear it this Xmas too. Also, does your ds have a sibling? I try and buy gender neutral things so dd can wear them when she starts school. I assume they do pretty much the same thing every year.

£6 is alot of money.

DS' school are having Pudsey day and I will struggle to get £1 together for his donation let alone pay £6 for a tshirt he wont want to wear again and doesn't need.

Aside from the fact that it's completely wasteful to buy something like this for the sake of one day, it puts pressure on some families who don't always have something to spare.

DS has to take extra money for something or other about once a fortnight, it's too much.

Go halves with him on the t-shirt?

Why is it useless, singke use tat? I haven't seen these t-shirts but why would it only be worn once? Surely after CIN day it will just become one of his t-shirt?

I’d just send him in with £1 (at least that’s what my 2 are asked to take in to school for CIN day) and let him wear whatever of his own clothes he wants. I wouldn’t buy the CIN t shirt, no way. Such a waste of money.

are you sure its compulsory? I would just let him go in Uniform and give £1 to the children in need pot!

I'd just send him in in his own clothes with the donation and shove some spotty socks in his bag in case he feels left out to be honest. There are kids in DD1's class in particular who don't enjoy dress up days at all and no one's ever batted an eyelid at them taking that approach.

Mine needed new onesies anyway (they chuck them on after dancing and swimming and stuff rather than getting dressed fully again) so I just bought the Pudsey ones and killed two birds with one stone in terms of CIN dress up day stuff. They'll at least get used that way.

Christmas jumpers do my head in - I buy them like massively sized up so I at least can break out the same one for a good 2-3 years for them.

It's not compulsory no, but no doubt he won't want to go in his uniform.

Reversetheferret I think that's what I'm going to do. He won't be left out because that's only what most of the class will be doing.

Why is it useless, single use tat? I haven't seen these t-shirts but why would it only be worn once? Surely after CIN day it will just become one of his t-shirt?

This^ It's a t-shirt, presumably he can wear it until he outgrows it. If he will, and you have the money, I think it's reasonable to buy it. If he won't then it's reasonable not to buy it.

It's highly obvious that half of the kids won't have any spotty clothes.

I assume by spotty, you mean polka-dotted? Why is it highly obvious that half the kids won't have spotty clothes?

He won't wear it again, no way in hell will he wear it again.

I appreciate all the suggestions about just keeping it as pjs or whatever, but ds will not ever wear that t-shirt again and I know it.

Let hiim spend his pocket money if he is so bothered

Yes- both have Xmas jumpers from last year too. Need to check they fit. Dd will have all of ds dress up things when it's her turn next year. Same with Halloween. I hate this constant buying of new tat all the time.

He's 11.
I'd tell him you are not buying anything but otherwise leave it to him to sort out.

Give him choices:

1. Buy the T-shirt out of his OWN money, if it's that important to him
   (if he does that, you could also choose to refund him after a few weeks, once he's reflected on whether it was worth it)

2. wear a homemade badge with spots on

3. school uniform

Steff sorry let me rephrase that.

I imagine that most 11 year old boys don't own spotty clothes.

My ds had a children in need t shirt that he wore loads and then passed down to his brother so I've found the £6 t shirt was good value for money.

My 10 year old's school is asking the children to wear sports clothes and they are going to be doing lots of sporty things at school. My 10 year old is physically disabled and came home upset because he said he thought part of the point of children in need was to raise awareness of children with disabilities and now they are spending the day doing things he can't join in with because of his disabilities.

I am thinking of buying some different sized coloured spots and sticking them on a white top he's got. Would your ds do that? Not sure though, does it look a bit like you've not even tried and you're lazy! People go to town at ds dress up days and I feel under pressure- hence buying the shepherds outfit rather than old clothes and tee- towel on the head

How about a plain t shirt with a CIN pin badge? www.bbcchildreninneedshop.co.uk/products/2018-gold-pudsey-pin-badge

Even my two wouldn't have wanted home made spotty t shirts at that age I think, and they are generally of the zero fucks given approach with peer pressure...