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To ask have you ever kicked anyone out of your home?

105 replies

Hellomatey001 · 08/11/2018 19:35

Just had an awful awful sales experience with a fitted furniture company.

Saleswoman only wanted to talk to DH, ignored me and when the final quote came in double what we had been told by a store rep, she snapped that I looked "pained." She became really really surly and obnoxious. When we said we would need to think about it, she stormed off huffing and puffing all the way, muttering under her breath and knocking my 7 month old daughter in her chair in the process.

I feel like I should have asked her to leave. But have never kicked anyone out.

Anyone done it, why and was it worth it?

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bringincrazyback · 09/11/2018 15:21

Not physically kicked out, but had to ask DH's ex to leave our home one day shortly after I moved in. She'd been continuing to walk into the house without knocking/walk around the house like she still lived in it, and a request to stop didn't go over well. She sneered at me for referring to it as 'my' home, then proceeded to kick a door off its hinges before threatening to cut DH off from seeing his daughter because she'd been asked to leave. What a peach. (And just to pre-empt the question, no, I wasn't the OW, they'd been apart for yonks.)

EmotionallyDestroyed · 09/11/2018 18:29

@CaptainCallisto I have just smacked my hand over my mouth and been speechless for many, many seconds. I think that's the worst thing I've ever read on MN. PLEASE tell me you threw her out???

Pinkyponkcustard · 09/11/2018 19:20

@mycatplotsdeath - “to which I replied " well today he owns upstairs, so f**k off out!"

That is brilliant and proper made me lol

spiderplantsalad · 09/11/2018 19:40

Hudson hicks what a disgusting animal, your poor fish.

FuckKnuckle · 09/11/2018 19:41

Another Everest experience here - in the time he was in the house talking to DH I had time to feed the DCs, bath them, get them ready for bed, put them to bed, read them their stories and say goodnight.

DH and I virtually had to push him out of the front door in the end.

Booskina · 09/11/2018 20:05

Omg this post is amazing. Never had to do this myself but thanks for all the great tips Grin

thebear1 · 09/11/2018 20:39

Not out of a house but out of a tent. Not quite the same. I was camping with friends, we were teens and we got invaded by teen boys. By 3 a.m. we just wanted sleep so I unzipped the tent and demand they go.

tillytoodles1 · 09/11/2018 20:48

A couple of DD's unsavoury boyfriends, she's happily married now, not a wild teen anymore.

CaptainCallisto · 10/11/2018 12:07

@EmotionallyDestroyed I did indeed. I told her her DS was welcome to stay and play as arranged but that she wasn't welcome to wait with him, and I would be dropping him off at her house because I didn't want her disgusting attitude setting foot back over my threshold. She took her DS and left.

It is such a shame really because her little boy is lovely, but DS2 knows he can't have him over to play any more and can't go to their house either.

WithAFaeryHandInHand · 10/11/2018 12:11

I asked a friend to leave my room in halls when he said something abhorrent about women’s rights. We made up later and he said he was being a dick for a reaction.

My dad had to throw my auntie’s husband out of a restaurant after he became really unpleasant and frankly terrifying after a lot to drink. Haven’t seen him since thank fuck.

Never had to kick out a stranger. I can see why that would be harder maybe.

Foodylicious · 10/11/2018 12:39

An Anglican or Everest windows rep.
He turned up 2 hours early whilst I was in the lounge with a Coral windows rep.
OH had answered the door and He was a bit intense and pushy and insisted on coming in despite being early.
On hearing we had another rep round already he suddenly needed the loo and walked through the lounge where we were (had to to get upstairs).
On his way back down he started insulting the Coral rep, slating their windows and being really rude and intimidating.
I sat there for a minute or two before remembering this was my bloody house!
I stood up and told him he needed to leave now. He initially ignored me and carried on but I kept repeating myself and walking towards him gesturing him out of the room.

The Coral guy to give him credit, remained calm and was not drawn in to an argument.

Needless to say we went with coral!

SilverySurfer · 10/11/2018 16:22

Only spiders Grin

Racecardriver · 10/11/2018 16:27

Yes FIL was invited to stay for a bit. He had to leave after three days because ge took over the kitchen cooking disgusting food and looking shocked when we weren’t grateful for burntcgeap meat and dirty crockery or utensils on every surface.

JEMSY30 · 10/11/2018 16:53

Yes, a friend came to stay and didn't want to leave. (Was meant to be 2 weeks ended up being 6!). Stopped staying hello to DH on the last week and then made a racist remark whilst watching football. We got rid of him same day.

madeyemoodysmum · 10/11/2018 16:59

I used to be a home photographer and once had a man who was so obnoxious to his own daughter I was almost tempted to ask him to leave. I chickened out and always regret not sticking to my principles. I would have been soooo satisfying.

YeOldeTrout · 10/11/2018 18:48

3 times:

Bolshy neighbour 6yo ("tomorrow is a fresh start!" I said on her way out, she behaved like an angel thereafter when visiting)

Fascia board salesman who had hung around almost 3 hrs

Friend who was being obnoxious (we made up)

PollyMycroft · 11/11/2018 17:14

Mil. After years of DH’s family’s nonsense she came round one evening when she knew he was out. I made her a brew and we were chatting and she started. I normally would try to negotiate for family harmony but I’d had enough. I rang DH to check what she was saying was a lie and then asked her to leave. She lost it and chucked her copy of my door key down the hall as she left.
I still speak to her (she is my kids’ Grandma after all-and she is poorly) but she has never had a key to my house since.

7yo7yo · 11/11/2018 17:52

I haven’t kicked anyone out but I had someone who cane to the door after my dad died to ask what had happened, they wanted all the gory details and asked if they could come in to see my mum to which I replied “no” and shut the door.
He knocked the door again and said I only want to know what happened! So I told him to fuck of and shut the door again.

Sewrainbow · 11/11/2018 22:10

Yep, a window salesman. Tried to tell us his company had special dirt repellent windows. When dh called him out at that he looked at our second hand ancient sofa and black and white tv and said, " I don't think you'd be able to afford them". We were only in our 20s and we could but I saw red at his judgemental attitude asked him to leave and complained to his senior!

lisasimpsonssaxophone · 12/11/2018 12:26

All these pushy-salesman stories are reminding me of the time I had basically the opposite problem: a saleswoman who wouldn’t let me leave her shop.

It was some bullshit sounding skincare line made from wine (Vinevera?) and she invited me into the shop to get some free samples. Then she tried to get me to buy a £200 moisturiser, at which point I laughed in her face and told her I was on £20k a year and there was absolutely no way I would ever spend that on face cream. She became really aggressive and told me that if I didn’t look after my skin properly I’d regret it, and starting slagging off my usual Olay products, and pressed me to tell her exactly what credit cards I had that I could put it on.

At the point where she suggested that a wealthy client of hers had just put in an order and she could maybe add on a pot to that for me and work out some kind of arrangement, I literally just said ‘I am leaving NOW’ and had to push past her to get out of the shop.

ParkheadParadise · 12/11/2018 12:43

Yes sadly. My dd's boyfriend. Came home to find him shooting up in my living room.
He landed on his arse in the front garden. The neighbours were looking on gobsmacked at me shouting and screaming in the garden.
Afterwards I was mortified.

twoshedsjackson · 12/11/2018 13:19

Once ejected an abusive mother from my classroom, for a tirade against another child who was fortunately absent. I drew myself up to my full height, pointed, pitched my voice low and commanding, and said "Get out of my classroom"; to my relief and amazement , she did!
Thirty little pairs of saucer eyes gazed at me as a pretended utter calm, sat down with trembling knees and took the register.
Held it together until I got up to the head's office where I collapsed in a quivering, furious doodah!
Apparently, she'd gone to him all meek and mild about "her child being upset" after leaving me.
She was barred from the premises (and my "naughties" were Very Polite for, oh at least a week)

Funnyface1 · 12/11/2018 13:34

A health visitor. She made remarks about 2 year ds having "something clearly wrong with him" and had just been very rude and upset me. She then said she didn't want to leave because I was clearly upset. Since I was upset with her and she wasn't in the least helpful I just said "well I'd appreciate it if you did leave".

Ds had a speech delay. He's now 8 and you would never know it. It's put me off health visitors ever since though, she was really horrible.

KERALA1 · 12/11/2018 13:41

Yes. Its very liberating!

I host foreign students most are ok if not lovely. I had a group I knew would be trouble. They asked if they could smoke in the room (only 15) I said no of course not absolutely not.

The next day I smelled smoke and went into the room and they were there blatently smoking Shock. I rang the language school and told them they had to leave immediately. I made them pack their things. They were Shock just could not believe I was making them go, begging for a second chance etc. I think it was the first time an adult had actually followed through. Hilariously they were moved to a much less nice house way out of town. Slamming the door after them as they left and their shocked faces was great fun.

Hushnownobodycares · 12/11/2018 13:46

Group of foreign language students who were hideously rude about the accommodation to their teacher. They went to another billet that night and were told why.