Had a really petty argument this morning and I’m feeling really fed up. AIBU?
The background is, my newish car is over due for a service. The car notifies you on the dashboard when the next service is due. If you exceed it by 1000 km it invalidates the warranty. I do approx 200 km a week.
DH noticed it when he drove it and there was about 500-700km to go (I had noticed it before and forgot to mention it).
He said he’d book it in. He tends to book it in himself - not me - because cars are his thing and he knows what service is needed and also we live in the Middle East where life is just easier if the man does these things (I know, I know!). I’m a SAHM. I was very capable of doing all this stuff when we lived in England, but here our roles have changed in part down to the culture. So yes, in theory I could have booked it in myself, but he usually does it and all it takes is a phone call and so I left him to do it.
Anyway it got down to about 9km to go, so I checked with him if he’d booked it in and he said no, can you send me the current mileage please? Which I did, a couple of hours later.
Anyway a week went by before he got around to booking it in and they can’t do it until this coming Saturday. I’ve only got a few miles left until we invalidate the warranty and I’ve got to do an unexpected school run this afternoon.
I called him this morning to say I was worried we were going to invalidate the warranty and wondered if we could do anything such as him leave early to do it himself or come home at lunchtime and swap cars with me. The phone call ended with him saying “You need to give me more notice of these things”, to which I replied “Excuse me, you have know about this for over a month and you only booked it in last week”. He said “OK bye” and put the phone down on me.
I called him back because I wasn’t happy about him putting the phone down on me, and he put on this fucking annoying patronising office voice saying “Is there anything I can specifically help you with? If not I’m going to end this call now” and put the phone down on me again.
Then we had a petty text argument after he went through his old messages and found that I “only” sent him the car mileage two weeks ago. I pointed out that he’d know for at least 2-3 weeks before that that the service was due and that he’d sat on his hands for a week after I’d sent him the mileage, before picking up the phone to book it in.
I know this is a very pathetic argument to be having, but I’m fed up with him (when backed into a corner because I’ve pointed out yet again that actually it’s not me that’s wrong but him) using lies, petty behaviour or insults to back out of the situation - he has form for this and I’ve had enough of it. He always tries to turn things back onto me. And the patronising work phone voice thing he did with me has made me absolutely irate.
The fact is, this wasn’t my fault, it was his, but I get blamed for it and as soon as I try and fight back he uses dirty tactics to get me to shut up. AIBU?