AIBU to stop my child’s swim lessons?

[Frustratedmum78]

My DS7 has been learning for 3 years (that’s around £1260) and he can’t swim more than 4 metres, can’t float on his back, cannot do backstroke, can barely tread water. I can’t blame his instructors as he has had many. He just doesn’t seem to be bothered, absolute minimum effort goes in. Part of me wants to use bribery and the other part thinks I need to stop his lessons and go back to them in a year.
He had 3 one to one sessions earlier in the year but the improvement was minimal and only lasted for those sessions.
I believe swimming is an important life skill but I’m banging my head against the wall here! I swear he just goes to socialise!

U found the council lessons crap, tbh. Absolutely rubbish and a waste of time and money.
I took him to our local swimming club, and the teacher had him swimming within 2 weeks, with face in the water.
Check if any of your local swimming clubs accept non-swimmers

Best thing is to let him have a break from lessons but take him with you. Yes learning to swim is an important lifeskill, but most people who drown can actually swim but get in trouble swimming somewhere they shouldn't.

Dyspraxic, ASD, now adult DD had so many lessons, private, and school. Over 10 years. Still didn't get it, after many years. Same with riding a bike. Have given up, due to huge meltdowns Every.Single. Time.

If she wants to swim or ride a bike she's an adult and can learn on her own time. I'm done being abused and hit trying to help her learn.

, he won’t come up for air

And breaststroke where you keep your head above the water?

Please don't use punishment. I can't believe the amount of people suggesting that. If he's not motivated now that's hardly going to work

I'm a 42 year old adult who never learnt to swim. I was scared in the water and no amount of lessons helped that. It's only recently I've started to conquer it and get some semblance of a stroke together. And what made the difference for me was fun.

My 1:1 instructor made the lessons interesting, fun and no pressure. I don't care she was using amusing tricks she uses with kids to get me to the next level, it worked.

Take the pressure off but keep up going in the water, making it fun. I'd be inclined to stop instructors and just make it something you do together.

I never took either of mine to lessons. Their Dad taught them by taking them to the pool twice a week.