To really hate the trend for "Bye, Love You" at the end of a call?

[SherlockHolmes]

It just seems to downgrade the meaning of "I love you" completely. It's almost like saying "take care" or "see you later".

I always say that I love my OH and family as I get off the phone. I have done it for as long as I can remember and will never stop. If, god forbid, I never speak to them again I want that to be the last thing they hear from me.

rivertam

I try very hard not let the children leave for school without a hug and 'love you' if we've had an argument or disagreement

Its happened once or twice with dd as we're too bloody similar but we've usually texted within a few minutes

I dont do it with dh before we go to bed...to be honest if he does die in his sleep i reckon its karma for disagreeing with me anyway

Rufus well, sure - but what's being said repeatedly on this thread is about thinking that your words on any given day will be the last that person hears of you. I find that a bit weird, I suppose, if I'm being honest. I can't imagine doing through life in that way. I mean, my dad dropped down dead unexpectedly and the last words he heard from me weren't I love you, though we did have a nice chat on the phone a couple of days beforehand. I haven't been beating myself up about that for the last 15 years.

Oh i see, ive obviously not paid enough attention

I wouldnt say i love you all the time it would be flaming obvious i do

The last thing I remember my mum saying to me was 'youre always saying he's naughty' (re ds1.... who wasn't very naughty)

And i know rationally that cant be the last thing...she always said love you, but it feels like it was the last thing

Interesting. I say "trend" because it's something I've noticed happening more and more over the past 10-15 years (a bit like the incorrect pronunciation of the letter h).

And yes, people will say "I've been doing this for 50 years", but it really wasn't a thing when I was young.

I obviously don't have a problem with people loving each other, or expressing their love for each other, but it's just a bit trite.

And "love you" is very different to "I love you". I'm trying to point out that it's just become a generalised "take care" kind of comment, rather than a heartfelt expression.

I've often heard people in the office say it "by accident" to a client or the like, and it's because it's become a habit, and therefore meaningless.

the last thing any of my family will hear from me is 'cheerio!', most likely. Which doesn't mean 'I don't love you', last time I checked.

Oh FFS! This is really scraping the bottom of the barrel. Now telling someone you love that you love them when hanging up the phone is annoying. Misery guts.

How is 'love you' any different to 'i love you' fgs?? I say 'love you' all the time, doesn't mean i love somebody any less because i missed out the word 'I' 🙄

RiverTam i don't spend my days worrying about when someone i love dies. I know it will happen eventually. But it makes me feel better knowing that the last words i said to them meant something to them.

My husband has ended every phone call this way for nearly two decades and it still makes me happy inside. Not worn off at all

I only do this with my mum, dad, husband and daughter so i don't think it has downgraded the meaning for us.

Absolutely relate to this OP!!!
I hear “love you” banded about with such ease between people and on social media - I only say it to my husband, kids and real close loved ones; not a minor acquaintance or work colleague. Sometimes when people I’m not close to say it to me I do an inward eye roll! Yes I do think it’s become the thing to say!

I thought I was the only one who found this irritating. But I admit I'm not touchy feely and go on the assumption that my loved ones know I love them and don't need to be told every time I speak to them.

My dad says

Loves you

And i call him daddy

Just to make things more interesting...

I worked out the other day that i very rarely tell my children i love them

Never sign off with an x in texts

Do a heart sometimes...that must mean something!

If you actually love someone then saying it often to them can't possibly "cheapen" it. Sad you think expressions of love need to be rationed to be meaningful. I could count on one hand the number of times my mum said it to me. That didn't make me feel more loved

I only say it to my partner.

I've often heard people in the office say it "by accident" to a client or the like, and it's because it's become a habit, and therefore meaningless.

Is it meaningless when a child calls their mother 'mummy' because they might slip up and call their teacher mummy? Because it's a similar things - slips of the tongue don't mean that there's no intention/emotion behind what you say.

Rufus please tell them more often. I've been that child. It means something

I really think you should say 'i love you' to people you love as much as possible.
It makes people feel good and it may be the last time you say it

My Dad has dementia and metastatic cancer.

I always end a call this way. It might be our last.

My sister does this with her kids. Never sounds sincere.

The idea that saying it 'too much' can somehow cheapen it is baffling. Does that mean if you say 'thank you' or 'excuse me' more than x times a day it is meaningless, even if you actually mean it? Or is it just 'i love you' that has to be rationed?

I say love you to family members and my best friends and I love you to my partner. They are two separate types of “love” but I think it’s nice. I like hearing it back though so yknow shrug

Is there a legal limit? Are there defined persons we can say it too? Defined circumstances and media?

You think trite and cheapening. I say who cares what you think, I’ll talk to my loved ones as I chose and when I chose. And I’ll mean it.

Is that a trend? I said it to my parents when we ended a call, I say it to my brother and SIL and my husband and kids and always have.

Actually, to be fair, we usually say, "love you, bye."