In the midst of what feels like a stupid argument with partner. I own a maisonette flat that was a dump when I bought it. Have spent a lot of time, cash and energy renovating it, converting the upstairs etc. Final frontier was the kitchen which I did last summer and it was extremely stressful and rushed to get it done before lodgers moved in and we went away for a few months. There were a few bits left to do which are all now done apart from boxing in some pipe work, which is a bit tricky because it spans the width of the galley kitchen under a window and there are some space issues with opening the washing machine door and powder tray.
Partner moved in a year ago when we came back from being away. I never got around to getting somebody in to do the boxing in done and partner ended up saying that he would do it but it was a vague promise and no firm plans for when. I came home the other day to find him pulling out the washing machine to start doing it. I said great, but can we talk about how i want it to look when it’s done. He immediately bit my head off and said that he knew I was going to interfere. I said that he can do it however he likes but I do want to confirm how it will look at the end and then he can get on with it and I won’t say a word. He got really shirty about that but I said it’s not unreasonable to have a say in how it looks and he agreed with that after a bit of arguing. I explained how I wanted it and he got really annoyed and said that he couldn’t do it like that because he wasn’t skilled enough so I would just have to have it look however he could do it. I said I would prefer to just pay for somebody to do it so it looks the way I want and he had a total meltdown and said I wasn’t respecting or trusting him and that I should just let him do it however he wants and that he’s hurt that I’m insisting it looks a certain way when I know he’s insecure about his diy skills.
I’m lost on this one, is it unreasonable to want the final bit of renovation to look how I’ve imagined it, or am I being mean?
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Noodella18 · 06/11/2018 23:40
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