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Lodger and one night stands

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lastqueenofscotland · 05/11/2018 21:17

This is totally not me being prudish.
I recently got a new lodger, she’s late 20s and married young and recently divorced.

She is absolutely lovely, pays rent on time, tidies after herself, and is generally a really nice person and I enjoy her company and we have become friends.

However she does go out a couple of nights a week and often brings a man she’s met on a night out home. I’d have no issue with overnight visitors at all, friends, a more regular partner but these are complete strangers to both her and me coming into my home, long after I’ve gone to bed makes me really uncomfortable.
AIBU to say no to it?

OP posts:
SingaporeSlinky · 07/11/2018 11:04

OP have you had a chat with lodger?

tiggerkid · 07/11/2018 11:08

Definitely says something because you also live in the same house. I totally understand your concerns.

crosstalk · 07/11/2018 11:17

say something to her, OP but keep clear of saying "a long-term boyfriend would be okay" unless you set out rules for that too. Think what you'd be happy with re that - twice a week? four nights a week? moving in?

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