My DS is extremely clever. Hes top sets for everything and passes everything with little effort. However he is unbelievably forgetful and dense. I have to tell him everything at least 4 times. He will then re ask the same questions over and over. I eventually change the answer (for example "what colour is the sky?" say blue over and over then change it to "purple") and he pulls me up on why I have changed the answer. So its almost a habit rather than genuine questions.
He forgets his coat, shoes, hat, gloves WEEKLY. we have to buy new clothes for him on almost every day out/trip/holiday. He has left small items like toys and large items like ipads in places, so it doesnt matter the size/price.
He exits the car and will leave his coat inside, door wide open and just wander off. We call him back every time and make him redo it, so its not a case of him just being spoilt.
I spend half my life re telling him things and calling him back to do things he hasnt done.
Recently I have been making him buy things out of his pocket money. For example he lost his hat - he paid £6 for a new one. This seems to upset him but hasnt improved him forgetting things. I have tried reciting lists to him before he leaves somewhere - nothing works.
Recently he has started losing things in school. He is very innocent and doesnt see bad in other people, no matter what we say. For example he gave away £60 worth of Pokemon cards to a boy in his class because the boy didnt have any (he did and is from a wealthy family so didnt need them). If people ask to see things or borrow things he instantly gets them out and shares, which results in them being taken. The teachers can almost never trace them or get them back. Last week he took in some sweets to share, took them out in the middle of the playground and had people snatching and stealing them. I had told him to give them to the teacher to give out but he hadnt listened.
He came out of school today and informed me hes lost a sporting award he was given yesterday. He took it in for assembly. Apparently he took it out to show his best friend (who is lovely and wouldnt have taken it), then looked away and it was gone. Magically disappeared. Rather than tell his teacher he didnt say anything till hometime then ran round like a headless chicken looking for it (as everyone else left, including the person whose taken the award). Hes come out, 15 minutes late, extremely distressed about it. I do not understand how someone can be this dense. Over and over. I have warned him multiple times not to get things out near people and to take care of his things. He doesnt thing then acts shocked.
His 5 year old brother is the complete opposite of him so we believe its just built in.
AIBU to not have a clue what on earth do I do? I am sick to death of it. I am sick of going into school about things and I am sick of him showing no respect for anything. I feel like I spend my days dreading him coming home to see what the latest drama hes involved in is and then the evenings repeating the same things at him "dont lose things. dont leave things unattended. dont get things out in large crowds".