to think DP's ExW is wrong to not invite him to his DD's birthday party

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My DP has been divorced for two years and has two DC with his ExW. She has always been very difficult, despite their divorce being a mutual decision.

Next week is his DD's 9th birthday which also happens to coincide with her 40th birthday. She has decided to have a joint party and refuses to tell my DP where or when it is and has made it clear he is not invited.

He is very upset as he is close to his DD (and DS) and has them once a week and every other weekend. Her argument is that it's her party and it's up to her if she doesn't want him there. And he has his DD for a couple of hours in the evening of her actual birthday and could do something for her birthday then.

Firstly, I actually think it's pretty out of order denying her DD her own birthday party and making it more about her - she's 9!

Secondly, shouldn't she be putting any bad feeling about my DP to one side for once and let him come to the party so her DD can have her dad there?

Your re both sounding very entitled.

First, your comment about she needs to put her feeling about my Dp to the side for once. How do you know she has or that she hasn't?? Also 2 years is a very short time for emotionally moving on after a divorce.

2nd, Just because your Dp has moved on doesn't mean that it's the same for everyone.

3rd, YABVU as she can invite who she wants to her party and even if it is joint this still applies. Especially as you will have time on the birthday, to do celebrations with Dp daughter.

Lastly, how do you know that she has always been difficult, were you there from day 1? If so, then yes you would know and she will probably not stop being "difficult" and if you were not around then you don't actually know if this is true.

Why can't dad organise his own party or day out with dd. Take her and few friends bowling, swimming etc