Cheeky neighbours?

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My neighbour has just called my DP and asked if he could take his children and mother to the airport next week as they (neighbours) will already be away. It's a 120 mile round trip. However the neighbour has asked to use the 7 seater. Which is my new car I've had less than 2 weeks. It's not brand new but it's new to me and it cost me a lot of money. He agreed to this on the phone and then came to ask me and I've said no. I don't want my family car being used a taxi. My partner thinks I'm being unreasonable. Do you?

Some neighbours this would be ok for, some most certainly not. It depends on your relationship with them really.

If your DP is happy to do it for fuel costs why not? My colleague did this for me when I'd been let down at short notice and I was beyond grateful.

Are your neighbours fabulous? Is there a reason they can’t get a taxi?

What they’ve asked is a massive favour even if they were very good friends. Then asking for the new to you car, they’re turning into CFers.

Wtf?! Why on earth did your DP agree? It’s absolute the cheekiest thing I’ve ever heard from neighbours. I’m quite fond of mine, but blow me, at the max, my DH asked one to drive him 3 miles to the stables when I’d been blue lighted off to A&E and had to leave my car there.

120 Miles is crazy. Tell the to get the train.

Your partner should have asked you but being as he hasn't and has said he'll do it (& won't be so careless with the use of your car again!), as long as they give him something, which I'm sure they will, why not?

You must be on very good terms with your neighbours for them to feel they can ask such a favour and it's nice to help people. We all might need a helping hand one day!

I've had neighbours I'd do this for, because they were also friends. I don't have anything against my current neighbours, but I'd be doing them a favour to run them into town, never mind a 120-mile round trip. Only you can know, OP.

If he has already said yes, then I think he should just do it. It’s his choice, it’s not like he volunteered you to do it. It would annoy me too though. Personally I would let him use my car, unless you think he is a terrible driver, or if it stops you doing something that you had planned to do on the day .

Your DP can use his car, instead of yours, otherwise they can get a magic bus.

We need to know what your relationship with the neighbour is.

It's no good starting a thread and wording it like the random neighbour's been a cheeky bastard when in reality you're all good mates with a history of favours.

One of my neighbours fed my cat for 6 weeks.....and took my children to school for a year.

Another never spoke to me after I asked her if it was ok for me to cut the low hanging branch of her tree because it was in my garden.

@ImHudsonHesHicks we drive that far to PIL every few weeks, I'm nearly eight months pregnant and drove a 470 mile round trip for work last week plus driving in between. My office base daily commute is nearly 60 miles round trip. I'll be driving 500 miles round trip for work next week. Also isn't it your DP driving? If he's ok to do it and offered what's the issue?

Also you didn't answer if the larger car was a family purchase or if you bought it with your own money

Get them a cost using Uber..

If your partner is fine to drive them then I dot see the issue. If he expects you to drive then that is cheeky.

Sorry thst is don't see the issue.

Your car. Your choice

Tbh I'm more annoyed at DP that he thinks I'm being unreasonable, if he's happy to do it then he can do it in his car. He has a mondeo so not a small car. We are not financially joined at all. It is my car i saved hard fo buy. It's the most expensive thing I have ever bought.
We have a good relationship with the neighbours they're nice people I just feel this is a little too much.

Find out how much a taxi would cost, then tell them it's going to cost them twenty pounds more for fuel.

YANBU. Stick to your guns OP.

120 miles...........um let me think.................HAVE YOU TAKEN LEAVE OF YOUR SENSES???!!!!

Addison Lee

Uber

Local taxi

Train?

That's easily at least £50 for fuel alone!

Total piss takers even asking in the first place and wtf your dh was thinking I don't know!!

And you're right if your finances are separate he CERTAINLY doesn't get to answer regarding use of YOUR property!

He wants to give of HIS time, property (his car!) and money is his choice but he doesn't get to speak for yours!

No way! If the neighbours can't afford a taxi/uber/train/shuttle bus, then they can't afford the trip away in the first place.

That's easily at least £50 for fuel alone!

What do you drive?!

I can get 600 uneconomically driven miles out of £50 fuel in my very ordinary everyday car

That's easily at least £50 for fuel alone!

Spot the yummy mummy who drives a Sherman tank on the school run.

£40 of petrol gets me about 600miles in my twenty year old car.