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To ask about sex after childbirth?

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LipstickTraces · 04/11/2018 18:16

I had twins by c section eleven weeks ago.
C section itself was awful and far more traumatic than I expected. Babies also spent several weeks in NICU.

I’ve had sex once since the birth and it was uncomfortable and borderline painful. My sex drive seems to have vanished and I feel so rubbish about my body. I hate the area around my scar which is still numb and painful. My previously neat boobs have also been replaced by comedy sized breastfeeding bazookas!

How soon after childbirth did others dtd? Especially those who had c sections. Atm I feel like my sex life is over and DH is getting very sexually frustratedSad

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tenbob · 04/11/2018 22:40

C-sections here... somewhere around 4- 6 weeks afterwards? It wasn't memorable other than being uncomfortable

My sex drive was there but a combination of being dog tired, and having a baby in the room with us meant I didn't really get my mojo back for a while. And penetrative sex wasn't pleasurable until after I cut down breastfeeding

On balance, given the choice of sex or an extra 20 mins of sleep, I'd take the sleep

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DeadGood · 06/11/2018 08:06

“DD c-section week stay in hospital 3 weeks after was very tense and frightened but was ok”

Genuine question - if you felt very tense and frightened, why have sex?

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