Aibu to call social services

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Posting here for advice and traffic. I have a family friend who is in an emotionally abusive and financially abusive relationship. I believe he has been physical before in terms of grabbing her arm etc but not punching.

They have 2 small children. The eldest (5) has nonverbal autism.

He is abusive to her in front of the children. She has recordings of his locking the smallest one in a cupboard whilst she cries hysterically in the dark to be let out. He calls her horrendous names in front of the children.

She has spoken to women's aid and is starting to get help but is still confused as he is sometimes nice.

What can I do to help her.

She is. Well I hope so. She excited to be starting over now. I've helped her out with a few bits for the house and some kids stuff. She's got a good family around her as well.

This is good news. You are a wonderful friend. to her, and you.

You are a great friend & I am sure she appreciates all your support.

I am lad she is getting thins sorted.
I am not sure I understand the Halloween story?? Kid got facepaint all over self. Dad tells her off and`` takes her to bathroom,kid cries hard? Is that right? it` doesn't sound like abuse?

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He really shouted at her and dragged her to the bathroom.

Update.... She's left him. Moved into a rental earlier this week. He's now protesting about wanting 50 50 with the children and she's underestimated his commitment as a dad....

Great news that she left him! How is she doing?

'Underestimated his ability as a dad' hahahahahahahahahahahaahhaha oh yeah he's a great dad.
Well done for supporting her OP. Do you know if she's going to report any of it to the police?

It's hilarious. Theyve been his focus since birth, he wants them as much as her.... His work can. Be accommodating. I could of written the script. Went to see her last night. She's doing so well. Super strong. Her eyes are wide open to his abuse. He sent a begging message this morning saying he misses her. It's bullshit. He's realised he's going to have to make his own. Dinner....

Thank god she's left

Yeah. So pleased for her. Her family are very supportive as well.

It will be a FAR better outcome if she leaves and takes the children somewhere safe than if SS rock up, ‘assess’ the situation and bugger off. Do you think he’s just going to say ‘Oh that’s fine love’?

Exactly! SS won't support her. If anything like my friends case, where the child wasn't harmed, they will scrutinise her and won't leave her alone making her feel like it's all her fault.