AIBU?
To go out to spoons when pregnant
ilovepuppys · 03/11/2018 18:53
So boyfriends birthday today! He is out with friends celebrating in weather spoons tonight ! I wish I could have joined earlier but have work until 11. Would I be being unreasonable if I popped in to spoons for a soft drink and joined everyone for an hour? I am 5 months pregnant! Is this weird? Lol ever since I've been pregnant haven't been out to pubs or anything!
ilovepuppys · 03/11/2018 19:37
The spoons here is rather big it's where everyone goes for pre drinks and has a night club attached. That's why I was sceptical but I'm just anxious I'll get a weird look from someone I happen to bump in to its quite a small town where I live everyone knows everyone! Don't want someone thinking I'm being irresponsible
MrsStrowman · 03/11/2018 19:39
I've been to a beer festival, a cider festival, a number of bars and pubs since I've been pregnant, we even went to a vineyard on holiday (DH did the testing and we bought things to bring home so I can try after baby is born) you don't have to drink to socialise! The only issue I would've had years ago would've been the smoke and no need to worry about that now.
polkadotpixie · 03/11/2018 19:55
I went to gigs, music festivals and a whiskey museum when I was pregnant!
Obviously I didn't drink but it never crossed my mind that I shouldn't be there. If anyone had tried to tell me it was inappropriate I'd have ripped them a new arsehole!
Go, have fun, ignore the busybodies 😂
April2020mom · 03/11/2018 20:00
Go have fun! I went on holiday when I was pregnant with the twins two years ago. Make the most of it. I loved going to pubs as well at night with my partner. Be sure to wear a coat and hat. As long as you do not have wine it’s fine honestly. I’m a vegetarian and I’ve been invited to a pub lunch on Monday night with some friends.
StillNumb · 03/11/2018 20:03
Not at all. I had my DD back in the day before the pregnancy police came into force. I occasionnally went to the pub and had a half of bitter! That was also in the days before the smoking ban.
I believe that back in 50s/60s mums to be were encouraged to drink Guinness for the iron!
I feel sorry for mums to be nowadays with the all the judgemental eyes on them.
TheFormerMrsPugwash · 03/11/2018 20:16
Blimey. Go and enjoy it. I know things have changed since I wsas pg, but I had three glasses of Champagne at Christmas when pg with DD2. She was still 11lb, so her growth presumably didn't suffer - and you are not even proposing to drink. All you are doing is sitting in a pub. 
FermatsTheorem · 03/11/2018 20:22
Crikey, no-one told me this was on the list of things "not allowed." I remember entertaining a whole pub full of people on a friend's birthday when I was about eight and a half months gone - DS decided to put on a break-dancing display so impressive you could see my belly bouncing around through a thick woolly jumper! My mostly single, somewhat geeky male friends sat there in a combination of amazement and horror (I think they were all thinking "John Hurt in Alien...") I also used to go into the pub all on my own quite regularly when he was a baby - if he fell asleep in the pram, I'd nip in for a mug of hot chocolate and a read of the paper. Very civilized.
Gincompetent · 04/11/2018 08:19
Who are these people who judge pregnant women out at enjoying themselves?? I can honestly say I've never encountered this, and I have enjoyed nights in pubs and clubs when heavily pregnant (sometimes until 1am in the morning - designated driver) without feeling I was being looked at or judged. Or maybe I just didn't give a flying fuck notice.
I hope you went out and had fun OP.
(Although I have I wouldn't recommend dancing at a wedding reception all night at 37.5 weeks  - felt like I needed a couple of hip replacements the morning after that!)
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