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To go out to spoons when pregnant

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ilovepuppys · 03/11/2018 18:53

So boyfriends birthday today! He is out with friends celebrating in weather spoons tonight ! I wish I could have joined earlier but have work until 11. Would I be being unreasonable if I popped in to spoons for a soft drink and joined everyone for an hour? I am 5 months pregnant! Is this weird? Lol ever since I've been pregnant haven't been out to pubs or anything!

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ilovepuppys · 03/11/2018 19:37

The spoons here is rather big it's where everyone goes for pre drinks and has a night club attached. That's why I was sceptical but I'm just anxious I'll get a weird look from someone I happen to bump in to its quite a small town where I live everyone knows everyone! Don't want someone thinking I'm being irresponsible

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EmmaGeddon · 03/11/2018 19:37

Go out and have fun, you're pregnant, no-one will bat an eyelid unless you order a jug of Long Island Iced Tea.


BowTieBaby · 03/11/2018 19:38

Go and enjoy a nice glass of wine Smile


MrsStrowman · 03/11/2018 19:39

I've been to a beer festival, a cider festival, a number of bars and pubs since I've been pregnant, we even went to a vineyard on holiday (DH did the testing and we bought things to bring home so I can try after baby is born) you don't have to drink to socialise! The only issue I would've had years ago would've been the smoke and no need to worry about that now.


nancy75 · 03/11/2018 19:40

I was in the pub the night before my Dd was born ( not drinking obviously!) Dd was 10 days late so I was well over 9 months & had a very obvious bump! Nobody said a word, and if they had I’d have told them where to shove it.


LEMtheoriginal · 03/11/2018 19:40

If you were going to my lical spoons id say yanbu the one in the next town i wouldnt set foot in and im not even pregnant


Didyeeaye · 03/11/2018 19:41

I was at a Christmas night out dancing away, sipping a lovely smoothie and having a great time at 29weeks. Just wear comfy shoes, laugh at the drunk people and find a yummy smoothie you like rather than lots of fizzy drinks that may give you heart burn


tillytrotter21 · 03/11/2018 19:42

What an odd idea, not doing stuff merely for being pregnant, I was dinghy racing until 6 months, with the social events that followed!


DanglyBangly · 03/11/2018 19:43

Never, ever have I heard anything about how pregnant women shouldn’t be in pubs. It’s completely ridiculous. Do what you want.


SoyDora · 03/11/2018 19:46

WTF?! How weird! As long as you’re not knocking back the tequilas I can’t see what the issue could possibly be?


SoyDora · 03/11/2018 19:47

Oh and I’m 32 weeks and have a few pre Christmas nights out planned with friends .


stickytoffeepuddingandicecream · 03/11/2018 19:49

I was 9 months pregnant over Christmas one year, I enjoyed several nights out in pubs/bars with family, friends or just my husband over the festive period. Why shouldn't you go into a bar if you are pregnant? It isn't contagious!


KitKat1985 · 03/11/2018 19:53

Yes of course you can go to Wetherspoons in the evening when pregnant. Why on earth couldn't you? Confused


OhFlipMama · 03/11/2018 19:54

Why is it weird?


CuppaSarah · 03/11/2018 19:55

No. Pregnant women should not be out the house past 8pm. You'll grow hair on your bump or something for sure. My mum told me so!


polkadotpixie · 03/11/2018 19:55

I went to gigs, music festivals and a whiskey museum when I was pregnant!

Obviously I didn't drink but it never crossed my mind that I shouldn't be there. If anyone had tried to tell me it was inappropriate I'd have ripped them a new arsehole!

Go, have fun, ignore the busybodies 😂


SelinaMyers · 03/11/2018 19:59

I went to Spoons the night I went into labour! And for drinks (juice for me) after my baby shower.
like other PPs I ate out, went to concerts and cocktail bars.


April2020mom · 03/11/2018 20:00

Go have fun! I went on holiday when I was pregnant with the twins two years ago. Make the most of it. I loved going to pubs as well at night with my partner. Be sure to wear a coat and hat. As long as you do not have wine it’s fine honestly. I’m a vegetarian and I’ve been invited to a pub lunch on Monday night with some friends.


bridgetreilly · 03/11/2018 20:00

OP, I'm pretty sure that all they meant by that was that pregnant women shouldn't be drinking, not that you literally shouldn't walk through the door of a pub.


StillNumb · 03/11/2018 20:03

Not at all. I had my DD back in the day before the pregnancy police came into force. I occasionnally went to the pub and had a half of bitter! That was also in the days before the smoking ban.

I believe that back in 50s/60s mums to be were encouraged to drink Guinness for the iron!

I feel sorry for mums to be nowadays with the all the judgemental eyes on them.


SoyDora · 03/11/2018 20:03

I’m a vegetarian and I’ve been invited to a pub lunch on Monday night with some friends

Should vegetarians not go for pub lunches?! This thread gets weirder Grin


TheFormerMrsPugwash · 03/11/2018 20:16

Blimey. Go and enjoy it. I know things have changed since I wsas pg, but I had three glasses of Champagne at Christmas when pg with DD2. She was still 11lb, so her growth presumably didn't suffer - and you are not even proposing to drink. All you are doing is sitting in a pub. Confused


FermatsTheorem · 03/11/2018 20:22

Crikey, no-one told me this was on the list of things "not allowed." I remember entertaining a whole pub full of people on a friend's birthday when I was about eight and a half months gone - DS decided to put on a break-dancing display so impressive you could see my belly bouncing around through a thick woolly jumper! My mostly single, somewhat geeky male friends sat there in a combination of amazement and horror (I think they were all thinking "John Hurt in Alien...") I also used to go into the pub all on my own quite regularly when he was a baby - if he fell asleep in the pram, I'd nip in for a mug of hot chocolate and a read of the paper. Very civilized.


Theweasleytwins · 03/11/2018 20:24

I went to a bar while pregnant and had water. No one said anything

Also have been to spoons several times this pregnancy because i love their pizzaSmile


Gincompetent · 04/11/2018 08:19

Who are these people who judge pregnant women out at enjoying themselves?? I can honestly say I've never encountered this, and I have enjoyed nights in pubs and clubs when heavily pregnant (sometimes until 1am in the morning - designated driver) without feeling I was being looked at or judged. Or maybe I just didn't give a flying fuck notice.

I hope you went out and had fun OP.

(Although I have I wouldn't recommend dancing at a wedding reception all night at 37.5 weeks  - felt like I needed a couple of hip replacements the morning after that!)

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