AIBU?
To go out to spoons when pregnant
ilovepuppys · 03/11/2018 18:53
So boyfriends birthday today! He is out with friends celebrating in weather spoons tonight ! I wish I could have joined earlier but have work until 11. Would I be being unreasonable if I popped in to spoons for a soft drink and joined everyone for an hour? I am 5 months pregnant! Is this weird? Lol ever since I've been pregnant haven't been out to pubs or anything!
HamishTheTalkingCactus · 04/11/2018 09:38
When I was heavily PG, I had a v strange chap claiming to be a doctor (but strangely enough he was completely unfamiliar with the ward names of the hospital he claimed to work at 
) lecture me for being in a pub whilst pregnant. PG women do attract some odd behaviour - a cynic might think they are seen as an easy target for bullies..... So I don't think it's an odd concern at all.
minniebow · 04/11/2018 09:41
I sometimes take notice of mothers that have young babies with them in the pub whilst drinking but I'd never bat an eyelid at a pregnant woman. As long as you're not getting drunk then no one should have any reason to 'judge' you. Hope you had/have fun OP and good luck with your baby!
sollyfromsurrey · 04/11/2018 10:16
Oh bless OP, you are worried about what other people think. You are about to become a parent. Stop worrying about what busybodies think or you will be in for a rough ride as a parent! You won't be chucking back the booze. Go out and have a nice night out. Can't believe you let others make you feel like you can't have a life.
Echobelly · 04/11/2018 10:18
I agree that you should ignore people thinking badly of you. I indeed had the occasional beer or glass of wine while pregnant, although I didn't actually feel much like drinking both times anyway.
I really hate the blanket 'not drinking' when pregnant thing because to me it just says 'You women are silly trollops so you'd better not drink even one, because you'll only go and have another 5, you daft cow'.
Actually, many of us are perfectly capable of having one drink and then stopping, thanks.
stegosauruslady · 04/11/2018 10:35
People are such weirdos around pregnant women. I (30 weeks pregnant) took DP out on friday night to a Marco Pierre White restaurant and had a sip of his beer to try it...you should have seen the looks I was getting from the next table over!
I'm going to a metal gig in a few weeks (obviously staying out of the pit!) but happily metalheads tend to be rational, lovely humans so I doubt I'll get any grief!
AllPizzasGreatAndSmall · 04/11/2018 10:50
Is this weird? Lol ever since I've been pregnant haven't been out to pubs or anything!
The weird thing is not going out anywhere just because you're pregnant!
I can understand towards the end, because it might be uncomfortable, but not before that. Why do you think people are going to be looking at you and judging - most people won't even notice a 5 month bump and surely friends who know are not going to judge you?
cupcakedreamer · 04/11/2018 10:52
I'm 23, also living in a small town and went to Spoons last weekend at 28 weeks pregnant. I had fun, friends were there, nobody I didn't know spoke to me, I was having amlaugh and didn't notice any stares, and I even had shock horror half a gin and lemonade that wasn't even 1 unit of alcohol. Pregnancy shouldn't, ever, make you shut yourself away, because once baby is here you won't be able to get out as easily. It was freezing though, walking home at half eleven, so take layers.
But mostly, enjoy yourself!
Spudlet · 04/11/2018 10:57
I went out when obviously pregnant - I just had mocktails instead of cocktails. Some of them were delicious - I have very fond memories of one that involved lemongrass, I think? Yum.
I don't recall a singld, solitary person batting a single, solitary eyelash. Maybe I just have a good resting bitch face that wards the fuckers off?
If anyone says anything I'd make a rather pitying comment about how you don't need to drink to have a good time... shame the same can't be said for some people...
Skittlesandbeer · 04/11/2018 10:57
Don’t give a fig about other people’s judgment. Go and enjoy yourself.
I remember being that pregnant (and more) sitting outside my local pub, having a grand time with my mates! I used to order alcohol-free beers (they kindly bought them in for me), and watch the passers-by tut at me as they assumed it was alcoholic. It was hilarious! I was tempted to borrow a cigarette and hold it, to complete the picture. Or sit a shot of whiskey next to my ‘beer’.
Point being, people will have their crazy prejudices, don’t let that become an obstacle to your life.
Congrats on the kiddo, by the way!
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