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I was told off by a work colleague

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selepele · 02/11/2018 20:28

i have been at my current job since June, the person concerned has been there longer than me. He is the accounts guy, not my manager and I do not need to answer to him at all.

He works downstairs and me upstairs but you can see my desk if you walk round the corner from downstairs as I'm at the top of the stairs.

I work as admin so people sometimes ask me to type up stuff for them ect, which is no issues. I was hired to do the project manager and ICT persons admin.

so this particular person I have never had issues with and had a good relationship with until today.

He ask me to type up some stuff and I ask when does he need it by which he says "its not urgent, like 2-3 days I don't need it today" he gave me this work around 3pm

so everyone has left the office and it is just me and him (we are a small team of around 8) he walks pass the stairs (at the bottom of the stairs) once and sees me on my phone, he then does it again to go loo then when he is back turns around and says to me...

"I will appreciate if you do what I told you to do and not play on your phone"
I said I am doing it which he said "no youre not" and I said you told me it wasn't urgent which he said "that's not the point you don't just sit there on your phone"

I was very shocked by his attitude, as stated he is NOT my manager or of any authority to me.

He didn't even come upstairs to see if I had done anything since giving it to me so I made a point to finish it all and put it on his desk before the end of the day at 5pm.

I then left and I did slam the door and ignore him when he said bye to me.

do you think I am wrong at all?


He asked me to type up some stuff for him, which was fine

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selepele · 02/11/2018 20:31

sorry for the end typo sentence. Don't know how that got there

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YouTheCat · 02/11/2018 20:31

Are you even employed to do his admin stuff?

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selepele · 02/11/2018 20:32

nope I'm not

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tinyme77 · 02/11/2018 20:33

We're you on your phone on work time?

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MedSchoolRat · 02/11/2018 20:33

Sounds like he was stressed & took it out on you. It's cowbaggery but I wouldn't mull over it; it's really him who has a problem.

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WelcomeToGreenvale · 02/11/2018 20:33

I mean, if you're working, don't play on your phone.

He wasn't to know what you were doing though and said it wasn't urgent, and as asked above is it even part of your job to do his work?

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ScreamingValenta · 02/11/2018 20:34

What's your policy on using personal phones in the office? Do you work to time, or is it the sort of job when you're expected to work as long as needed to get the job done?

Would you have preferred him to give the feedback to your manager and let your manager deal with it?

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selepele · 02/11/2018 20:34

I see the ICT person and the project manager as my managers and the two directors who also sit upstairs.

I was told when starting I answer to the project manager however due to my relationship with the ICT person as my job use to be her job she is basically my manager too.

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SpottingTheZebras · 02/11/2018 20:34

Is he senior to you and were you spending time that your company was paying you to work playing about on your phone?

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honeysucklejasmine · 02/11/2018 20:34

Why were you on your phone?

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BathFullOfEels · 02/11/2018 20:34

Fuck that! Why did you do it? Now he’ll just shout at you every time he wants something done. What a coward to do it when no one else was there to hear him.

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selepele · 02/11/2018 20:35

they are very relaxed there, people have conversations at their desk I don't personally but I will message someone back. The ceo, my managers have walked pass me on my phone and said nothing.
I am not always on it either.

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HollowTalk · 02/11/2018 20:36

Is this a reverse?

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selepele · 02/11/2018 20:37

I was on my phone because one of my family members is in hospital so I check on her throughout the day as she gets bored in there. That is who I was messaging when he said all this

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YouTheCat · 02/11/2018 20:37

Speak to your manager. Just ask to clarify if you're supposed to do this guy's admin. Say he asked you and you did it but you weren't sure if you were meant to - that sort of thing.

He sounds like a twat.

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WitchesHatRim · 02/11/2018 20:37

I then left and I did slam the door and ignore him when he said bye to me.

walks pass the stairs (at the bottom of the stairs) once and sees me on my phone, he then does it again to go loo then when he is back turns around

Not good for someone who has only been in your job since June.

He is the accounts guy, not my manager and I do not need to answer to him at all.

I imagine you will be answering to your manager very soon.

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selepele · 02/11/2018 20:38

no its not a reverse.

Should I bring this up to someone on Monday? I am scared as obviously I have been there 4 months and him around 5 years but he really pissed me off

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selepele · 02/11/2018 20:40

worse part about it is I have seen him reading newspapers and he has conversations with his partner at his desk. He also decides when to leave early which I also have to because he has the keys.

My managers have no problem with me on the phone the place is relaxed as I said I don't sit there watching snap chat its a message then back to work.

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ScreamingValenta · 02/11/2018 20:41

Should I bring this up to someone on Monday?

It depends what you think your manager's reaction would be. Do you think your manager will be fine with your personal phone use in working hours?

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BathFullOfEels · 02/11/2018 20:44

Sorry I misunderstood - I thought you meant he’d seen you on your phone when you were staying late. A bit different if it’s during work hours.

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ThePants999 · 02/11/2018 20:44

Yes, you were definitely wrong. You were wrong to prioritise his work after he had a go at you. Should have let it wait a couple of days.

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selepele · 02/11/2018 20:44

My manager wont have an issue with me being on my phone that's a fact I know.

I more want to bring it up because he was rude to me for no reason and didn't even apologised after I finished the work he asked me to do in 2-3 days and claimed I wasn't doing.
I am going to suggest its best I don't do his admin as I do not wish to be spoken to like that again.

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HopeGarden · 02/11/2018 20:45

I think he’s got a point about you being on your phone TBH.

If you’re on work time, then you should be getting on with work rather than doing personal stuff on your phone.

Although I suppose he could have been politer about it, especially as he’s not your manager.

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WitchesHatRim · 02/11/2018 20:45

I more want to bring it up because he was rude to me for no reason

You were rude back tbh. Slamming doors and ignoring people isn't a good look either.

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JosellaPlayton · 02/11/2018 20:46

Clearly he got to you but given you’re an adult in the workplace and not a stroppy teenage you shouldn’t have ignored him and slammed the door. The appropriate thing to do would be to have had a word with your manager(s), let them know that he’s asking you to do his work and what he said to you as it was unprofessional, disrespectful and rude.

Whether or not you use your phone at work, is between you and your managers, most offices are generally ok with you sending the odd text/bit of online shopping during your tea break as long as you get the work done. I don’t see that this is an issue unless there’s more to it than his comment.

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