Am I being a princess

[allupsidedown]

I got out of hospital today. I have been in for 10 days. I'm home to rest and await further tests, build up my strength, take the new medication. I have various out patient appointments for bloods, dietician, scans etc over the next few weeks, possibly surgery looming. I won't know until the MRI scan what is coming next.
I had to organise the care for the kids before I went in and drove myself to hospital. She was at work. He had had worked overtime 14 hour days for weeks leading up to this. He didn't go to say goodnight to our children the first night I was in hospital. I told him they were both quite upset about me being ill and in hospital. He had been at a work corporate piss up on the Saturday previous to my admission when I was really not well and biding my time before going into hospital.
He has a long history of being a workaholic to bury his head from anything else like myself or the kids.
He actually came to get me today, leaving work 20 minutes earlier than his actual leaving time. I say actual leaving time but he never, ever leaves that early. Always does extra. Like every day. And quite often a full day at the weekend. His job is not life or death important to the world.
He took me home then pretty much went straight back to work.
I arrived home. His parents have been doing the bulk of the childcare. I had other people lined up to help but they refused it all and wanted to do it by themselves. They started on about being too old to look after the kids.. They said, “over to you” and left.
I’ve made tea, served tea, eaten a little bit and now in pain. I’ve done too much but the kids needed fed.
I couldn’t even just order something because of my restricted diet.
Fil was a pharmacist so thank god he hasn’t picked up the medication yet. He wanted to read the side affects in case HE needed to report to the DVLA that I shouldn’t be driving.
WTAF?!?
I'm still waiting for dh to arrive home, having popped in past the hospital for my medication. I need the pain relief. In fact, I am due all the other medication now too.
I've got the kids in their pjs and away to put them to bed.
I feel I shouldn't be doing all this. I haven't even cut my hospital I.d band off yet. I was told to rest. Dh says I'm acting like a princess. Basically I am supposed to just get straight back into full maid service and shut the fuck up.
I'd lock the doors but I need his help.
Ainu

[Edited by MNHQ to remove RL names]

"If he is working hard and long hours to provide you and the children with every comfort - then it is unreasonable to place further demands on him when he is paying for everything."

Even if she's a SAHM with no income or savings of her own that doesn't make her his bitch and it doesn't magically make her not ill either.

Nope, I work 3 days a week as a teacher so a lot more than 3 days a week in reality. DC2 goes to a childminder when I'm working. DC1 goes to childminder after school on days I'm working too.
PI also do the majority of child care, running them around to activities, do all household chores, cooking, cleaning and shopping. He does iron his own shirts and the school uniforms. Bills are split but he won't do a joint account.
I'm a princess because I expect to be able to sit down the day/day after I've come out of hospital. Whilst not really being better I'm stable enough to be at home awaiting further tests and possible surgery.

"If he is working hard and long hours to provide you and the children with every comfort - then it is unreasonable to place further demands on him when he is paying for everything."

Let me get that right. It would be ok to expect your life long partner to do EVERYTHING in the house that she is normally doing even though she has just spent 10 days in hospital, is in huge pain and is clearly VERY unwell (see waiting for the results and more surgery).
And all that because poor man is working?

In which world are you living????

OP please carry in doing what yu are doing atm, aka very little.
You need to recover esp of you have to face more surgery.
He has coped for the last 10 days doing it all, he can doing for a bit longer whilst you are recovering. (And Deal with his parents if they think it’s too much. After all YOU had organised it so it wasn’t the case)

Mother of God what a MF SOB! The FIL should be reported to pharmaceutical licensing board for that shit he pulled on you alone. My god I just had an outpatient procedure Thursday and my husband has done 95% of everything here-childcare,animal care,chores,etc. I may need further surgery down the road but if he called me princess for wanting to recover and heal I’d divorce him so fast his head would spin! My god you deserve better

I did very little over the weekend and dh did, give him his due, stepped up and took over the kids whilst I did a lot of sleeping.
He went to work as usual and the kids wanted me to take them to school as usual. I did it but was exhausted. I came home, went straight to bed and have just woken up again.
I've to get my flu jab later and pick up my doctor's line.
I phoned the surgery about the dr line, as I need it from today. The dr had it already after seeing my discharge letter from the hospital. I always feel guilty about being signed off but I'm clearly a long way from being well enough to do my job properly.
No word from the in-laws but that is standard. I will get the kids from the childminder but a friend is doing the activity run for DC1 so at least I'll get a good enough rest.

I don't see how bringing in money is providing 'every comfort'. The housework, childcare, cooking etc usually done by the OP could be seen as providing 'every comfort' or certainly quite a few of them.