To think BF is a CF?

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My BF stays at my house and if he has nothing on the next day will stay at my house because it's much nicer and quieter than his flat. I had a particularly high gas and electric bill last month and when he was alone there yesterday texted him to not have the heating on all day as i'm struggling with the bills. He messaged me back to say he had hammered the heating all day as he was cold but offered to give me some money for it. If I hadn't mentioned it, I don't think he would've offered. AIBU to think he's an absolute CF? We have only been together a matter of months. No kids on either side (not sure if that matters!).

WTF? So, OP is finding it hard to cover the increased bills and you want her to play nice for the 'poor lad' - talk about infantilising. He's a grown man!

At least he had the common sense to realise he had been thoughtless and that OP was probably embarrassed to have to admit she was finding it hard to pay her bills!

I wouldn't have a new boyfriend lounging round my house all day when I'm not there. Does he not have a job or anything else to do all day?

I think he was at worst a bit thoughtless rather than CF. Not sure what more he could have done than offer to pay - he was completely honest at least. If you aren't happy with him staying at yours when you're out then you need to have a conversation with him about that.

I don't think I'd want a new BF of only a few months in my house all day while I was out.

Did you invite him to stay round while you are out, or did he invite himself?

What does he do all day when he does stay?

Lounging around in his pants doing nothing, eating your food, making a mess, with the heating on full whack = CF.

Or, does he tidy up after himself, get some food in and cook a nice dinner for you? = not a CF.

Obviously you think he's a CF, so there's more to it just than heating.

Just get him to give you £50 a month...

It’s not CF behaviour if he wasn’t aware it was an issue.