To not have realised until MN how weird people are?

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So much weirdness on here. I had no idea until MN.

Yeah once on a thread about why do women spend so long on the loo, I suggested that some of them might be having a poo. I was told that anyone pooing in public was disgusting.

Isn't it just that people's focus changes depending on the bit of their own lives which have become important?

How do you mean, Fish? I mean, I can imagine that if, say, you discovered that your husband was boffing his female best friend that it might make you frown on close male-female friendships, but as a general position without any immediate personal experience to back it up, I find it quite odd.

I never poo in public but I wouldn't tell anyone else not to!

Yes there's a lot of weirdness here! Babynames is a whole other world.. Full of snobby, judgemental people who only like posh names. Never met anyone like this in my life.

You know I was just thinking the exact same, reading some of the threads this past week especially.

I do think pooing at someone elses house is rude unless you live far away or are staying there. If you live close by then just go home and do your poo there.

I think I'm weird, I also know that everyone has their own quirks, hidden or not, self aware or not. We do all have them.

On mumsnet, there are too many virtue signallers, so we don't know if they are telling the truth or not.

flitygirl Yep you are weird

Also there are just no normal DHs in the world. They are either massive LTB material or they are "OMG, mine would NEVER ask me to cook or clean, or make space on a sofa - he will rather sit on a floor like a real gentleman. He does everything cause he knows how to treat a woman right"
Quite hard to find anything inbetween.

Tbh I don't think lots of that "weirdness" here comes from people being honest. It's actually the opposite imho. People trying to up one another because no one knows the reality.
E.g.
"I don't have toilet brush. It's disgusting!"
"Well, I take your toilet brush and raise you a toilet. We have a super eco friendly, super luxury, loo outside because I think it's disgusting to poo inside of my super duper clean chateau I clean 5 hours a day. Also, we use leaves. Toilet paper is bad."

The main thing I've learnt is that every single thing you do will offend someone, somewhere.

Same here Stupomax. It's quite liberating in a way.

It's one of those irregular verbs:

I am an individual
She is eccentric
They are stark raving bonkers

MN is such a fascinating mixture of the deadly serious - bereavement, abuse etc and the frankly so trivial I can't even be arsed to read the OP. Like kids in the playground.

Weirdness - people who feel compelled to wash their towels after every use is one that sticks in my mind.

@IrisDolmato That's it though. People react to things depending on their own experiences or their vicarious experiences through their friends and family - or even through their knowledge of other Mumsnet poster's experiences.

Speaking from a personal point of view all my opinions (even of myself) are formed from my innate sense of fairness and reasonableness. I fail to meet my own standards sometimes but they're the standards I view other people's actions by.

Many people have different ideas to mine of the 'right way' to act many people are more or less intelligent than me. I think I'm both more logical and more emotional than most people but that doesn't diminish other people's right to have different views of things. It's all a bit of an eye-opener to me to be honest.

I find that the range of different reactions to a given subject on MN helps me distill my own reaction when a similar subject comes up IRL.

Yes obsessive towel washing is the main weird MN thing that bothers me!

The cleaning and hygiene obsessions, the fussy eating excuses, the obsession with LTB, the hatred of mothers in law, the gift and wedding/party expectations....Yep, all weird.

The diet advice makes me laugh, a poster the other day advised the OP not to eat fresh carrots as they were full of sugar! I’m sure the odd raw carrot won’t hinder someone’s weight loss goal unless they insist on coating them in Tate and Lyle! People are bizarre on here!

Well on the poo thread I am amazed by the number of people who would apparently have no problem with a complete stranger knocking on their door asking to use their loo. I know no-one in RL who would allow this (more from a security/burglary point of view than a mess one). MN is frequently detached from RL IMHO.

it's the not answering the door lot that have me amazed....they never answer the door unless they know who it is AND the person has made arrangements to be seen

and everyone says they are quite right, and how rude is it to knock on someone's door if you are not expected

it's the not answering the door lot that have me amazed....they never answer the door unless they know who it is

I'm guilty of this one! I just don't have unexpected visitors so no one is going to be ringing my doorbell for any positive reason! Plus I don't like unexpected visitors.

An awful lot of people seem to spit out their tea when they've read something mildly amusing. Happens on every single thread.

Well on the poo thread I am amazed by the number of people who would apparently have no problem with a complete stranger knocking on their door asking to use their loo

It was a delivery man, not just someone choosing her house at random to have his shit.
I wouldn't be thrilled by it but I wouldn't refuse someone in need of using my loo.

I didn't realise how worked up people get about so many things that to me are small and inconsequential. I know that it's unlikely for people to start threads because everything is fine and dandy, but still. What a waste of energy!

You can out you weirdness on here with gay abandon so long as you don't put a lot of personally identifying info on posts linked to the same user name and it's the online equivalent of today's news equal tomorrow's chip papers. That's the beauty of it.

Try it with the folks you know in RL and see how that goes. One misreading of a person that you talk to and that's a friend or family member you can never even look at again.

It's seriously weird to leave a friends house to go home and have a shit.

Yes some crazy people.
My personal favourites are threads LIKE
“I’m so so so beautiful and because of this other women hate me”. Hmmm I’m sure this is the only possible reason you are disliked by other women....

“I want my dil to name her baby after me, be at the birth, and for her to formula feed from day one so I can have access and overnight stays for my grandchild. AIBU?”

“My husband doesn’t want me to use my boobs to breastfeed, as he wants to formula feed baby so he can have equal feeding rights, AIBU?” And then the posters that say yes the op is unreasonable!!!! I mean really what are boobs actually for

The threads that suggest sahms are lazy and spongers because dealing with little children is not work. Or they are stupid and clearly haven’t considered the risk of leaving work. Some posters suggesting that doing anything other than working full time work, even if your childcare costs more than your wage is unreasonable feckless and lazy. Also posters making out that children under two/three actually are harmed by not attending nursery. (I mean no reason that they will come to harm either but why put someone else down to justify your own choices).

People who insist their children ‘knew right from wrong’ age two. When everyone in real life knows ALL two year olds are the work of the devil!

Attitudes to dogs are extreme. They are either evil and hated or fur babies that are equal to humans.

Everyone has tons of spare cash, their husband is a banker and their dc are top of their year at school.

If anyone posts about someone being an arse, lots of posters diagnosing various mental health conditions.

But there is some good advice also..... and the extreme stuff makes a good read.

The weirdest thread for me was the one where countless people said they never, ever opened their front door unless they were expecting visitors or post. They just... refuse to answer the door if someone knocks.

Don’t get me wrong, I hate chuggers and Hello Fresh sellers and Jehovas Witnesses ringing my doorbell as much as the next person, but I don’t consider my doorbell ringing an infringement of my human rights.