Dh works away mon-fri. We have 2 dc’s - a 6yo with ASD and a 2yo. I have a chronic health condition and although I manage to look after the boys on my own it’s an absolute slog and I feel constantly guilty about the things I can’t do with them as I’m simply too ill. We agreed dh would work away mon-fri as it’s his dream job, the pay is great and dc and I love the area we live in.
Anyway, we’re currently on dh’s second week of a 2 week holiday from work. First week was half term and we went away, this week we’re at home and ds1 is back at school. Dh hasn’t done one school run, he knows where ds’s school is but wouldn’t have a clue where his classroom is or his teachers name. He hasn’t joined ds2 and I on any days out or classes. He didn’t want to come and watch ds’s swimming lesson even though he’s never seen him swim. He hasn’t offered to make dinner, get the boys dressed, help out at night (ds1 is always up for at least an hour in the night). He would neither come trick or treating with us or open the door to any trick or treaters while we were out.
Instead he’s decided to pull the patio up. We are getting our garden landscaped in a couple of weeks and the quote includes having the patio pulled up. But dh has spent every minute pulling this fucking patio up at a snails pace because he finds it relaxing and he’s on holiday. He thinks we’ll get a massive discount on the gardening because he’s done this.
I think his second week off should be a few days of him doing what he wants and a few days of me doing the same. But apparently it’s his holiday and I’m always getting to do what I want.
I genuinely hate him right now. I have spent the last year on my absolute knees trying to keep everyone happy whilst I’m vomiting 5 times a day, in constant pain and permanently anemic. He was the one that wanted dc. I was always reluctant as I knew my health would always be a struggle. But he takes no interest in either me or his dc. If I leave I’ll just be poorer and get even less of a break.