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Delivery driver just had a dump at my house!

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WitsEnd2018 · 02/11/2018 13:10

AIBU? I've just had some furniture delivered and the first thing the guy said was, 'Can I use your loo?' I didn't want him to but felt that I couldn't refuse so I reluctantly said yes. He was in there for ages. He's had a smelly dump. It fucking stinks. I could have cried. He then bought the furniture in and I've just had to go and clean the toilet. I'm disgusted.

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speakingtruthfully · 02/11/2018 13:54

Op
You really need to find something to focus on in your life

Bananalanacake · 02/11/2018 13:54

Topsey. Great idea for a facebook craft sellerGrin

Omzlas · 02/11/2018 13:54

How did you expect the poor bloke to clean your bog if you don't have a brush? Maybe you should have offered him some marigolds

Let's hope you never get caught short, maybe he has IBS / crohns / something else that isn't clearly visible

Have you considered some form of therapy for your anxiety?

Doubletrouble99 · 02/11/2018 13:54

I'm pretty sure the guy would have asked unless he was absolutely desperate. I despair at you that you would actually refuse him use of your facilities - for goodness sake where is your humanity? My dh does a delivery job and tries where ever possible to use public conveniences but has on the very odd occasion had to ask a client if he can use their loo. He isn't near his office so he can pop back his route is over 150 miles every day. Ha ho, thank goodness he is retiring next month if your attitude is going to become more prevalent!

TheTroublesomestTribble · 02/11/2018 13:55

YANBU OP, you've fallen victim to a Shitting Man

There was a really interesting thread on this - its apparently a 'thing' amongst a certain breed of man.

Hang on, I think the original thread is in classics, I'll see if I can find it...

Redland12 · 02/11/2018 13:55

The washing machine repair man asked to use my toilet a couple of months ago, no problem with that, if you need to you need to but he left it in a horrendous mess, why he couldn’t of cleaned it with toilet paper I don’t know! I could not have walked out of someone else’s bathroom leaving it in such a mess. I don’t think he should have expected me to clean it. He couldn’t get out of the house quickly enough!

gamerchick · 02/11/2018 13:55

People would be doing dumps in the gutter walking down the street if they didn't have some kind of control

Or they soil themselves if they can't make it to a toilet.

It must be nice not to have this occur to you.

BastardGoDarkly · 02/11/2018 13:55

Why is everyone saying he left shit all over?

Ok just got the gloves and bleach out, because she's a fucking toilet weirdo.

If he had indeed left actual shit everywhere, I'm pretty sure the opening post would have eeeewwwed and Shock all about it.

Blanchedupetitpois · 02/11/2018 13:55

Not the nicest thing but when you have to go you have to go. Open a window and the smell will be gone in a few minutes. Absolutely not in any way worth feeling like you could cry.

TheTroublesomestTribble · 02/11/2018 13:56

Here you go

gigantus · 02/11/2018 13:56

Op you need to clarify. Either 1. He went for a shit, stank out the house and left a load of skids in the loo that you had to clean up after him or 2. He went for a shit, stank out the house and although you couldn't actually see anything you felt compelled to bleach the toilet as you're a bit ocd about hygiene. If its 1 yanbu. If it's 2 yabu.

tiggerkid · 02/11/2018 13:56

Happened to me once before. Exactly the same situation. I won't pretend I was ecstatic about it (particularly because our front door opens straight into what I call my study; the downstairs loo is effectively in my study, and I work there)

Yes it is a natural bodily function but it doesn't mean I can't be disgusted about strangers taking a dump in my house and not cleaning up after themselves! So, I do understand you, OP.

Can only suggest to spray some air freshener there, open the window and stay away from there for a bit!

Feelings · 02/11/2018 13:57

You're ridiculous. You're literally acting like a child.
Some people have got stomach problems which might cause urgent need to use a toilet, it probably wasn't ideal but I'm sure you wouldn't have wanted the delivery guy trailing shit through your house either.
Grow up.

ilovesooty · 02/11/2018 13:57

I think you will have to order a new toilet forthwith. This one is contaminated forever. Grin

BarbarianMum · 02/11/2018 13:58

Because only dirty people clean the inside of the toilet with their bare hands and toilet paper. If you want someone to clean the bowl after them you need to provide the proper equipment.

bigbluebus · 02/11/2018 13:58

I think maybe you should seek some help for your issues OP. Not being able to use a public toilet or eat from a buffet must adversly affect your day to day life.

I always let builders, tradesmen or anyone visiting my house use the toilet if they need to. It is a basic function and not everywhere has access to public toilets. Nearest one to my house is 5 miles away - that would be a 10 mile trip the delivery driver would have to do to use a loo whilst I wait for my delivery!

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 02/11/2018 13:58

So would you all let in randoms off the street into your homes to use your toilet? No? A delivery driver is no different.

TheTroublesomestTribble · 02/11/2018 13:58

The whole point is, it does feel like a violation of a woman's personal space, and can well make you feel like crying - thats's why they do it.

Its a control thing, and horribly misogynistic in the process.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 02/11/2018 13:58

@WitsEnd2018 - firstly you need to recognise that, despite your own feelings, you did the right thing allowing him to use the loo, and he will have appreciated it, because not everyone would have said yes, and he might have had to hang on, in some discomfort, for a long time, until he could get to a public loo. Plus delivery drivers are on tight schedules, so it can be really hard for them to find the time for loo breaks in their long days.

Secondly, you need to take a deep breath or two, and try to realise that it is not as bad as you are thinking it is. The smell will disappear, and you have cleaned the loo - and the rest of the area is not 'contaminated', I promise you.

This has turned into something huge in your mind, and you have the power to diminish it again by telling yourself that it isn't as big a deal as you think it is, and you have done everything necessary to cope with it. Sit down somewhere comfortable, close your eyes, and focus on your breathing - breath slowly and comfortably, and simply be aware of the sensations, and let your breathing calm your anxiety (because this does sound like anxiety to me). Picture your stress about this as a dark cloud, and then picture the cloud lightening at the edges, getting lighter and lighter, further into the cloud, until it is all gone. I found this technique really helped me with my anxiety and depression, and it might help you too.

Mummyoflittledragon · 02/11/2018 13:59

People would be doing dumps in the gutter walking down the street if they didn’t have some kind of control.

You do realise some people don’t have that kind of control and do poo themselves? Much as I wouldn’t relish my loo being poo’d in and left with skid marks, it’s part of life. We eat, we sleep, we breathe, we poo, we sweat. All essential functions of the body. I do remember reading somewhere mens poo smells worse than women’s due to different flora so I figure that’s possibly why some women object so much.

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Alfie190 · 02/11/2018 13:59

Not really sure why people don’t know how he could have cleaned up without a brush. He could have got some toilet paper and wiped it down. This is not rocket science is it? Of course not pleasant but better than inflicting the job on somebody else.

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 02/11/2018 13:59

FFS . Would you rather him shit in his pants in your precious home ??!

Thisnamechanger · 02/11/2018 13:59

*The whole point is, it does feel like a violation of a woman's personal space, and can well make you feel like crying - thats's why they do it.

Its a control thing, and horribly misogynistic in the process.*

Ding ding ding! We've officially reached loonyland.

costacoffeecup · 02/11/2018 14:00

Maybe he had issues or maybe not. Was there anything available on the toilet for him to clean up with? I am not precious about hygiene but I think I'd be a bit 😒 about having to clean a stranger's shit up.