Delivery driver just had a dump at my house!

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AIBU? I've just had some furniture delivered and the first thing the guy said was, 'Can I use your loo?' I didn't want him to but felt that I couldn't refuse so I reluctantly said yes. He was in there for ages. He's had a smelly dump. It fucking stinks. I could have cried. He then bought the furniture in and I've just had to go and clean the toilet. I'm disgusted.

I’ve not had time to read through all the comments, but this fella could have Crohns or Colitis, which means a great deal of urgency when someone has to ‘go’
It often results in a long time spent in the bathroom and also quite the stink afterwards, so give the guy a break. There are some rather odd individuals on here if someone taking a crap on your toilet has become something to write about 🙄😕

I agreed totally with you, I would have cried to. I can't bear anyone using my toilet, urgh

I wonder if the Speakmans on This Morning could cure some of this poo phobia people have. It would transform their lives...

Even the Queen needs to poo get over yourself

Umm...think the OP has been pretty tongue in cheek throughout all of this! .

Maybe the irony has been lost on people because they’re so busy getting het up about toilet brushes and those of us who are ‘not normal’ because we dare to choose not to have a toilet brush or to let any Tom, dick or harry use our toilets! .

You're not obliged to let someone use your loo - but it's nice if you do.

You're certainly not obliged to have a toilet brush - many people (me included) find them highly questionable and prefer other methods of cleaning.

It's weird to suggest people should tailor their cleaning tools/preferences to the once in a blue moon occasion when an itinerant shitting man comes to call, no?!

Genuine question for the loo brush advocates: did you/do you/would you have a loo brush whilst tiny children are living at home? It's got to be pretty likely they'll grab it at some point. And, whilst you personally are all hygienic about it and rinse/disinfect it after every incident, do you really think all the passing tradesmen that you welcome into your bathroom will do likewise?? At some point, that loo brush is going to be a shit lollipop.

It even has a name-

Coprophobia: An abnormal and persistent fear of faeces (bowel waste). Sufferers of coprophobia experience anxiety even though they realise their fear is irrational. They go out of their way to avoid coming into contact with faeces or sometimes even seeing faeces

Only on Mumsnet are posters falling over themselves to NOT be even slightly revolted by a stranger doing a smelly shit in your loo.

'Can I use your loo?'

MNer - 'Of COURSE! I was hoping you'd ask. Please feel free to have a big shit, the smellier the better!'

I'd have been pissed off too, OP.

Maybe get a voluntary role. Do something outside the home. I think it takes the fear away from having a dirty loo ie, you’re too busy to worry about such things.
In some countries people urinate in public because that’s all there is. Yes I’ll be that person to say worse things have happened. This is a funny thread but I cannot take it seriously even though it happened to you OP. Best of luck with everything else.

It's weird to suggest people should tailor their cleaning tools/preferences to the once in a blue moon occasion when an itinerant shitting man comes to call, no?!

.... And, whilst you personally are all hygienic about it and rinse/disinfect it after every incident, do you really think all the passing tradesmen that you welcome into your bathroom will do likewise??

Make up your mind! Either it's once in a blue moon, or there's so many passing tradesmen that your loo brush will be a shit lollipop. Can't have it both ways.

MereDint

You misunderstand.

For most of us the event is once-in-a-blue-moon-ish.

For a certain contingent on here, welcoming passing tradesmen in and catering to their every bowel-related need is their very reason for existing!

I was being hilarious . But now you've ruined it.

This has to be a joke thread, with the long standing OP playing on all the old mumsnet tropes

I appreciate it’s not ideal when strangers use loo but sometimes it can’t be helped. We’ve had an extension built and people delivering materials / builders often need to use loo. The only time I’ve had a problem is when a builder used loo and left it in horrendous state. Poo all up sides of toilet etc and we had toilet brush right there. Also would be nice if they didn’t wee all over seat and floor.

Now you're pissed because he had a sandwich out the front of your house?

You don't seem like a nice person

Overreaction. He probably didn't want to have to ask and so what if it smelt? Just open the window, spray some air freshener. It sounds like you're on the verge of ringing the company to complain.
Boil wash your hand towel? Really?

What madness is this? Of course he shouldn’t have used her loo!

Am I going mad or was this thread deleted earlier?

Ignore that post by me. It was the 'family member doing dumps' one that was deleted!

Honestly! this thread is still going?! To those saying I lack empathy / I'm an awful person blah blah, I let him use my loo! He then shat in it, left a skid mark and stunk the house out! However he was oblivious to my distress and he then proceeded to eat his lunch outside my house, blocking my driveway. Fortunately I didn't need to get out in my car as I was too busy cleaning my loo whilst heaving. Had to skip lunch too.

I think I'm a great person actually! Bollocks to you all of you that think otherwise!

Don't worry chrisinthesun, it seems to be poo week on MN so easy to be confused.

I admit I haven’t read the entire thread, just the first 5 pages or so but... what did you expect the poor man to do? He needed the toilet, presumably urgently as it was the first thing he said. Then he didn’t clean the toilet (which isn’t nice, no) but how do you expect him to clean it if you don’t have a toilet brush? I could understand completely you being annoyed if you had a toilet brush there and he left your toilet dirty, but you don’t. Would you rather he put his bare hands down your toilet to clean it and then moved your new furniture in?

And your husband suggesting you ask for your money back is ridiculous, if that wasn’t sarcasm. He delivered your furniture. He did his job, and it’s not like he snuck in to your loo without asking, he asked and you let him! What were you going to say “Your delivery man asked to use my toilet, and then had the cheek to go to the toilet in there!”

You would have loved my bathroom this afternoon. One of our kittens shut herself in and unravelled the toilet roll, pulled the towel onto the floor and did a really stinky shit on the floor behind the toilet. Good job it's a tiled floor. A bit of bleach and a spray of airfreshener sorted it. Shit is shit whether it be human or animal it all stinks. BUT it doesn't take long to clean and disinfect the area. Some people need to get a grip.

It wouldn’t ever occur to me to think of refusing a visitor/contractor the use of my toilet. The downstairs loo has an extractor fan, a loo brush, bleach and air freshener to save anyone’s embarrassment. I’d be a bit miffed though if they left it in a mess when everything needed to clean is in there.

As well as anyone being caught short at work there is always the possibility of a hidden disability like Crohn’s disease or bowel cancer. Imagine being at work in someone’s house and suddenly your stoma bag is about to burst.

I could handle kitten shit esp if it was my kitten. Hardly comparable.

@DameDoom toilet paper falls apart in water. So he'd be using his bare hands.