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Delivery driver just had a dump at my house!

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WitsEnd2018 · 02/11/2018 13:10

AIBU? I've just had some furniture delivered and the first thing the guy said was, 'Can I use your loo?' I didn't want him to but felt that I couldn't refuse so I reluctantly said yes. He was in there for ages. He's had a smelly dump. It fucking stinks. I could have cried. He then bought the furniture in and I've just had to go and clean the toilet. I'm disgusted.

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Ohb0llocks · 02/11/2018 14:45

I have IBS. If that was me it would be a case of either shit in your toilet or shit on your doorstep.

I know which I'd prefer.

TeddybearBaby · 02/11/2018 14:46

My husband has told me to ask for the delivery charge to refunded, I won't but I'm pissed off. Then they sat outside my house for 15 mins must have been having a lunch break. Took a dump in my house and then he had his sandwiches.

I ‘lol’ reading this, thanks op!! You make quite a pair, you and your husband. When you make the complaint make sure they know that the vile creature not only emptied his bowels but he also ate a suspected sandwich in his van 😱. They won’t believe it. He’ll probably be sacked on the spot haha.

universe00 · 02/11/2018 14:47

@DameDoom I don't think anyone would put there hand down someone els's toilet. She should of just had a toilet brush

SandAndSea · 02/11/2018 14:48

I can see the DM headline now: 'Man has poo in toilet!'

On a serious note:

This Summer, I saw a few ads online about our delivery people not having enough access to toilet facilities and the problems it can cause them, eg dehydration due to not drinking enough. The general public were asked to offer drinks and use of the toilet to them. I think it's important we normalise this actually, as there aren't enough public toilets about and people can and do get caught short and there's just no need for anyone to be embarrassed or humiliated.

OP, be kind! It could be you next.

Boohissmiss · 02/11/2018 14:50

Your husband thinks you should ask for the delivery to be refunded . WTF he asked you first did he not . You could have said no. I hope you are never desperate for the toilet OP you don’t always have the time to go searching in a area you are u familiar with for a public toilet .

Moominfan · 02/11/2018 14:51

When nature calls you gotta go. He should have cleaned up his skid marks though that's just grim.

Boohissmiss · 02/11/2018 14:51

Unfamiliar with sorry

BreconBeBuggered · 02/11/2018 14:52

Well, plenty of people do need to go when the urge takes them. Hanging on isn't always an option. Would you want to accept a furniture delivery from someone who'd clearly just shat themselves?
Having said that, it really isn't that hard to clean up after yourself. Even if he couldn't find the conventional tools for the job, there was presumably toilet paper in there? There's no excuse for leaving visible shit for the OP to deal with.

Jenny17 · 02/11/2018 14:52

He asked to use the toilet, did so and now you are complaining?

I wouldn't let anyone use my toilet after I had a similar incident. My house isn't is not a public toilet.

Councils should provide public toilets.

DogInATent · 02/11/2018 14:53

Unless someone has a medical issue i can’t understand how people have to poo immediately at the first sign of an urge, regardless of where they are. Surely it can be held in, but if not how bloody rude not to clean the loo before you leave it. I bet he’s one of those men who think cleaning toilets is women’s work. hmm

More people than you think have condition that can cause an immediate need. But reactions like yours aren't unusual. Our previous postie had such a condition, and ours was only one of a few houses on a five hour round where he could be certain he'd get an understanding reaction and access to a loo.

A delivery driver could be on the road for 10+hrs. There's next to no public loos these days, and even supermarket loos can be awkward if the van won't fit under the car park barrier. As it was a furniture delivery I imagine it was a Luton van or larger.

@borderline11 - he couldn't clean the loo because the OPs own condition means that she can't tolerate a toilet brush in the house. Unless he was supposed to use one of his own socks.

As a nation we're very uncomfortable talking about shit and other bodily functions. But arseholes are like opinions, we all have one. But we'll defend our right to hold an opinion far more readily than we'll defend another's right to possess an arsehole.

Pucker up and smile, it might be you one day.

Jayfee · 02/11/2018 14:54

The milk of human kindness!

tiggerkid · 02/11/2018 14:55

He couldn’t do anything about the stink and couldn’t have cleaned the loo as there was no toilet brush there.
Were you also expecting him to put his hand on the loo to clean it maybe?

She didn't say she expected him to do anything about the stink but, yes, if he made any mess, the OP would be well within her rights to expect him to clean it up. He could fold some toilet paper few times to clean up whatever he left there. If that meant sticking his hand down the toilet, then that's what he'd have to do. Not ideal, no, but the thought here should have been: would it be more ideal for the owner of the house to do that? She doesn't own the toilet brush, which would mean she would have to stick her hand down the toilet to clean up his poo!

In any case, like I said, everyone seems to have fixated on what the driver would or wouldn't be expected to do and what's wrong with the OP, which is absolutely beyond me. The poor woman let the driver use her loo despite her reluctance and all she wants is some sympathy for not liking to have to deal with the stink and cleaning the toilet after a stranger. As if everyone else here would have absolutely enjoyed it.

PhilomenaButterfly · 02/11/2018 14:55

borderline DH is like this. Heaven forfend one of the DC brushing their teeth when he needs a shit!

scarbados · 02/11/2018 14:55

Congratulations on having a family who either never poop or who poop rainbow dust and marshmallows like unicorns do.

YABU and ridiculous and childish.

AliceRR · 02/11/2018 14:57

@Jenny17 not sure I get your point

Maybe it’s just me

OP complaining possibly because he asked and it’s not easy to say no so it would have been better if he’d gone elsewhere and not even asked

Jenny17 · 02/11/2018 14:57

Unless someone has a medical issue i can’t understand how people have to poo immediately at the first sign of an urge, regardless of where they are. Surely it can be held in, but if not how bloody rude not to clean the loo before you leave it. I bet he’s one of those men who think cleaning toilets is women’s work. hmm

I understand some have an urgent need but surely this means this type of work is not suitable for them?

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom · 02/11/2018 14:58

Let's hope he didn't flush with the toilet seat up op then you'll have poo germs over a 6m2 surface.

AGHHHH · 02/11/2018 14:58

It's normal to be disgusted. Shit stinks. It's one of the reasons why we have doors on toilets and why we don't go in a bucket in the living room.

But I wouldn't say anything, because it is normal to shit. In a toilet.

Dahlietta · 02/11/2018 14:59

he knew what was going to happen

Grin This thread has proper cheered me up Grin

AGHHHH · 02/11/2018 15:00

(when I say it's normal to be disgusted I mean it's normal to feel disgusted by the smell, not disgusted that someone has dared shit in your vicinity).

Jenny17 · 02/11/2018 15:00

@AliceRR he used the toilet for exactly the permission was granted. People will not always use things they way they want. Don't grant permission only to complain later.

Looneytune253 · 02/11/2018 15:02

Did he ACTUALLY leave a mess? If he did then yes that’s disgusting and no human being should do that to another. If he didn’t even leave any mess and it’s the idea of the poo that’s making you crazy and cleaning the bathroom then you are being a bit ridiculous. Toilets are for poos and yes they may smell a bit but as long as he’s left it tidy there’s no harm done.

AnaChocolatte · 02/11/2018 15:03

If he left it dirty that is awful. Leave loos in the state you find them in!

The fact that he used it - really it would be very unkind to not let him use it (unfortunately). So I don't think you can complain about that.

Do you have some form of air spray for guests to use? If you don't then they don't have much control over bad smells.

Fewminmostly · 02/11/2018 15:03

Just here to thank OP for best laugh I've had for ages- someone in the office has just asked if I'm OK 😂

Looneytune253 · 02/11/2018 15:04

Ps if he did leave a mess I wouldn’t give a second thought to your hand towel. If he’s left a mess in the toilet chances are he didn’t wash hands anyway lol