To ask if you've ever fallen out with another parent over your children?

[Ladygoogoo1]

Going through this at the mo and need to know I'm not alone!! 

No and I wouldn't either. The kids are speaking the day and you're still tearing lumps out of one an other.
Plus kids fall out constantly and if you were going to fight with their parents over it.. You'd be having a constant battle.

In my case her child has been bullying mine but she won't accept it even though school are confirming it.

Not me but our school had to send a letter home to all parents reminding them not to attempt to resolve issues directly but to talk to the school. This was after a number of incidents in the playground including fisticuffs

Oh well bullying that puts an entely different light on things

No never, and I hope I never would. I do know parents who have though, and invariably, their perspectives on what went wrong tend to be quite different.

These two mums did
www.getsurrey.co.uk/news/surrey-news/two-mums-police-fight-sons-15349430

Was she a good friend or just a mum at school OP?

I wouldn’t be friends with someone whose child was bullying mine. I would show support for my child and stand by them, especially given the other parent is refusing to accept their child is at fault.

Not over a child as such but we objected to the way a sports team was run (unfair selection) and it meant my DD was excluded from parties etc for a good few years. Would I do it again? Probably as I can’t stand unfairness.

So you’re going through this. It’s awkward and horrible but it’ll be over by next week. Sometimes best if school can sort it out but most of the time it can be sorted out by kids. Usual be there for your child with hugs and love reminding them to keep away or confront the problem. I think we as a generation get too involved and when we were young we kind of got on with it 😬

Try not to worry

I have let the school deal with it but it got to the point where they had to involve her.

I've had a school mum pretty much ignore me for the last few years after someone incorrectly reported back to her that I'd accused her DS of bullying mine. What I'd actually said was that they don't get on, my DS was not an innocent party.
Fortunately it was late Primary and so little chance of bumping into each at school anyway. She still hasn't let it go though; I suspect her of ensuring they don't mix at Secondary via the schools

Had something similar. Her kid involved in on going gang bullying. The day something nasty happened, I was speaking with the teacher and about to tell her that I was going to speak to the mother as I knew her quite well, to see if that worked. We had an agreement that if either child caused the other grief, we would talk about it and sort it between us. Teacher told me she had already spoken to the mother and made the school's position clear. The mother was furious and never spoke one word to me after that. Mutual friend said that she was angry because I had not spoken to her about it and she had to hear it from the teacher. I explained the school had got there before me which was not in my control. She continues to ghost me to this day. Now I know where he picked up his skills.

I’ve just gone through this and have fallen out spectacularly with the other parent, to the point that the friendship is completely unrepairable.

We tried to fix the problems between our DC, we couldn’t so asked school to intervene (as problems were occurring at school), issues then became apparent at an outside activity both DC attended and the other parent used their position and influence within the organisation to cause further problems for my DC so we removed them from the activity.

The DC see each other at school every day but just blank each other now and have nothing to do with each other.

Sad how it all turned out but I could never trust the other parent again.

I’m in a similar situation- we haven’t fallen out over it because I don’t talk to them about. They aren’t going to believe me over their child or their view of their child.

Just to explain they believe my child is bullying theirs - he isn’t and school have confirmed this. In one incident their child was involved in planning an incident where my child was hit around the face. It wasn’t something that got out of hand my child was playing with others when someone ran up and hit him in the face. This was the last incident in a series so the parents were brought into school. They denied their son had anything to do with it.(after he had admitted it to school).
They have approached my child in the playground and asked why he is bullying their child. I’ve had Facebook messages from them denying their child has done anything and can I have a word with my child etc etc. I don’t engage with them and refer them back to school. They involve other parents so my child is told by another that they would like to invite him to something but they can’t as his mother says he is a bullly.

You can’t make people like this see another view so don’t try. I refer it all back to school and ask my child to raise any issues straight away with his teacher so they can resolve it there and then. I am polite in passing with the parents but I can’t stand them and can’t wait until secondary school. I’m polite to prevent any escalation hat could impact my child.

Bullies parents tend to be bullies themselves. The kid has to get their traits from somewhere

I don't think you've lost anything

Sorry that was long - it’s quite cathartic

I have sadly.

Her DD low level bullied mine for years. Nothing worth going to school over but definitely taught my DD how sometimes friends can be frenemies.

In Year 6 they went to a summer club for a week with other friends and the majority of the group witnessed her DD being mean to my DD and they rallied around and turned on the other girl for what she was doing. I never got involved as finally my DD had friends backing her up who’d seen what this girl was doing.

After that the mum went weird on me. Turned up at a place I was with other mums but wouldn’t talk or say what was up and then blanked me. I’ve not spoken to her since despite us being friends since they were little.

If she’d talked to me we could have sorted it but she was always one of those that thought her child could do no wrong and was always the victim.

Tbh I’m glad I’m rid of them now. She was odd.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 laughing here because yes I have. School parent. The child was bullying mine. Been horrendous however one day in the playground the girl pushed my daughter in to a dirty nasty puddle and then her mother started laughing. I let rip. Do not give a shit. School (I am the queen of the school gate mother's are dickheads).

She also made a comment about the couple of my child's hair and this was racist heard by parents and children and they a did the tinkery laugh. Do i care no. Did I become bothered by them fat shaming me and referring to my daughter's as thick. Well yes. But I kept going never let them or the school away with a single thing.

Eventually moved schools a 14 mile round trip best thing I ever did. This new school... Jesus didn't know if could be like this. So normal and nice. Sometimes you get a toxic school and mothers. Bug where bullying is concerned never ever hold back. The amount of children commuting suicide and such.

So I may have been ignored and nasty names and excluded. But I have 2 happy girls not in fear any more and that mother and her friends are apparently moving on to the next victim.

Just because someone would not fall out with a friend does not make them better or worse. We all have a tolerance but physical and verbal racist slurs are not for me or my babies xx

I agree GreenTulips in most cases, but more importantly, it’s very telling how parents deal with the situation. If I was told my son was bullying someone, I’d be furious and insist he apologises. When my ds was at primary, another boy kicked him. School called me. Instead of falling out with parents, I suggested a play date. His parents also got him to write a letter of apology. The boys became really good friends.

Yes but I was in the wrong. Her DD and mine botb aged around 6 were swapping things like hair clips etc. All fine at first. Then the mother accused my DD of stealing and pushing her DD into swaps she didn’t want to do. I asked my Dd, she said she hadn’t done it and got really upset at the suggestion. Next day she told me the truth. After I’d fallen out with the mother. Absolutely mortified and swiftly bought her DD a great whacking load of hair accessories to apologise! So embarrassing!! My DD was punished and hasn’t been allowed to ‘swap’ again!! 🙈

I also did the play date - however this child fell off a bike and had a tiny scratch (cried and cried) mum rushed round and the whole thing got ugly.
School wouldn't believe she would be so mean - however on the last day of Y6 a friend posted a class photo of them leaving - and this girl ranted about why my DD shouldn't have been on the picture

I couldn't do anything as I watched the school governor and teachers pile to DD defense and call her out which then resulted in her mother coming online and giving a load of abuse to them defending her daughter.
Whilst it 'proved' I was right - it didn't make it any better

Anyway upshot is her DD doesn't have friends at high school and DD has a very close group of lively friends.

Pity this woman and her daughter

I had an argument with a school mum who also happened to be a neighbour years ago because her DS had been saying some really horrible things to my DD and I'd had enough. She ended up kicking our fence down and her son threw a brick at our window a few days later. Thankfully we were about to move anyway

I always thought I wouldn't. But when you see them modelling behaviour that their kid is then using to make yours upset it's almost impossible not to. I would never have a row with them though, what's the point? (On the other hand never say never..)

I massively fell out with another mum who worked as a dinner lady at the school (small village). My DD had ADHD, was very well managed and happy at the school but this mum didn't think she should be there.

She started yelling at me one afternoon outside the school at pick up saying I was a terrible parent who couldn't control her child and blamed it on this condition - apparently DD had been "playing her up". In front of 50 other parents. I walked home in tears but about 3 mums banged on my door and frogmarched me back down to the school to say it was unprofessional of a school employee and needed dealing with. The Head had to sack her when a significant amount of parents withdrew their kids at lunch so they weren't supervised by this woman. The support of those parents was overwhelming and really humbled me.

She was an utter bitch, still lives in the village and I fight the urge to run her over regularly when she's out jogging.