To ask someone to give it to me straight RE cancer?

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I'll try to make it short.
2 weeks ago my Mum was taken to hospital with stroke symptoms.
It turned out she has metastatic lung cancer, with tumours on her adrenal glands and at least 10 tumours in her brain.
The doctors keep fobbing us off - they have to wait for the results of the biposy, they could not perfom the biopsy, they cannot set a date for another biopsy... They are very evasive when asked if / when she can come home.
I have this horrible gut feeling that they know something that they don't want to tell us.
I am seven months pregnant with 3 DCs at home and I cannot visit her often (it is a long, expensive commute to her hospital and my maternity leave has not started yet).
AIBU to want to be told about her prognosis so that I can drop everything if she only has a few weeks left?

You need to tell them not to sugarcoat anything if that's what you want. I had to do this with my husband as my opinion was "it is what it is" but I needed to be able to plan the best way to deal with it for us all. (He had an inoperable brain tumour so diagnosis was always going to be bleak. I think they take the cautious approach first as some people do like sugarcoating and some people refuse to believe that this is happening to their loved one.

I'm so sorry to read this. Her prognosis does sound bleak and I'd be making plans to spend time with her now. With love to you and your family

My mum died of small cell carcinoma of the lungs, basically one of the most aggressive types of cancer there is: it doubles in size every month and quickly spreads to other organs in the body.

She was diagnosed on 3 April 2014 and died 31 August 2014. By then it had spread to both lungs, hear liver, kidneys and brain.

I'm really sorry to say this but once lung cancer, or any cancer really, spreads to another organ then it becomes more about how long they can give you and quality of life etc.

Hugs.