To expect bf of a year to come to a christening with me?

[pornstarmartinilover]

I've been invited to a christening of a colleague in a few weeks time. I asked bf if he will come with me. We've been together in total (including a 4 month separation a year ago) for 18 months. He's never met the people whose christening t is and won't know anyone who is going. Is also about one hour away. It falls on the weekend that we usually spend together.
His reaction wasn't great. He said he would feel awkward as he doesn't know anyone. I agreed and pointed out that this is the sort of thing that you do in relationships and that in terms of not knowing anyone, you have to start somewhere. He didn't reply and said that he would have to think about it. I was a little annoyed and stand-off ish after that as I think that after this long you should want to do things like this with your partner. He then went to work. I'll not see him now until Sunday but we usually text a lot throughout the day. I feel like it's the elephant in the room now and. Don't what what to say!! Am I being unreasonable to want him to come with me? What should I say? Should I text acknowledging the conversation and explain why I was a bit upset, or just ignore it and wait until he brings it up?

To be fair - I wouldn't want to go to a 'family' event of a couple or individual i barely knew or didn't know. That is pretty awkward - he knows he will have to make small talk with relatives of your friend - if he isn't keen on socialising he might find that very hard work.

I'd let him off this one but tell him the wedding is a big deal to you- weddings can be good fun and it's normal to go in couples so I would definitely expect him to go to that.

One of the healthiest points in our relationship happened when we realised that we didn't have to go to everything together. And didn't need to be offended about it either.

I love a do,but if DH tried to get me to the christening of a colleagues baby I'd have an instant migraine planned for that day. Possibly to a wedding where at least there'd be a chance of booze.

I don’t think I would want to go to a christening of an adult I did know let alone one I dont!

I don’t think it’s particualry healthy for most relationships to always have an expection of doinh everything together.

I totally get that it's nice to have someone to go along with OP but please don't listen to those who say if he loved you he would go regardless or he's just that into you.

My DP would never go to something like this and I know he loves me. We've been together for 18 years.

I think you should cut bf some slack and accept that there's some things he doesn't want to do and that works both ways. I think it's healthier to have your own friends and interests and not be joined at the hip. Unless you're looking to have that sort of go everywhere together type relationship perhaps he's not the one for you.

I wouldn't fall out with him over it if you are generally happy together but the period of separation sounds warning bells so early on so maybe you've both got different expectations?

Thanks for the responses. I have text him and explained that I get why he doesn't want to come and that I understand that. No I don't intend us to be joined at the hip. There's plenty of things we do apart. This has come up as it falls on the weekend we spend together. I do have some insecurities which is probably why I question my self. But we have been back together a year now. Things are progressing albeit slowly.

Recently been to a christening of a childhood friend. Didn't bring my DH of 10 years. No big deal. He wouldn't have wanted to go anyway. Christenings are pretty boring to most people unless parents (obvs), god parents or immediate family!. I enjoyed catching up with friends. I am sure you can enjoy your day without him. Cut him some slack!