AIBU?
Baby clothes/ gender?
bumblebee39 · 30/10/2018 18:43
To dress my baby in DS's unisex and blue/grey etc. Boys clothes even if DC turns out to be a girl?
I hate waste, am not finding out the gender anyway and could always put a flowery hair band on her or something if the babies a she
Sirzy · 30/10/2018 18:45
I doubt baby will care what it is dressed in as long as it is warm and comfy!
I would skip the flowery hairband though!
Starlight345 · 30/10/2018 18:46
Yanbu but do consider babies don’t tend to look like boys or girls so will it bother if you have a girl and assumed a boy?
StompyDino · 30/10/2018 18:48
I bought lots of unisex clothes and some more boy-ish and put my daughter in them. I don’t think it matters at all, although you do get older people saying girls should be in pink.
bumblebee39 · 30/10/2018 18:51
Not really people think my boy is a girl even when he's wearing all blue and diggers/trains/monsters etc.
I have one of each anyway.
Not sure I could have put a boy in her dresses without cringing a little but all her stuff (accept a few very important things in her baby box) went mouldy in the garage and had to be binned anyway.
All the newborn stuff was mostly unisex anyway as I didn't find out with him either and after that it's mostly blue and white baby grows...
Why did boys get blue anyway? I wear it nearly every day as does DD and my son looks dandy in a pink shirt and chinos 😂
PenguinSaidEverything · 30/10/2018 18:53
It really doesn’t matter! I had DS is pink babygros for a bit and he survived it 
FittonTower · 30/10/2018 18:54
My little boy was dressed in pink for the first few months. I didn't buy any really "girly" stuff for my daughter but i was given a lot. I wasn't gonna buy new stuff for my son. I didn't care if people thought he was a girl tho, some people do get bothered by that.
cariadlet · 30/10/2018 18:54
Babies don't care what they wear. Comfort and practicality are the most important considerations. My sister has 3 boys so many of the first clothes my dd had were boys' clothes.
bumblebee39 · 30/10/2018 18:54
Not sure about the bow or flower either... DD would wear a hairband or hat on occasion when she was little but DS won't have anything on his head, not even a hood 😂 maybe I'll iron on some flowers or something? In all my spare time not
bumblebee39 · 30/10/2018 18:55
I think some of DS's went pink after a "Bart Simpsons red hat" type incident anyway so I may be in luck either way!
VikingVolva · 30/10/2018 19:01
"you do get older people saying girls should be in pink"
Don't make ageist assumptions. And do look at the colours DC were wearing last century. There simply weren't swathes of pink then. It's a 21st century phenomenon.
slanleat · 30/10/2018 19:02
I had my first two fairly close together, and reused many of my son's clothes on my daughter. Up to when she was about 3 or 4. My eldest son often had pink pjs as my friend had passed on a lot from her daughter and I saw no harm in it. I can't see why you wouldn't do it.
AuntieStella · 30/10/2018 19:03
Possible 'older, MNetter here.
Of course you dress and equip DC (not just babies) with items that you would be happy to reuse whatever sex you have next.
After all, it's what we and our parents did 
AssassinatedBeauty · 30/10/2018 19:04
All baby clothes are unisex. It's (some) adults that decide that some clothes aren't for girls and some aren't for boys. Dress your baby in whatever you like, and it really doesn't matter if anyone assumes the sex of your baby. I tend not to bother correcting people when if they do that, because it really doesn't matter.
LRDtheFeministDragon · 30/10/2018 19:15
IME, people don't comment very much with newborns (and many people just put newborns in bog-standard cheapie white babygros for ages; we certainly did as you just wash them all together on a high heat and all the stains come out).
Some people will of course always comment. And more people will comment the older a child is.
But it's not about being 'reasonable' or 'unreasonable'. What are you thinking, that the gender police will swoop down on you?
OTOH, YABU to put a bow on a child's head. They are just weird-looking.
bumblebee39 · 30/10/2018 19:18
I think it bothered me with DC1 with DC2 I'm just like "yeah she is cute" while rolling my eyes internally as yes he is very cute
And possibly a bit too pretty lol
bumblebee39 · 30/10/2018 19:22
I think I might be overthinking things... I do make an effort with DC1 to make her "girly" partly because she's into that, but when my son plays with his sister's old pink buggy or pink flowery handbag I just let him crack on (even when we are out)
I don't actively buy her boyish things or him girly things, but I'm becoming more blasé about the gender stuff as time goes on...
Sometimes I look at pictures of her in her pink pram with her pink clothes on and pink bow in her hair and think WTAF was I thinking? Lol...
steppemum · 30/10/2018 19:26
i used all ds clothes for dd, although we were given a few girlie bits. Newborn stuff is pretty unisex. You can always add a pink cardi if you are bothered.
And even when she was older, eg 18 months, he had some lovely dark green trousers and a matching cardi I had knitted. I had a little pink polo to go under to make it more suitable for dd.
I found boys toddler clothes much easier to adapt for girls, most of his tracksuit bottoms and jeans we used again.
Girls clothes tend to have little bows and pink trims, so harder to adapt for boys.
But soon dd1 expressed a preference for green and dinosaurs/sharks, so we never got near the girls clothes!
Fatted · 30/10/2018 19:34
I kept all my eldests clothes for my youngest and was planning on putting them in them regardless of what I had. As it turns out I had two boys.
Never had this issue with my eldest, but my youngest was obviously quite a pretty baby and he looks like me as well, so he often got mistaken for a girl as a baby even when dressed in blue clothes. So I don't think people assume so much anymore.
APearOfPearsThatsHowIRoll · 30/10/2018 19:35
I had a DS and then a DD. I kept lots of his stuff for her and she wore some of it, but he was a big chunk and she’s very slight, so lots of his joggers/dungarees were ok length-wise but were far too loose (he was 91st centile and she’s 9th, at 18 months old she weighs about as much as he did at 5 months! )
AssassinatedBeauty · 30/10/2018 19:37
Baby boys can wear little bows and pink trim, that doesn't make clothes somehow unsuitable for a boy.
SeeTwoTo · 30/10/2018 19:43
I dressed baby DD in the cast offs of my friends twin boys. There were a lot of cast offs. As a baby DD was always being told how big and clever and strong she was. I can’t say that’s had a negative effect. No one needed to know her sex. Some people freaked upon Learning her name as I should have dressed her as a girl or how would people know!? Nod, shrug, move on.
I don’t think a putting a Dress on a baby is necessarily practical. Although we did have some sleepsuits that were a massive long skirt instead of legs-they we’re good.
steppemum · 30/10/2018 19:45
Baby boys can wear little bows and pink trim, that doesn't make clothes somehow unsuitable for a boy.
you are right of course and it shouldn't matter, but I was talking about toddler clothes and probably wouldn't have put ds into stuff which was obviously girlie. (not really the colour, more the design)
Mind you, aged 3 ds asked me for a twirly dress and I made him a dress with a huge full circle skirt so he could twirl in it.
belleandsnowwhite · 30/10/2018 21:20
My son wore pink and flowery newborn clothes hand downs. He is 3 and wears his sister's old pyjamas as he doesn't care yet and not aware that society has decided some things are for boys and other things for girls.
moredoll · 30/10/2018 21:21
Until the 1930s pink was the boys' colour and blue was for girls, so grey and blue will be fine. Buy some pink or yellow socks if you want to brighten it up.
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