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MentalHealthCrisis · 30/10/2018 16:08
My friend is currently having what I would describe as a mental health crisis.
She text me a message saying 'goodbye' - she has been very low recently due to an abusive ex as well as family problems, financial worries and health issues.
She's just had enough.
I rang her and to my surprise she answered.
She was talking openly about suicide, that she doesn't feel scared or anything. Just peaceful that she'll finally be out of the misery she's in.
I asked her if X (our other close friend) could come round to speak to her and she said a 'goodbye in person would be nice.'
X then rushed round to her home and found her sitting on the couch, with the front door wide open. message redacted by MNHQ
When X asked why it was out she said 'they're coming, they will get me but at least I can get myself first.'
She won't tell X who 'they' are.
She has had a total mental breakdown. She believes someone's coming to get her, she wants to die, she said something about her mind saying it was the right thing to do.
But she's acting normally, scarily calm.
X is obviously not leaving her (she's in the garden smoking at the moment) but I have no idea what to do.
X can't find any crisis team numbers in her house.
X is texting me broken bits of information because she's slightly worried that if friend perceives her as being a danger
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Is 999 the right option? I don't know what the police or ambulance could do?
There's no crime being committed. She's not hurt.
Please anyone with advice? Google is turning up nothing.
HalloweenyMcBooGhoul · 30/10/2018 16:09
Definitely 999 ambulance. They'll know what to do.
siakcaci · 30/10/2018 16:10
Yes get a 999 call in ASAP. Don't be clouded by what they might or might not be able to do, make sure they are given the option to do something.
I hope your friend is ok 
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CuriousaboutSamphire · 30/10/2018 16:10
999 will now exactly what to do.
Don't hesitate, just call them!
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LizzieBennettDarcy · 30/10/2018 16:12
Yes ambulance crews are very experienced at dealing with this.
What an awful situation for you all. Hope your friend sees better days soon 
FissionChips · 30/10/2018 16:12
The police will be able to get her seen by MH professionals.
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Bombardier25966 · 30/10/2018 16:13
Yes, 999 is the correct number. The ambulance may attend with police support, but the police are very good in these circumstances.
Is she under secondary mental health services at the moment? If so, if you Google your area and the mental health trust you'll find a number that can put you through to the duty worker. They deal with crisis situations in working hours. If she's not under them they'll probably tell you to call 999 anyway.
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Butterymuffin · 30/10/2018 16:16
Yes 999. It's an emergency. She is a threat to her own life. They will be able to channel her to mental health services. Don't try to deal with this yourselves, it's too much.
bluetissuepaper · 30/10/2018 16:19
Hope you've managed to get hold of the emergency services, OP. Hugs to you 
StarfishSandwich · 30/10/2018 16:20
I hope your friend gets the support she needs quickly OP
DanielRicciardosSmile · 30/10/2018 16:22
Absolutely 999. I had to do this for a family member in the past, and DH had to do it for a friend. Police and ambulance together may well be needed.
Over50andfab · 30/10/2018 16:22
Your friend should try to listen to anything your friend had to say. Ask if she’s taken anything already and even try to discuss openly if she had any detailed plans of suicide - or if it is more suicide ideation.
Sometimes just listening can help the best.
MentalHealthCrisis · 30/10/2018 16:25
Gosh thank you for all your quick responses.
I've put in the call to the emergency services, message redacted by MNHQ and they are sending police and ambulance.
I wish I could be there but I have a young child so cannot physically support her now.
I'm terrified to be honest, so wouldn't be much use.
I have no idea what to do, she's in such a dark place.
She is such a wonderful friend and mother and she loves her kids so much, so we know how ill she must be to have these thoughts.
I just wish I could help her.
Booboostwo · 30/10/2018 16:26
Yes of course you should call an ambulance. Your friend needs to be kept safe and receive medical help for what sounds like a serious mental health problem.
Booboostwo · 30/10/2018 16:27
I am sorry about the cross post. You did the right thing, your friend will get the help she needs and I hope she feels better soon.
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