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MentalHealthCrisis · 30/10/2018 16:08

My friend is currently having what I would describe as a mental health crisis.

She text me a message saying 'goodbye' - she has been very low recently due to an abusive ex as well as family problems, financial worries and health issues.
She's just had enough.

I rang her and to my surprise she answered.
She was talking openly about suicide, that she doesn't feel scared or anything. Just peaceful that she'll finally be out of the misery she's in.
I asked her if X (our other close friend) could come round to speak to her and she said a 'goodbye in person would be nice.'

X then rushed round to her home and found her sitting on the couch, with the front door wide open. message redacted by MNHQ
When X asked why it was out she said 'they're coming, they will get me but at least I can get myself first.'

She won't tell X who 'they' are.

She has had a total mental breakdown. She believes someone's coming to get her, she wants to die, she said something about her mind saying it was the right thing to do.
But she's acting normally, scarily calm.

X is obviously not leaving her (she's in the garden smoking at the moment) but I have no idea what to do.
X can't find any crisis team numbers in her house.

X is texting me broken bits of information because she's slightly worried that if friend perceives her as being a danger *
message redacted*
Is 999 the right option? I don't know what the police or ambulance could do?
There's no crime being committed. She's not hurt.

Please anyone with advice? Google is turning up nothing.

OP posts:
acivilcontract · 30/10/2018 17:22

Just wanted to reassure you that social services will not remove DC that are being cared for by grandparents, placing with wider family is the first thing that is looked at in these situations.

SheBangsit · 30/10/2018 17:26

You've done the right thing in terms of keeping her alive. Police will probably be there before the ambulance.

SmileEachDay · 30/10/2018 17:42

It’s positive she has made contact before doing anything. It shows a level of control and a desire to be helped.

Hope the police are there.

Uniquack · 30/10/2018 17:59

I can only echo what the others have said. You sound like a very good friend and have absolutely done the right thing. I hope she's OK. Flowers

Hidillyho · 30/10/2018 21:10

HopeMumsnet

What are the rules? I don’t think I said anything that would warrant getting taken down so it would be good to know for future reference

Hidillyho · 30/10/2018 21:11

How is your friend OP?

TheBigFatMermaid · 30/10/2018 21:22

You have done the right thing, got her help when she needed it and I am sure you will continue to support her.

SparklyMagpie · 30/10/2018 21:35

I hope your friend has received help and support how OP

Thank goodness for friends looking out for her like you

Wishing everything is well Flowers

steppemum · 30/10/2018 22:21

Hidilyho as far as I understand it, anything about suicide that has mention of method in it is removed in case it is used by others to copy.
That would fit with what was edited from the OP.

Jent13c · 30/10/2018 22:31

You definitely did the right thing. I called 111 on my ndighbour with schizophrenia as he was off his meds and very manic and they were round within 3 minutes so they would definitely class it as emergency when someone is delusional. Hope shes much better soon, sounds like she has a couple of excellent friends there to support her.

MentalHealthCrisis · 31/10/2018 15:11

Hi all, thank you for your messages.

An update: my dear friend was detained under the mental health act, taken to hospital and then sectioned for her own safety.
She's now in the care of a very capable team (I have been under them myself) so I know they'll do everything they can to get her back on her feet.

Sorry MNHQ, I didn't realise there were rules regarding the content. My apologies if I've offended or triggered anyone; it wasn't my intention I just wanted to give the full picture.

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GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 31/10/2018 15:12

Thank you for your update MHC - glad to hear your friend is being taken care of.

celticecho · 31/10/2018 15:32

You are an amazing friend and I'm really glad she's getting the care and help that she needs. Big hugs! xx

LakieLady · 31/10/2018 16:05

So glad you were able to help. Your friend is really lucky to have a friend like you.

Over50andfab · 31/10/2018 16:22

Thank you for the update OP. It’s wonderful your friend is able to get help now.

Tistheseason17 · 31/10/2018 16:33

Excellent update and I hope your friend gets well soon.

HotChocolateWeather · 31/10/2018 17:03

I hope they can give her the support she needs.

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