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to think this is so strange - present gone missing!

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 10:54

Have name changed but frequent poster.

It was my birthday on Sunday & last week (Tuesday) I saw my best friend very briefly and she gave me my present to open on the day. I opened it on Sunday and she had bought me a nice box of chocolates – lovely, I like chocolates. Anyway I text her to say a generic thank you she text back have a lovely day – all’s well and I good. But I’ve just spoken to her and she didn’t get me chocolates. She bought me a very ‘naice’ candle.

How weird is that. She has absolute no reason to lie – we’ve know each other forever and don’t have ‘expectations’ in the sense that sometimes we spend a lot, sometimes we don’t. I asked if it could have got mixed up with someone else’s present and no, she had no other birthdays going on. The strangest part is the gift bag and wrapping paper were exactly what she had wrapped the candle in – but it was chocolates.

What the hell has happened to the candle? We had a laugh about it but honestly, it’s so weird!!

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NicoAndTheNiners · 30/10/2018 16:11

She must have handed over the candle or would have noticed the difference in weight and shape.

Did someone else get you chocolate and use the same wrapping paper and the candle has got stuck under something. Or is in the recycling bin in a pile of wrapping paper?

BrendasUmbrella · 30/10/2018 16:14

Either the staff member who served her substituted the chocolates and she didn't notice when wrapping because she was in a hurry, or someone at your house made the swap, knowing your friend buys you nice gifts...

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 16:21

Your comments have had me howling. My best friend has come over and we are reading them together.

We have even been down the bins trying to find the chocolate box and the wrapping paper to piece all this together!!!

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SmileEachDay · 30/10/2018 16:26

Careful OP.

Please note my comment about the dead body on the village green.

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 16:27

just to answer a few questions and hopefully get some more clues;

  1. no children in the house - just me, DP and the dog
  2. the wrapping was dodgy (apparently I said that according to DP) and I feel this could be a clue as BFriend is normally a grade a wrapper.
  3. only people in my house from Tuesday to Sunday were the below;
  • aforementioned DP and DDog - neither really appreciate a good candle
  • our 60+ year old male dog walker - 100% certain he doesn't come more than 100 yards from the front door judging by the muddy foot prints and again, not a contender to steal a luxury candle
  • Friends (a couple) who were here on Sunday and helped eat the chocolates. Not out of my sight long enough to make any kind of switch

I don't think any of that helps????

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EduCated · 30/10/2018 16:30

I think someone else gave you the chocolates in the same paper. You put them with the bag, and either you or someone else dropped them into the bag.

The candle teleported to another dimension.

CoffeeAndToffee · 30/10/2018 16:31

Have you checked the doghouse? If the wrapping was really dodgy could it have been the dog wanting to scent his house with a nice candle that did the swap??? Woof!

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 16:33

BFriend has just reminded me of the time she bought me a (dead) pot plant (minus an actual pot) as a birthday present as proof that she wouldn't have said something expensive and then swapped for a cheaper item to save face as she clearly has no shame!! Grin

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SmileEachDay · 30/10/2018 16:35

She’s playing the long game OP.

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 16:36

smileeachday it's a very long game, I've been stuck with her for 16 years!!!!!

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 16:38

Just to clarify, I had no other wrapped presents in the house that could have been confused with the candle. DP bought me a weekend away and my family's presents were opened at my DM's and bought back into the house unwrapped. Friends who were over on my birthday bought wine and flowers.

I just don't understand it.

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YouTheCat · 30/10/2018 16:41

Do you have a parent/pil with a key?

iggleypiggly · 30/10/2018 16:42

Maybe you will get the luxury candle re wrapped from DH on Christmas morning [santa]

RangeRider · 30/10/2018 16:46

Why not send BF up into the loft? She knows what the candle smells like so could tell if it's been transferred up there, and if there is a crazed lunatic sheltering (waiting to murder you & DH in the dead of night) you & DDog can escape run for help while BF teaches him how to wrap neatly!

DanielRicciardosSmile · 30/10/2018 17:01

There's only one explanation. It's clearly the Milk Tray man. He's upgraded to Hotel Chocolat but has developed an insatiable addiction to scented candles. He climbed in through the window of your dressing room to deliver the chocolates, caught scent of the candle and couldn't stop himself from unwrapping and stealing it. However he couldn't leave the discarded paper as this would be a clue! So he wrapped up the chocolates in it (we all know men are messy gift-wrappers). 100% mystery solved.

JeremyCorbynsBeard · 30/10/2018 17:03

I think it was definitely your DH. Do some detective work next time he goes for a bath. I bet he'll be having a lovely soak with a beautiful smelling candle beside him.

SirVixofVixHall · 30/10/2018 17:10

Does bf have a cleaner who could have substituted the chocs ?
This is so strange, that I could almost be convinced that my GHOST 👻 suggestion is the right one.

PolkaDoting · 30/10/2018 17:11

This would drive me CRAZY

Cineraria · 30/10/2018 17:17

aforementioned DP and DDog - neither really appreciate a good candle

I reckon the two of them noticed a small that was offensive/overpowering to their taste and wandered around the house until they'd tracked it down. They then disposed of it and knowing you are a generous sharer of edible presents replaced it with a more pleasing alternative (to DP's taste anyway as he's more likely to be the one with the credit card; Ddog's suggestion of buying you a large marrow bone was thus overruled).

MelanieCheeks · 30/10/2018 17:35

Friend is being forgetful and so writes down lots of reminders during each day. She wrote down "candies" for what she bought, but later on misread it as "candles"

Tentomidnight · 30/10/2018 17:56

Has anyone nominated this amazing thread for classics yet??

Bluntness100 · 30/10/2018 18:06

She's regifted. She really thought it was a candle, and she's passed it onto you, and is now horrified to find out it was chocolate. That's why it's badly wrapped, she didn't wrap it. Whomever gifted it to her did.

The wrapping just before she left and the receipt is bull, as she doesn't want to let you know she's passed someone else's gift onto you,,,

MrsRachel85 · 30/10/2018 18:09

Do you know the MIL who stole the wellies?

Spamfrittersforeveryone · 30/10/2018 18:19

Ether your friend regifted it without checking, or your DP has given it to someone else and rewrapped the chocs. I think it’s that- hence him remembering you saying something about the wrapping you’ve got no recollection of.

RedLife · 30/10/2018 18:19

Has anyone nominated this amazing thread for classics yet??

🤔