Should single women be forced to catch the bouquet at a wedding

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I went to a wedding yesterday for a friend I've known a few years. I am a single mother of a very young baby. Wedding was great until it was time for the bride to throw the bouquet. The dj made a big fuss and joke about it almost heckling single women before asking them to go up.. A few women went up and some chose not to. The dj literally walked round to every table and started asking women to see their rings to prove they are not single and trying to make them get involved. Very uncomfortable and awkward. I was sitting with my baby on my lap and the bride shouted out to me and singled me out of everyone to come up and join them. I just said no.

I felt it was unnecessary and insensitive.. Noone else was singled out by name and everyone can clearly see I'm here with a baby.

AIBU to be annoyed by this or was I just a Spoil sport.

I think you're being a bit OTT personally but each to their own.

YNBU. It’s a bit patronising.

Being single with a baby does not automatically mean there's no partner. It just means you aren't married.

I can see why you are upset because the bride was being unkind and thoughtless - waving the ring and saying you can have what I have' is cruel and quite assumptious

She's a good friend who has been supportive of you. I think you're overreacting. Why do you care what former schoolmates think? Usually it's unmarried people who take part in the bouquet toss so no-one knows your single and tbh probably no-one cares.
Yy the bride was thoughtless but you're deliberately prolonging this and trying to make her feel bad. I don't understand why you would do that to a friend but since you found parts of her wedding cringey, I do wonder how good a friend you are to her.

I've been to a few where the bride threw a single flower from her bouquet as she wanted to keep her bouquet, but at the weddings I've been to the catchers were all volunteers and mainly children.

Was it an Irish wedding? The only times I've been coerced into one have been in Ireland. They were deeply uncomfortable and women of all ages were piling in.

The dj going to tables & you being called by name were imo way ott.

" as being single when I clearly had a baby"

Is this a big issue for you or the people you were with?

Did you think that people would be judging ypu?

I wasn't pro longing anything. I have every right to be upset about this and I've said Its a sensitive subject for me. I tried to give her space but she showed up at my door when I didn't answer my phone.

Its just one of those things.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

I have messaged her now and explained my side of things and said the wedding was lovely etc but was honest about how the bouquet toss made me feel as it clearly had to be addressed. She apologised and basically reiterated what GreenTulips said that its doesn't necessarily mean there is no partner.. You are just unmarried. None the less she did accept that my feelings are my feelings.

I'm going to do something nice for her and the groom to show there are no hard feelings and I appreciate their support etc.

I guess it was just a misunderstanding.