to be flaming angry that my 'friend' has been bad mouthing me and my parenting on the internet?

[goldenwings]

i had an msn conversation with someone who i consider a good friend yesterday. it was about veg and i told her we use frozen. i also said im not sure what a broad bean is. we never had them when i was a child and i dont buy them now.

anyway just clicked onto a site and there she is telling everyone i buy frozen and dont know what a broad bean is. someone else said that if i didnt know what a broad bean was then i cant be feeding my son properly!

this friend has met my son and knows hes healthy and well fed yet totally agreed with this person.
im fuming and shaking that she can take a private conversation and post it on the web and also she has willingly agreed with someone that my son isnt well fed.

AS Kimi said, frozen beats fresh unless its very, very fresh. And broad beans- loads of people dont eat them, to no ill effect. Truly bizarre

Personally I love broad beans - or any sort of pea-type vegetables with the exception of mushy peas and not just because of the effect they can have on you but that's by the by! What a flipping cheek criticising you online and agreeing when someone else disses you. I don't think a lot of people think before they write something 'witty' on the net - they seem to think that they're immune from libel laws or just plain politeness.

I'd be fuming now - as you're a relatively new parent (I assume that you have only one LO at the mo) then it doesn't take much to have your confidence sapped. FWIW, I had much the same discussions with my old flatmates when I was pg re the relative merits of frozen vs fresh veg. My riposte was that my actually eating my frozen veg did far more for me than letting fresh veg sit there and rot (as they did)!!

I do hate it when people get snobby about frozen veg. It's picked, packed and stored much more quickly than fresh. My friend who is a dietitian says they have MORE vits than fresh. Tell her to pod off!

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its not true that they have to (I make my own, I use bicarb to retian- erm- greenness) butthats not to say they dont do it. They just dont have to (Asda sell the frozen peas so you can make your own)

I think it's true about the green dye but I don't know about the rest.

have you heard back from her? do you think she's going to face you?

broad beans = satan's testicles

You've missed NOTHING.

I think you're doing a fab job if you're getting ANY veg down your child My eldest likes vegetables but my youngest will only eat peas and sweetcorn (both frozen! Well... I cook them before he eats them...) - oh and tomato ketchup, does that count? He actually ATE a carrot the other day without spitting it back out and I was INSANELY proud (hasn't repeated the experience yet though).

Just not frozen carrots, they truly ming-a-ding-ding

Rubber duck - my DH wholeheartedly agrees with you. He's an athiest and he still won't eat broad beans.

any veg is good- vits etc can be gotten from most sources, the fibre in veggies and fruit is the unique part iirc. Even a rotten old carrot is better than nowt if it has fibre

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Doodledootoo - that's for SALAD??? I thought it was for hiding chocolate from the kids?

we got broad beans in our veg box this week and I had them last night - first time i've tried them and they were nice.

Sorry about your 'friend' goldenwings - she sounds very two faced. Glad you have had plenty of support here on mn

I always buy frozen as fresh tends to get wasted and apparantly frozen is healthier anyway.

I think the OP is a bit naieve. Why shouldn't someone post a conversation on msn ?
Many of the 'debates' on MN, start from a conversation......
I was out shopping and someone said.......
The broad bean / frozen veg thing is not the issue here.
The fact is, a conversation, started a thread - hello, mumsnett is the same - what do you think your thread is doing, if its not doing the same ?

Go back to msn, do a link to this thread and see how she feels about it