to be flaming angry that my 'friend' has been bad mouthing me and my parenting on the internet?

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i had an msn conversation with someone who i consider a good friend yesterday. it was about veg and i told her we use frozen. i also said im not sure what a broad bean is. we never had them when i was a child and i dont buy them now.

anyway just clicked onto a site and there she is telling everyone i buy frozen and dont know what a broad bean is. someone else said that if i didnt know what a broad bean was then i cant be feeding my son properly!

this friend has met my son and knows hes healthy and well fed yet totally agreed with this person.
im fuming and shaking that she can take a private conversation and post it on the web and also she has willingly agreed with someone that my son isnt well fed.

Your dc is doing better than mine with veg so you sound like you're doing a great job! I have to hide it in other things before he will eat it!

Can understand why you're hurt and upset but try and ignore her - her life must be really empty if she has nothing better to do than bad mouth a good friend to fill her time. Agree with other posters that might be worth posting something to make her look silly though - but hard to get it right and not look like you're having a hissy fit. Perhaps just post the link that frozen veg are just as nutritious as fresh (if not more so) and that if she is so clearly worried about your dc's nutrition perhaps she could tell you to your face rather than posting it on a public forum first?

you need to let her know that is a shit thing to do and some poeple never eat broad beans i last had them at my granny's house as a child, horrible.

and frozen veg is fine.

I agree, post a link to the thread, and we can go on there and support you without her knowing what you've told us

"Broad beans are the food of Satan" ... Yay, let's vote for Doodle to be the next prime minister so she can ban broad beans ...
They are rank and I am gagging at the thought of them

FFS, your DS is only 8 months ... [rolls eyes] - he's probably only chucking it all on the floor anyway ...

sorry to appear stupid and undernurished what is a broad bean??

he throws his toast on the floor lol.
not to sound up myself but hes always been fab with his food and loves his veggies. he absolutly adores mashed swede and carrot and potatos although strangly he hates sprouts lol this is the similar look he gives me when trying to feed him a brussell.

As your friend, she's a hasbean!

I can totally see why you are upset at her disloyalty and stupidity. You both use the same parenting site! She has gor virtual realily and real life muddled up.

You say this has changed you. I can see why. In your shoes there is no way I'd want to trust this friend with any more personal details about my life for her to report and possibly distort on the internet for all to see. It might be a trivial issue in the grand scheme of things, but who's to say she won't do something more serious.

How awful. Frozen can be better fo ryou than fresh as everybody knows so she's also ignorant and there are lots of words I've never heard of. We only know what we've heard about. My 22 year old daughter was laughing that I had never bought humus or whatever it is and I still don't know how to say it.

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well dps home and hes very disappointed in her. i showed him exactly what she posted and hes gone ape. he said it wouldnt be so bad if she had never met our son but she has and knows hes not undernourished. also just because she can afford to buy fresh and eats it before it goes bad doesnt mean she should look down her nose at those who buy frozen.

well im going to cook my frozen veggies now and yes im even gonna feed some to my son. WHIP MY ARSE NOW lol

Tell her to go boil her head with her broad beans.

Personally I love BB but there are other veg I don't eat or prepare.

Bit stupid of her to post that knowing you use the forum

dd, that's the point - it's just chance in life whether you've come across something or not. i remember broad beans although we refused to eat them as children, as my mother grew them on her allotment.

Stwnsh ffa- mmmmmmm

BB mashed with potatoes and smothered in ketchup- yum

Am actually growing my own this year as well

broad beans.....

dh loves them so i buy small tins so he can have them sometimes.

tigermoth - has-bean. ugh.

I grew some broad beans last summer and we were innundated with the things for months. Even the pet rabbits wouldnt touch them after a while. Trust me, nether you or your LO is missing anything !

This isn't the sort of conversation I have with friends on MSN.

(I don't like broad beans either, lol)

I hate broad beans to and swede and marrow therefore my kids havn't had them

they look ok on it though

I dont feed them baked beans either I really hate them

I think people that moan about other peoples parenting skills fo no reason have problems themselves and are usually trying to make themselves feel better about something

I would have her as an ex friend to be honest ompetitive perent in my experince is never very helpful

I love broad beans but certainly don't feel they are essential for a healthy diet. And 99% of the time I buy them frozen not fresh.

Your "friend" sounds like she's not very confident about her own parenting skills and therefore she needs to put down others to make herself look better.

lolol at fornen beans

I know exactly what a broad bean is but that still doesn't mean that I've ever chosen to eat the nasty smelling things ( ... though for people who do like them, blanch them in boiling water for 1 min, let cool, and then you can easily pop the green middles out of the leathery outer skins - which is a strangely satisfying thing to do).

How silly and sad this "friend" must be if she has nothing better to do with her time than criticise someone else's choice of vegetable !

she is being a silly bitch.

tell her you hang your children upside down by their feet from the apple tree and make them drink choclate milk through a straw - might brighten up her dull life if all she can find to chat about is how her friend doesn't know what broad beans are.

Broad beans gave my rabbit the runs.
Just because something's not poisonous doesn't mean you have to eat it. Slugs are probably nutritious.

I saw some broad beans in tesco a little while ago and had to ask dp what they were.

We did have broad beans when I was a kid, but as they were always out of a tin, I didn't recognise the real things.

Your mate's a bit of a twunt, btw.

I ate my first butternut squash yesterday

Funnily enough, I've never had malnutrition and sometimes when I got to the shops they have fruits and vegetables I don't recognise.

Yet I've very highly educated and do you know what, my daughter is well nourished and scrummy!

Your friend is a nitwit. She's probably feeding her kids fruit shoots and sausage rolls

Whatever about broad beans, I do think Xenia should try hummus! It's very yummy!