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A woman rammed me with her trolly today

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mayaknew · 28/10/2018 13:18

I had the dcs to the supermarket this morning doing the food shopping. They were acting up a bit and I was stressed and harassed with them.

I was trying to get 2yo dd into the trolly and must have been blocking the trolly bay. I happened to glance at my side and saw a woman trying to get her trolly back. I said oh sorry and turned to dd to keep trying to get her in the trolly and the woman made a noise I can't even describe as a tut it was more of a growl, then proceeded to walk into the trolly bay regardless of the space she had to do so. It knocked my forwards into dd who was knocked into the trolly.

WIBU to put dd into the trolly whilst still inside the bay? I know i was in her way and I was trying to get dd into the trolly as fast as I could.

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bluestar2 · 28/10/2018 15:53

Wow so you inconvenienced someone for a minute max. People need to get a grip. Ywnbu, perhaps if people were a little less precious about the 60 seconds they losing they could have steadied the trolley to help you get DD in more quickly benefiting you both.
Completely unreasonable behaviour from her. I dispair constantly at this world and why people are so fucking nasty for next to no reason.

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mayaknew · 28/10/2018 15:54

I didn't say anything I just checked it dd was ok. Tbh that the worst thing about the whole thing, I let her do it to me 😔

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Blanchedupetitpois · 28/10/2018 15:54

Yeah you should have moved out of the bay first, but that doesn’t excuse what she did to you!!

itsbritneybiatches · 28/10/2018 16:05

That's exactly why I'd of saw red. She knocked into your child.

What a nasty self important bitch.

I'd of held the trolley for you.

itsbritneybiatches · 28/10/2018 16:07

You prob said nothing out of shock.

Who rams someone. Absolutely no need.

Walkingdeadfangirl · 28/10/2018 16:14

She was probably trying to get the trolley in around you, not everyone is very patient. But you were being unreasonable standing in the bay blocking everyone.

Get you trolley first then deal with your children, that is what parent and toddler parking bays are for.

nocoolnamesleft · 28/10/2018 16:14

You were being unreasonable and annoying. She way overreacted and assaulted you.

SD1978 · 28/10/2018 16:22

I would have been annoyed with you. Sorry implies you know the situation is annoying- and you'll do something to rectify it- not juts blithely continue on with the annoying behaviour. Waiting an undeterminable length of time whilst you try to child wrangle, would give me the irks........HOWEVER ramming you with the trolley is crappy behaviour and unnecessary. A comment regarding move please, at most. An internal eye roll most likely, but would not be getting physical with you.

HeckyPeck · 28/10/2018 16:25

How is anyone defending this?

I’ve been behind elderly people taking a while to sort bags etc a and blocking the way a couple of times. Perhaps I should just growl and ram into them next time.

Jux · 28/10/2018 16:54

You could leave dd in the car while you get the trolley and have the lengthy fight to get her into it over there.

gilmoregal · 28/10/2018 17:10

Pretty surprised people think leaving a child in a car alone whilst going to fetch a trolley is preferable to potentially having to wait 60 seconds for someone else.

For what it's worth, I definitely don't leave my 8 month old in the car when getting a trolley nor will I as he gets older.

As trolley bays are usually two lots of trolleys anyway, not sure I've ever actually inconvenienced anyone, glad to live somewhere where people tend to offer a hand, smile and generally be pleasant to those with young children (midlands)

RedSkyLastNight · 28/10/2018 17:20

In most supermarket car parks you don't generally have to go far to get a trolley.

An 8 month old is an entirely different proposition to a toddler (who might well fight and scream and refuse to cooperate with getting in the trolley seat, as it sounds like OP's toddler did).

If you have a toddler who is a runner, it's far safer to leave your child in the car to take the (probably) less than a minute to get a trolley and come back again, then it is to try to hang on to a lively toddler across a busy car park.

Jux · 28/10/2018 17:32

OK, get reigns so child can't run away while you get trolley out to a place where you're not in the way.

I despair. No wonder some people think that pushchairs take priority over wheelchairs on the buses.

CandyCreeper · 28/10/2018 19:20

I kind of do this! i get the bus and near me they are so busy and people stand in the doors and refuse to move so i can get off at my stop, im guilty of just rolling over their feet! i would ram them if i could tbh. I had a man on the bus the other day sat on the outer seat with his legs conpletely spread into the aisle, he didnt move at all when he seen me, it would have been very tempting to just ram into him!

AfterSchoolWorry · 28/10/2018 19:22

Yanbu.

cuntbridge · 28/10/2018 21:51

Well since it only applies to a "woman waiting" I suppose that's ok then...ffs

HeckyPeck · 28/10/2018 21:57

Presumably you wouldn’t ram someone holding a child hard enough that the child would fall though Candy?!

36degrees · 29/10/2018 09:42

Sounds really horrible. I've been on the receiving end of a violent attack in a supermarket and store security intervened and banned the woman who was throwing products from the shelves at my head. If there's a next time, get security to help and escalate as appropriate, they are usually stationed at the front door.

GruciusMalfoy · 29/10/2018 09:58

YANBU, OP. Too many people are so bloody impatient over minor things. She'd have been waiting for an extremely short time, there was no reason for her to risk hurting someone because she was in a huff.

wrongendofthestick · 29/10/2018 10:00

Online shopping. It's much more civilized.

toomuchtooold · 29/10/2018 10:21

God almighty what is wrong with people?

I think there's a specific breed of arsehole who takes pleasure in making trouble for mothers with young children like this. I don't know if it's because they resent their own mothers, or maybe it's just because they think that because you're nice and gentle to your kids, you're a pushover - I loudly disabused one or two of this notion in the Tesco car park back in the day

toomuchtooold · 29/10/2018 10:25

Tbh that the worst thing about the whole thing, I let her do it to me

Don't blame yourself. You're a nice, normal person, you don't anticipate random acts of violence as you go about your day.

DaysDragonBy · 29/10/2018 10:26

Seriously on what planet is it unreasonable to take a minute in a trolley bay. How have we come to a position where we think it's unacceptable having to wait one minute for the person before us to finish their business before it's our turn?

This.

greyspottedgoose · 29/10/2018 10:45

I'd have slammed it back into her from behind as she walked away, but I'm an arsehole 🤷🏻‍♀️

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 29/10/2018 14:00

You should have put the toddler into it away from the bay but you have admitted that.

She was aggressive and you had apologised and moved aside . YANBU in my opinion.

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