CF on a train

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I was travelling first class on a train recently - not a stealth boast as it was one of those £15 weekend upgrades!

Minding my own business, reading the paper in a lovely empty carriage etc. I was sitting in the seat with extra legroom which is also for wheelchair users. Had my suitcase with me and had my foot up on the suitcase as it was a bit swollen (healed fracture but occasionally swells still).

Naturally, if a person in a wheelchair came along I would move straight away.

At the next stop, a family got in - mum, dad, toddler and baby in a pram. Mum glares through the vestibule door at me and I hear her say loudly “we could have sat there with the pram but some stuck up cow is there reading.” Not sure how reading a broadsheet newspaper and having the audacity to sit in first class makes me stuck up but never mind.

The Train Manager checks their tickets, tells them they should be in standard class if they don’t want to pay to upgrade (she refused) and said he’ll let them stay in the vestibule this time as their stop is coming up.

When they do get off the train, I hear mum again moaning how hard it is to get a pram off the train and that “snooty cow” should have offered l help. She then sticks her fingers up at me through the window and I smile and wave at her as she shots me a nasty look.

WTF? Why would I offer to help (even with the foot) after she was so rude about me?

If they had asked me politely I would have moved to let them park the pram there.

AIBU to buy one of those old sea forts only accessible by boat or helicopter and avoid people?!

That's not cheeky - she didn't actually do anything cheeky - it's just very, very rude.

@dandeliontea123 she had a face of fury! I guess commuting brings the worst out in people!

My first (and only) time in first class was fabulous. It would have made a great thread - once I got the staff to accept I did indeed have a first class ticket, I could hear people whispering about how could I have got in.. How to get me out... Like it was some sort of top secret society and I definitely wasn't on the approved list! Kept me entertained the whole trip!. I wore jeans and t shirt and had the sheer nerve to have luggage! Even the staff were when I went to get in.

I had a great trip though, the irony was I'd been advised to upgrade due to my mental health issues as it would be more relaxing!

I waved at them when I left the train. Ha.

Why is nob jockey offensive?

Its a homophobic slur. Suggest you look at the definition I linked to.

I've managed to traumatise dp further by convincing him she was either masturbating or blasting a bad case of thrush off via the jets.

I don't know what would be a worse addition to the sweat soup - rampant fanny juice or unrestrained fungal fruiting bodies.

Did your DP mention this to the staff?

I think she was so
Ignorant she didn’t realise it was first class and just saw a big space and you sat in it. She was then publicly humiliated when the inspector told her she was in the wrong carriage and got all angry because she was not only irrational and rude but proved wrong too so she deflected her blame on the OP.

Don’t let it bother you, I would have smiled and waved too. She was probably cringing inside.

I hate to derail a thread

Then don't. Use the report button and ask for it to be removed.

As a pushchair owner and regular public transport user I cannot in any way get upset at people being in the priority area.

I normally cheerfully and politely ask if I can get my pushchair in to the priority space (providing the person isn’t in a wheelchair or looks like they need to be there). I wouldn’t be offended if the person refused, altho that has never happened, and people tend to move before I ask anyway.

The woman on the op’s scenario sounds rude and an angry person.

I regularly commute into a big city by train & the number of CFs I see befuddle me!

Last week I got shoved out of the way of the door by a CF (I was waiting to let people off) then when I went to sit in the last empty seat next to the CF he turned around & told me to move so his mate could sit there & continue their conversation!

Really?? I might have very clearly pointed out that I wasn’t going to stand and I am visible pregnant & this chap was sat in the priority disability / pregnancy seat🙄

Why is it these types of reactions only happen in the land of MN?

Katie what did you do?

MathsQuery, you've lived a very sheltered life if you haven't come across this type of behaviour outside MN land.

She sounds like she has a chip on her shoulder and probably had a bad day. I wouldn't give it a second thought OP

Knob jockey isn't offensive

I guess before women jockeys the phrase may have been a homophobic slur. Not sure it is now though ??

I can tell you out of all the gays I know none of us are offended by such a daft term

'Can you ask that your comment be removed please' I think you forgot the question mark? The one that makes it clear you're making a request as opposed to issuing an instruction...

There is a handy 'report' button to top left of each post, it's what you use when you either think someone has broken talk guidelines or when you personally find something offensive?

Personally, I those who deem themselves the thread police and somehow above using the (fairly easy?) 'report' mechanism very irritating so: Can you ask that your comment be removed please?

Becca1990

My first (and only) time in first class was fabulous. It would have made a great thread - once I got the staff to accept I did indeed have a first class ticket, I could hear people whispering about how could I have got in.. How to get me out... Like it was some sort of top secret society and I definitely wasn't on the approved list!

Sorry, but I find this hard to believe. I don't think people bat an eyelid at people in jeans and t-shirts getting on first class?!

Not to be offensive, but you would have to look seriously scruff or be very smelly to get looks, like the tuppence a bag lady from Mary Poppins.

I hate to derail a thread, but the phrase 'nob jockey' is extremely offensive and just so uncalled for.

Can you ask that your comment be removed please @spugzbunny ?

Do your own dirty work, cheeky git.

Aren't we all (lesbians excepted) nob jockeys?

@fuzzywuzzy I just said no then proceeded to ignore him whilst sat in the seat. His friend just said to him ‘Oh I’ll see you later’ and found somewhere to stand.

Being pretty pregnant standing for an hour plus on a train would have been a nightmare & if there had been no seats I would have asked someone in the priority seats if they could possibly move. Haven’t had to do this yet as I try to avoid peak rush hour as much as I can!

I frequently upgrade to long distance first class when on long weekend trains. I doubt I have ever worn anything but jeans. People who worry about what they are wearing on a train !?!

Spiteful. My thoughts exactly. Although I am of course not thinking too closely about this

ACatsNoHelpWithThat - Must be something about that particular make of car as I had a lovely young lady stick her finger up at me as I dared to over take her.

I don’t know why people think it’s acceptable to gesture to people they don’t know because they think they’ve been wronged some how.

YANBU OP