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CF on a train

93 replies

Polarbearflavour · 28/10/2018 11:05

I was travelling first class on a train recently - not a stealth boast as it was one of those £15 weekend upgrades!

Minding my own business, reading the paper in a lovely empty carriage etc. I was sitting in the seat with extra legroom which is also for wheelchair users. Had my suitcase with me and had my foot up on the suitcase as it was a bit swollen (healed fracture but occasionally swells still).

Naturally, if a person in a wheelchair came along I would move straight away.

At the next stop, a family got in - mum, dad, toddler and baby in a pram. Mum glares through the vestibule door at me and I hear her say loudly “we could have sat there with the pram but some stuck up cow is there reading.” Not sure how reading a broadsheet newspaper and having the audacity to sit in first class makes me stuck up but never mind.

The Train Manager checks their tickets, tells them they should be in standard class if they don’t want to pay to upgrade (she refused) and said he’ll let them stay in the vestibule this time as their stop is coming up.

When they do get off the train, I hear mum again moaning how hard it is to get a pram off the train and that “snooty cow” should have offered l help. She then sticks her fingers up at me through the window and I smile and wave at her as she shots me a nasty look.

WTF? Why would I offer to help (even with the foot) after she was so rude about me?

If they had asked me politely I would have moved to let them park the pram there.

Confused

AIBU to buy one of those old sea forts only accessible by boat or helicopter and avoid people?!

OP posts:
jellycat1 · 28/10/2018 11:34

I don't get this. If they didn't have First Class tickets there was no question that they could have sat there anyway. Non issue. She's a nutter.

DishingOutDone · 28/10/2018 11:34

When my DD was very young maybe 18 months old she was in the soft play area in IKEA with my husband, climbing a small slide. I was off to the side looking at something I wanted to buy and I saw another couple with a toddler and they watched from a distance as their son clambered up the small steps to the slide. DH caught DD as she came off the slide and then I watched as their child fell off it a split second later (not hurt). I was too far away to help but they weren't nonetheless they didn't move a muscle!! The mother nudged her husband and motioned towards mine saying "look at that cunt not bothering to help our boy, he's just standing there watching him fall! "

No you daft bitch he's just standing there catching our own child, and you should be standing behind him waiting to catch yours. I can imagine your train family doing that too OP. We're all here for their convenience eh?

Cherries101 · 28/10/2018 11:37

Virgin would have forced her to pay for an upgrade even in the 1st class vestibule so she should count herself lucky.

diddl · 28/10/2018 11:37

How strange!

Presumably the dad-as in father of the child(?) was also, like you Op, above helping with the pram?Wink

BabySharkAteMyHamster · 28/10/2018 11:39

People are weird.

My poor, traumatised dp took ds swimming yeaterday. They went into the jacuzzi room thing and there was a woman sat in there naked with her bikini bottoms on the side. Legs akimbo.

I've managed to traumatise dp further by convincing him she was either masturbating or blasting a bad case of thrush off via the jets. Honestly , some people !!

AjasLipstick · 28/10/2018 11:39

Why would anyone take a pram on a train?

Are you serious?? Because they can't drive or don't have a car and there's not a bus to where they're going.

StorminaBcup · 28/10/2018 11:39

Just think about how miserable their day to day life is though if this is how they go about their business. I hope you gave a royal wave Grin

AjasLipstick · 28/10/2018 11:39

But to OP....yanbu to be annnoyed!

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Polarbearflavour · 28/10/2018 11:40

I couldn’t see the train door but presume the man was carrying the toddler or shopping bags whilst the woman was heaving the pram off? Not sure!

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Cherries101 · 28/10/2018 11:40

@AjasLipstick- I think that poster meant why a pram and not a pushchair / sling. Prams are really difficult to manoevre.

waxy1 · 28/10/2018 11:40

You had a ticket. She’s a fraudster.

Eliza9917 · 28/10/2018 11:41

Why is nob jockey offensive?

Racecardriver · 28/10/2018 11:42

She’s clearly not a regular train traveller. Buggy on a train, classic a mature mistake.

SauvignonBlanche · 28/10/2018 11:42

Well done for waving Grin

EK36 · 28/10/2018 11:48

So she was angry because she couldn't sit in first class and that you didn't help her off?! I think she sounds like an entitled and angry person. You waving back at her two fingered salute was perfect. Some people eh?!

Happypie · 28/10/2018 11:49

I take a pram on the train most days. I don’t expect to be in 1st class when I have not paid for it. However it does irritate me when people who could sit anywhere on the train sit on the flip down wheelchair seats.
When there is no one in a wheelchair on the train, that is the only space I can sit down in with the pram. It seems very inconsiderate to sit there when there are other seats available and you have no pram.

AjasLipstick · 28/10/2018 11:50

I also used to take a pram on the train regularly. Some people don't have any choice.

Can't believe the ignorance! Obviously this woman was a complete weirdo but to all those scoffing at taking a pram on a train....get real! It's not something I'd CHOOSE but at times there was nothing else I could do.

Dandeliontea123 · 28/10/2018 11:51

I would have waved my first class ticket at her as well.

sizzledrizz · 28/10/2018 11:55

I used trains with a baby too, but took a buggy or a sling. I used the same on London tubes without a problem and didn't need help. A pram on a train is just ridiculous

AGirlinLondon · 28/10/2018 11:56

Another chapter in the never ending book ‘People Are Dickheads’ I’m afraid.

The other day I was on a (full) train and had a booked seat and reservation. I am 8.5 months pregnant and look it. The woman sitting in my seat wouldn’t move because ‘I always get this train and people always sit in my seat so I’m not moving for anyone else this time’.

I sat on her table.

YouTheCat · 28/10/2018 11:57

Happy, but the OP wasn't on those flip down seats. She was in a comfy seat in first class.

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Polarbearflavour · 28/10/2018 11:57

Happypie - it wasn’t a fold down seat, it was a single seat marked priority for a wheelchair user. It’s the best seat in first class because of the legroom and I could put my swollen up on my case...

If a wheelchair user had got on I would have moved! Or if I had been asked I would have moved to allow a pram to go there.

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Becca19962014 · 28/10/2018 12:06

happy how do you know they don't need to sit there? I've been berated for sitting on fold down seats many times by people with prams/pushchairs. I've a joint problem which means I cannot bend my knees without a lot of pain. I'd much prefer to sit in an actual seat and be more secure but I've no choice and there's only one seat with extra room on my local train if it's the modern carriage (no first class here).

Dandeliontea123 · 28/10/2018 12:07

AGirlinLondon that is awful! How could it possibly have been ‘her’ seat if she hadn’t paid for it! I am glad you sat on the table.

maddiemookins16mum · 28/10/2018 12:11

She’ll still be pissed off about your smile/wave even now.

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