I saw a thread relating to phone snooping and it made me want to ask about peoples experiences of partners going through their stuff and when enough is enough.
I just want to say I believe phone snooping is wrong but I know a lot of people do it and if someone has a very good reason to think someone is cheating then I can understand why they would feel compelled to try to find evidence.
I think this is excessive though and would like to put some examples and hear other people's feedback and their own experiences;
- going through all the photos on my computer when I'm out, dating back years - grilling me on who people (men) in the photos are.
- accusing me of hiding the fact that a variety of these men are ex boyfriends that I hadn't told him about (none were)
- went though iPhoto (I didn't know my phone photos had all gone into it as I use normal files to store them in) and found a photo of my ex on holiday from a few months before we'd got together. Accused me of "lying by omission" because I hadn't told him I'd been on holiday with my ex before we got together
- went through my paperwork extensively to find a copy of my very old decree absolute to get ExH's full name so he could contact him on Facebook asking for dirt on me
- frequent phone snooping when I was in the shower (open apps all in the wrong order, was visibly disturbed when I'd changed the passcode then immediately gone in the shower to see what the reaction would be)
- correspondence and paperwork (especially medical) moved around
- diary had been looked at (I was suspicious and had placed it in such a way that I could measure to be sure I wasn't being paranoid and it had moved)