To be absolutely gutted I'm not going out tonight

[yellowducky]

Sorry this post is pretty lame but I have nowhere to vent

Had a Halloween party tonight to attend with my friend. Been scheduled for AGES!
I'm a recently separated mother of two who rarely goes "out out" so I was very excited! Childcare arranged, costume on...
Half an hour before my friend was coming to pick me up.. she sends me a text that she doesn't really feel like going anymore :(

Gutted doesn't cover it :( sitting there on my sofa feeling like a total twat with my Halloween costume on with a bag of wine I honestly could of sobbed.

I'm now watching crap TV in my pyjamas still feeling like crying. I won't dare start on the wine as I fear I'd sink three bottles!!
No idea when the next time I get a chance to go out will be :( absolutely GUTTED

That's rubbish. Poor you. Could you go to the cinema or something and make most of having a free evening?

Did you tell her how disappointed you are?

@Mayhemmumma it's really too late to do anything now which is also why it's a pain because I could of done something else if friend had let me know earlier :(

@NotANotMan I don't want to make a fuss because it wouldn't change the situation.. she doesn't have kids so I don't think she really understands the implications of it all

That's really disappointing and shitty of her. 30 minutes notice for a long planned party which just the two of you were going to together. It would have been different if it was a group and she was the only one who dropped out.

I wouldn't be impressed with my friend if she did that to me, very selfish behavior. Did she just say she didn't feel like it?!

oh yellow that really is very shitty. I would let her know, maybe tomorrow though.

Awww you poor thing! Have a good cry, let it out. You’ll feel better!! 💐

Every ☁️ You won’t have a hang over tomorrow 😊

Honestly I think that would really affect a friendship for me. She must have known sooner than that.

Flaky and shitty of her. Unless there was an emergency or she was really ill, that’s a crap way to behave and I’d tell her so. Has she done this before?

Could you not have gone anyway? Would you have known anyone else there? Such a shame. X

She's no friend.

What a let down.

Could you go on your own?

I don't want to make a fuss because it wouldn't change the situation.. she doesn't have kids so I don't think she really understands the implications of it all

You don't have to make a fuss but she should be made to realise how thoughtless she's been.
And unless she's thick it's not hard to understand what you've had to arrange for tonight and how much you'd looked forward to it.
Very unkind.

That's really shit of her! Sorry your night didn't work out

OP, turn over to the amazon prime film Fractured and we can have a disappointing night together.

I'm watching this piece of shite movie with DP out and the wine I'm drinking is so vile I'm convinced it's off but it's open so. Join my night of disappointment 

Posters are rushing to judgement because OP didn't give enough detail. OP, were you relying on your friend for transport? if so, did she know that? would another form of transport have been available? If it was, why on earth didn't you go on your own? If you chose not to go because you would have felt awkward on your own, that's hardly your friend's fault.

Couldn’t you just go alone?

Unless she was your only transport option or the only person you’d know and it’s a private party, your friend probably just assumed you’d be going without her.

Really shitty of your friend

I'd be letting her know you find her behaviour disappointing. Whether she has children or not she should know you just don't let people down like that.

Explain how it’s made you feel on the basis that if she’d let you know earlier you could have arranged something else.

Well I imagine part of the excitement was going with her friend and having fun with her rather than walking in awkwardly alone.
That's crap op, I would have been disappointed. Similar has happened to me before too.

This is a weird one for me, because years ago a very similar thing happened to me.

I saw a friend a week before Halloween, dropped off my costume with her because I was traveling to her for it and it was a PITA on a train. We'd planned a specific night out.

One week later and she suggested we stayed in. I was disappointed, but tried not to show it. Thing is, being there, I could see that she was doing it because of the new arsehole boyfriend she was living with, who was nagging her about costs.

Could anything like that be going on with her?

Unless she was unwell or an emergency had come up that's a really shitty thing to do to someone. I can't stand flaky friends and trust me I know all about them. Selfish that she can go out whenever she likes as she's not limited by children but she knows you would have made arrangements. You should tell her just how let down you feel.

I wouldn't go to a party on my own and I've been in your situation being a single mum where nights out are a massive deal. I'd be really really annoyed with her. Fair enough if she'd had a good reason but because she doesn't feel like it? Crap friend.

Not nice of your friend to let you down, but you could have gone to the party on your own.