To ask if you would buy gifts for this child?

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You ur ex husbands stepchild? Fairly new relationship, 6 months in. They’re talking about getting married, I haven’t met her yet. But I know I will meet her sooner or later. Kids staying at their house on Boxing Day. Me and ex get on OK, I try to be the bigger person and basically forgive and forget( even though some of the stuff he’s put me through is rather unforgivable) I just want us all to get on, and since this child is my DCs stepsister I thought of buying her a gift? She’s 2. Would you do it? Anyone done it?

No i wouldn't.

Maybe give your kids a tin of sweets or biscuits to share on the day? That way it a present directly for them but a small something they can all enjoy?

It would be nice to. None of the children asked for this situation. My stepmum used to take us shopping for a present for my sister (different dad) for her bday & Christmas.

I wouldnt get involved in this tbh. Think about the future. It's something that you will need to continue doing. And if you do so would you feel obligated to be fair as they are getting older. It might get more expensive as well.

It's for your exh to see to. You're basically going to be doing the same thing (arranging his life ) when you font have to anymore.

Maybe give your kids a tin of sweets or biscuits to share on the day? That way it a present directly for them but a small something they can all enjoy?

This is perfect! Thanks! I guess a celebration box will do 

Think about the future. It's something that you will need to continue doing. And if you do so would you feel obligated to be fair as they are getting older. It might get more expensive as well.

Yes I've thought about this, at least if I drop the kids off with a celebration box they won't expect that every year will they?  and it won't come off as weird or over invested, because it's something all the kids can share.

I'd get something small off your daughter because that's the relationship you are nurturing.

I think that’s very nice of you and can’t see a problem with it at all.

The sweets to share is a great suggestion. Kids feel involved. OP not doing any of the (ex)wifework of making the new relationship go smoothly.

And plenty of time to see if this relationship lasts LONGER than six months - next year this step sibling will be older, remember and understand better what the situation is or be gone entirely.