Hello lovely mumsnetters.
First of all: daily mail - FUCK OFF YOU BOLLOCKING BUNCH OF OF WANKBADGERS.
Ahem.
So, I am due to get married in under a month. Unfortunately, we've had a couple of highly stressful events - one concerning a vendor, another more importantly of serious illness in a member of the bridal party who we're desperately worried for. On top on that, my work is very stressful at the moment.
Fiance and I keeping our spirits up though, still looking forward to our wedding, but also just worn out with everything happening and have no idea to do about the following.
So, my dilemma. Our family and friends are very spread out, so we picked a venue with lots of apartments to stay in (very cheap, and we're feeding and boozing everyone all weekend).
Three aunts, on my dad's side - A, B, C. A is very, very, very fussy and faffy - think half an hour explaining every menu option, double checking every sat nav direction on a physical map and interrupting the driver. Basically low level control frak about EVERYTHING. B is much more chilled. I don't know her very well though. C is disabled, and her care is shared by my parents and A/B mostly. Lastly there's my mum. Very far from perfect, various MH issues stemming from abuse that mean she can behave very unusually and irritatingly. I won't pretend it was easy to grow up with her, but she's much improved, is loving her new life as a grandma, and has been very helpful with the wedding.
Aunt A has somehow managed to make more fuss than the vendor or the seriously ill bridal party member. ENDLESSLY fussing about what we provide for Aunt C, even though I specifically selected a suite for them. To be honest, I think some of her requests are more about her than C.
Recently, I informed her by email that she'd have a room with C, with B and her husband, and my parents in the other rooms in the apartment. She replied nicely, then replied again saying that she was embarrassed to have included an email to Aunt B complaining about sharing with my mum, telling me not to worry about it.
Thing is, she didn't. I think she's seeing some weird email thread that shows both, because I've checked and I can't see anything. Now she says she's happy to share with my mum, but I'm not so sure.
My mum finds A stressful, but knowing I do too, she was going to shield me from her faffing. I don't think she deserves to share with someone who bitches behind her back. And I have no idea what to write back to A - who is now trying to call.
What the hell do I do? Leave arrangements as is, as my mum doesn't know? Change them so she has a nicer time? My aunt will make a THING out of that, for sure.
One thing I really, REALLY don't want to do is speak to her. I know it will upset me, and I just feel like I've dealt with enough recently. It feels so unfair when we've planned to be so accommodating and chilled this wedding and she has to make a drama out of things!